How can I stop lusting after my ex?

I know this is bad, but I can't get off when I masturbate unless I'm thinking about him. And I've rejected two other guys since I broke up with him because, although they were really nice and cute guys, I just didn't feel anything physical towards them. I only lust after my ex, and if some of you will recommend getting back together with him, that's not a possibility because 1) he refuses to talk to me, and 2) he cheated on me (twice, I forgave him the first time) and so getting back together isn't plausible. How do I get over him and stop lusting so badly for him?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Write down your fantasies somewhere, then bury them. Make a habit of trying to keep yourself from going back to them once they're written. Focus on men who make you feel like your presence in their lives is making a positive difference, and don't worry about whether you're hyper-attracted to them or not. After about four months, you'll be in a stronger position to resist your urges of both masturbation and longing for the ex. You may even begin to think about things you missed in him besides the lust.

    I still miss most of my exes; but not for the desire to take them to bed. I miss the sense of having someone I sympathize with being present for me to cherish. And that never gets old, no matter how much my tastes may change.

  • Perhaps you are attracted to a**holes? The nice guys may not be ugly, but they aren't giving you a vibe that you find attractive? If that's the case, I suggest you take a break from dating period for a while until hopefully you learn how to be attracted to decent looking men who also happen to be good people. Otherwise, it sounds like you'll end up with another guy like your ex who will be a complete bastard.

    • Yeah he gave off this kind of "I'm the sh*t and I know it" aura that I kinda found hot, even though it was arrogant. so yeah there was definitely that "bad boy vibe" that I liked and I think am still yearning for even though I shouldn't

    • I'll bet that there are lots of decent looking guys who are also good men. You just are thinking of them in an asexual fashion. That's a mental block you need to get over. Us guys who are decent aren't asexual. You'd be surprised how "naughty" we are in bed. :)

Most Helpful Girls

  • You need to get a new guy that you are really attracted to and I know its not easy.You feel this way because you have been with him for quite a long time and you are already too comfortable with him.I am sure he isn't the only person who turn you on that much.There must be some guys who can turn you on physically.It just you haven't meet him yet.I understand your feeling.

  • It will just take some time. Continue to masturbate to him in the mean time. You are not doing anyone including yourself any harm.

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  • It's easy. You stop. Why make it so hard? Why bound yourself, reinforcing that you can't get over him?

    Try thinking about him cheating on you, that should sting enough for you to stop...