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How can I convince my boyfriend that I'm not pregnant?

A few days ago we had a little accident. The condom slipped off but it slipped off after everything was done so it's not anything got inside. After we realized it slipped off, we went to the pharmacy and got the plan b pill. I took that and we went on with our day. He's been freaking out though. I've been trying to assure him that I'm not pregnant. The pill pretty much eliminates all chance of that happening. Then he went on one of those ovulation calenders and we found out that the day we had sex was my most fertile day of the month so now he's freaking out even more. I'm not worried honestly. There's no reason that the pill wouldn't have worked and sine I took it less than 30 minutes after, it would definitely have worked. The sooner you take it, the better it works. So how can I get him to relax? He's like, having an anxiety attack and I need him to calm down.
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  • If he's super freaked-out about it, that's really his problem. You've taken the necessary steps so far and worrying about it isn't going to change anything. The next thing to do is wait for your period to come in. If it does, show it to him. If it doesn't, then proceed with the next option of obtaining a home pregnancy test (a 3-pack would be good) and using it in his presence.

    I personally am pro-life, so I'm not going to advocate abortion as a solution. If he doesn't want the baby, there are people out there who would. Many people my age who pursued their personal interests and waited too long to have kids are now faced with being parentless or adopting someone's child. I would promote this as an alternative, should you be pregnant. Such a gift would mean the world to a childless couple.

    Also, during his freak-outs, is he being abusive to you?

    • No, no. He's not being abusive in any way. He would never do that. If anything, he's being abusive towards himself. He's stressing to the point where he can't eat or sleep. And whenever he brings up abortion I want to cry because there's no way in hell I'd do that. I'd want to keep it. But really, I feel as though he shouldn't even be bringing up these options when I know I'm not pregnant.

  • He doesn't want kids, that's the one of the biggest fears a young guy has. You're calmer than he is because you feel like you understand the way the pill works and you feel that you were fairly safe to begin with but for him until your body does what it normally has to do he's going to wonder if there's not some sort of surprise waiting for him when he least expects it, it's very easy for a guy to relax and a few days later get that news that his world is instantly getting turned upside down.

    When he's finally sure that you're not cooking up a bun in the oven he'll relax... and probably be even more cautious about the condom.

    • He's mentioned before that he didn't want children. Then he's said that he didn't want any anytime soon but then he has made one or two comments like "When I have a son, he's going to play football." He's 25 and I'm 18. In all honesty, I think he's more worried about what my dad would do more than anything because my dad isn't exactly fond of him. He just kind of tolerates him because he knows he means a lot to me.

    • Ahh, of course your age is a factor too, I assumed he was closer in age to you, but yeah an angry father is another big fear.

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  • Get him to read the information about the plan b pill. You took it so soon and if no semen got inside there would have been very little chance of pregnancy anyway. Emergency contraception works in multiple ways to prevent pregnancy. You will get your period soon and be fine.

    If he's that worried about pregnancy, he shouldn't be having sex.

  • Obviously he isn't ready to be a father, that is why he is freaking out. All you can really do is reassure him that everything is and will be fine.

    The only time he will really stop freaking out is when you are on that time of the month.

    If you want to put his mind at ease and not wait until then, take a pregnancy test.

  • Text him, call him or give him time to relax and come around..but then again it would be cool to see how he goes about the situation just thinking you are...that will really show his true colors

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  • If somebody thinks you're a liar, there is very little you can do to change their minds, so you may as well tell a really good lie.

    Tell him you're pregnant. Tell him the test came back positive, and it's probably twins. Act really excited. Tell him you need to go celebrate. He can have a glass of champagne and you will have a glass of grape juice. Then tell him you need to go tell your parents, and they might not be so excited. Your father already thinks he's a sh*thead, and now he's probably going to kick his ass.

    After he absolutely sh*ts himself, tell him to shut the f*** up and believe you. "I'M NOT PREGNANT, SO STOP ASKING!"

    • It's not that he thinks I'm lying, it's just that he's freaking out over a 5% chance that I might be. No matter what I've said to him, he won't listen. At this point he's even talking about an "abortion pill." Like honestly, the way he's freaking out about this is scaring me. I don't want him stressing out over nothing. He's completely looking past the fact that he didn't come in me and I took the plan b pill afterward. He just has it stuck in his mind that I'm pregnant and he won't listen to me

    • Dump the a**hole. Any man who would murder his own unborn child is not a man. He's a coward.

  • You might not want to hear this, but it might help to promise him you would get an abortion if you end up being pregnant this time.

    • Assuming he's pro-choice. If you don't know, maybe you shouldn't bring this up.

    • He's already kind of brought up abortion so I know he's considering ( I think that's the only thing he's considered at this point) but I don't think I could go through with that.

    • I think you're right about the pill; it was just a thought.

  • Wait a few months "See no belly" -she

  • Or you can just take a pregnancy test and when it shows negative, show him. maybe that'll have him be calmer? just a suggestion.

    • but I'm pretty sure doing the pregnancy test is pointless until after the missed period. No point to do it if I don't miss my period and I'm not pregnant.

  • If you forget to take the pill for a day then your chances of pregnancy go up. If you haven't been taking it, it takes around 1-2 weeks to actually kick in. If anything to convince him, take a pregnancy test and show him the results. Make sure to double check because it doesn't always work.

    • There's only one pill to take. You take it once and it's done. I'm not talking about birth control. It's the pill you take for emergency slip ups.

    • Emergency Contraception still has a failure rate. It's best to check to make sure and show him.

    • There's a 5% chance of it not working. I don't feel as though that's worth panicking over.

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