How can I give my boyfriend a great blow job when I have TMJ?

[Anonymous]

I can barely open my jaw wide enough to yawn and he is well-endowed, so deep throating is out of the question. I feel like my lock-jaw is ruining our sex life because his previous girlfriend was more experienced than me and frequently gave him blow jobs. We've been together for almost nine months and I am afraid of our sex life becoming dull. Any suggestions will be helpful, even if they include alternatives to blow jobs.

[mistressmomma]

okay lady in the same boat but married been with him since 2004 so he is well aware of the issue and is very sympathic and understanding about this... I look up different techniques and make sure he is ready so am I there is no trick to help you but there is aid... he knows how to unlock them so I can continue if I am bound... we also have used several different lubes and mints that numb the throat and tongue I recommend Deep throat. it gives you about 10 minutes max to deep throat and not feel pain from your jaw. I also rotate from licking him like a lollipop to tease, the use of hands, as well. to give my jaw a break... the pressure I deal with until I can't then we move to something else... we have been active in our sex life this long with no issues just work through the issues and openly talk and try new things... heads up though if you develop knots on the front side of the ears (where jaw meets) then see doctor asap the swelling can cause bad damage and they may be able to fix your jaw when this happens.

[Anonymous]

The business end of the penis is the cap (glans). It is barely an inch long. Despite p0rn "deep throat" theatrics, the best BJ is really you "nursing" at the clans (think of the "numming" and licking a baby does at the nipple) while stroking vigorously with your hand. You should be able to do this by forming a kiss with your lips and extending your tongue between your teeth. Careful not to bite by accident, the slot is easily bruised. You will know if you have succeeded if he comes. Doing it like this also manages his semen in a way that you will have no gag reflex and can spit if you choose.

Good luck.

[Asker]

Thank you very much. This is something that has been bothering me for a while, so I appreciate it.

[TotalyFdinKansas]

Well... I wouldn't consider a blowjob to be necessary in a relationship. And if he knows about your jaw, which I am assuming he does, he shouldn't get his knickers in a twist.

There are many things you can do to spice up a sex life, anal, new positions, role play, bdsm... the list goes on for quite some damn time. Haha

Have you asked him if there is anything in particular he wants? Does he even want anything new atm?

[Asker]

He does know and if my jaw hurts, he's very understanding. I just feel bad because I can never finish the job... I want to but I can't. We try a lot of new things often, but he almost never asks for anything specifically. He has asked for blowjobs in the past, however, and I know he really enjoys them. I'm just caught in a bit of a bind.

[tt840537]

He probably won't mind then. Guys aren't that heartless. He'll be understanding if you have some condition. The comment than anoym said is pretty true so you can work on the "head" and do a very good there there and perhaps use your tounge for the rest of the area. At least you attempting to do it. He'll give you an A for effort since most girls don't even give BJ's (which really sucks).

[l-hedoniste]

If you know you have TMJ, you probably heard it from a medical professional. Talk it out with them; I *promise* they've heard this problem before, and have an intelligent approach to it.

Don't listen to us bozos.

[Asker]

It's just awkward... My primary doctor is probably about 68 years old and male. It's not exactly a conversation I'd like to have with him.

[l-hedoniste]

Believe me, I sympathize--talking blowjobs with some old dude can't be the most comfortable thing. But there are no other good options here: 1. he's probably the only person you know, and the only one you'll find, who'll know what the hell he's talking about. 2. you need to develop the habit of sharing your sex life with your health professionals, so that they can keep you healthy and safe. 3. if he can't discuss this, or learn how, you--and all his patients--need to find another practice.

[Hartmut]

And remember, doctor-patient confidentiality means that he's sworn to secrecy in regards to discussions relating to your condition.

[Mikey805]

Give him a foot job