How can I shower with my gf?

I really want to shower with my girlfriend but don't know how to ask her. We Haven't been fully naked in front of each other but I think I am ready to. I don't want to have sex (we Haven't really done anything) but I would like the feeling of being close. How can I ask her without being forceful or sounding weird?
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  • It was a little awkward taking a shower with my boyfriend for the first time. That was a long time ago so I don't remember whose idea it was (probably his), but I do remember that it was a little weird at first. We take showers together all the time, now. Showers are very personal, so it makes you feel very close to the person you love when you take a show with them.

    If you don't feel comfortable being on full display right away, try turning the bathroom light off but leaving the door cracked open enough that there's enough light that you can see what you're doing. Your girlfriend would probably be more comfortable with this idea, too. Then, once you guys have done this a few times and feel comfortable with it you can graduate to leaving the lights on.

    Next time she's over try saying something like, "I'm going to take a shower. Wanna join me?" If she seems a little unsure, tell her that the lights can stay off if that will make her more comfortable. If she still says no, then don't ask her again for the time being. Wait and ask her a later time. Maybe the idea wil grow on her.

  • I love showering with my boyfriend. We have our best conversations there, and its really nice to de-stress with someone like that. They're relaxing and the feel of their slippery hands on your body feels amazing, even if it isn't sexual at all. I've never done anything really sexual in the shower, maybe a hand job and making out, but that's it. At first, I thought it was awkward too, because my boyfriend asked me also before we had ever seen each other completely naked. He just said "I'm gonna go take a shower." and I was like "alright.." and then he asked me to go with him. My first reaction was surprised and I immediately said no, but the idea grew on me. If you talk about it, and let her know that it doesn't have to be sexual, and you won't do anything she's not ready for, she'll probably be okay with it. Just mention it like my boyfriend did, and it'll bring up the conversation. You can even mention it as a joke.

    Hope I helped :)

  • I haven't showered with a guy before, though I love the idea. It kinda matters how long you've been going out and how old you are but like the two other answerers, I say just ask her "I'm gonna take a shower, wanna join me?" - which I know would be kinda nerve racking. She's probs either laugh it off or hesitate or just be confused and be like 'what?" But then just explain to her like you did to us - tell her it's not really a sex thing, you just want to be closer to her.

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  • U may have to have sex with her B 4 she agrees to that.but girls like to shower with the guys...

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  • say to her "wanna take a shower with me?" if she says no, you could ask why and see how the land lies from there, or you get in the shower anyway and I reckon she'll ask you on return why you asked her that.

    she'll be thinking you (or both of u) want sex if you get fully naked, it stands to reason.

  • i love showering with a guy! it is so sexy to me.. just ask if she wants to join you in the shower