How can I get him to stop pushing for anal?

I've been with my boyfriend for over two years now, and for the past year he will NOT stop asking me to do anal with him! I think we have a pretty satisfying sex life, and I know that it's something that he would like to try, but I have told him NUMEROUS times that I don't want to do it, and no matter how many times I tell him he won't stop asking...
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  • I kind of feel your pain, but from the other side of thes spectrum. I bugged my wife for a long time to try anal and when she finally did she of course didn't like it. Which I'm fine with. I still ask occassionally (like once every few months) and sometimes she lets me, but not often. I know she doesn't enjoy it and it hurts her, so when she does let me do it I treat her very gently and listen to her very carefully to make sure I'm not hurting her anymore than she will tolerate or do anything she isn't willing to do.

    I can't lie, it feels amazing. The last time we did it was on vacation and it was great. I know she was in pain but the overall experience as a whole felt good to her. I was working her whole body and she seemed to not mind the anal so much.

  • ok, I haven't had sex but here all I see as the difference

    vaginal: clean, good for him, good for you, you get off, and he does to, win-win

    anal: poop on d***, goodish for him(depends on guy), bad for you with feeling you have to take a huge crap, he gets off, you dont. kind of win-lose

    • yeah, he makes the argument that for some girls, it feels really good, but that I won't know how it will feel for me until I try it

    • if you want to find out, you could just ease into it, start so slow you need to time-lapse it to see the movement and speed up slowly, if you don't like it or it hurts, you stop i'm not saying you should do it, but if you do end up trying it, go very slow to find out if you like it by what feeling you get from it

    • Hey Virgin, leave the sex talk to the people who have done it. Anal doesn't hurt all women and a lot of women actually enjoy it and can orgasm from it. **Not saying the Question Asker does, just busting AnonymousDude's balls for making blanket statements**

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  • My partner was really pressing me to do it to and I told him only if I get to peg him first. I even when out and bought a fairly inexpensive strap on. Whenever he asks I go pull it out and say "ok buy you first." He has never taken me up on it =).

    • I'd take you up on it.

  • next time he ask you tell him how you feel about like a reallyyyyy long speech it might kill the mood you guys are in but I'm sure he won't ask again if you did that

    • trid that, said he was sorry and he'd never do it again...but he did. XP

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  • Tell him you'll let him give anal if he's willing to receive anal. That'll shut him the f*** up.

    • Not always. Some guys like anal stimulation during intercourse. It increases the intensity of orgasms.

    • That's a stupid argument! She the women so SHE'S THE ONE TO TAKE COCK not him!

  • find a cucumber and have it next to the bed, if he ask for anal while while your having sex jab the cucumber up his bum and ask him how it felt...he should if he's straight tell you how much he hates it and tell him OK well now you know why I don't want to do it

    • hahaha, that would be funny, but I don't wanna break up with him over this :P haha, but thanks for the suggestion :)

    • your welcome lol, I'm just speaking strictly as a man who would really get the point if a girl ever has done that to me. At least you have a last resort solution to your problem if all else fails ha

    • That's so stupid! She's the female so she should be the receiver, period.

  • If you don't allow him to have anal, he'smore likelty to cheat on you! And I actualy would suggest him to do it or maybe force you into it.