How can I get my wife to play with my butt during sex?

[Anonymous]

I wanna have my wife play with my butt during sex. How should I ask my wife or let her know I want it.

[cad012shsu]

I had an ex that was afraid to tell me at first that he wanted to try it. I told him to be open with me because since I am wanting to go into sex therapy, I have heard of everything before and I told him to just be comfortable with me and to tell me what he wanted to experience. So he told me, and he thought I would be weirded out by it, but I understood that with having to do with anal stimulation it helps gives the guy a better orgasm since it's putting pressure against the prostate. If you know your wife, you should already be open minded to her already and just express how to aproach like Zinfidel said. Don't be afraid of thinking you are the only one because you are not. I wish you the best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Just put her hands there. She'll take the hint. Whenever my boyfriend wants me to do something specific he takes charge and asks directly or just puts my hands where he wants them. I'm more than happy to comply, and I bet so will your wife.

Sometimes words are unnecessary. Once she realizes that you like your butt played with during sex I'm sure she'll keep doing it.

[Asker]

Does it turn you on when you play with his butt?

[haleylynn]

Shes your wife..you guys should be open with things like that

dont be scared to tell her. If she really wants to please you, she'll do it.

Or just whenever you guys are going at it, place her hand on your butt, if she takes it off, after a little longer put it back on. She should get the hint.

But I still say just talk to her about it..shes your wife.

[Zinfidel]

Do you mean simply playing with your buttocks, or anal stimulation?

In the case of the former, you could simply take her hand and place it on your rear during sex and see what she does from there. If she doesn't do anything, place it there again a little later.

As for the latter, well, you basically need to talk to her about that. It's something she will need to know you want to try before she is going to do anything, likely.

[Asker]

Yea I'm kinda leaning more toward anal stimulation but I really don't know how to talk to her about it or how shell feel about it

[Zinfidel]

Hm, well, this is definitely a tricky one. I can give you some advice that worked for me, but I was in a relationship with a girl who did this kind of thing on her own just to get a reaction out of me. So no guarantees on this. Anyway, if you are feeling adventurous, you could place her hand on your rear like I suggested earlier, then while her hand is still there, say something along the lines of, "Feel free to explore back there." Basically, something clever that alludes to your request.

[Asker]

Got it..... ill try but I hope she don't think I'm like gay or something

[Zinfidel]

If she seems pensive or asks you about being gay or something, just explain to her that you are only interested in women (and her) and that plenty of guys enjoy a little stimulation back there. If you don't think she's mature enough to handle it, or just won't accept it, then you should weigh whether it's worth asking or not.

[Asker]

True well thanks bro

[Zinfidel]

No prob. I hope it goes well for you.

[l-hedoniste]

Ask.

[lonlehube]

just talk to her about it...play with hers

[heathermarie]

just put her hand there

[zagor]

Shower beforehand