How can we make penetration easier?

[Anonymous]

I've never had sex and my partner is much more experienced, we are in a long distance relationship and recently he visited my college town. We were getting on very well the first night and the next night we tried to have sex. I wasn't at all turned on at the time but really wanted to please him (I know silly) and we had the house all to ourselves so I thought we could try.We don't see each other often so only in our college towns so we won't have a huge amount of privacy and we don't get to be together often either that's why I thought it would be good to do it at the time. But we really care for each other and like each other and can talk about it comfortably. However he tried penetrating me several times on different positions but it wasn't happening and it was really sore because we kept trying despite the fact I wasn't turned on! (again not the best idea) and I was anxious as well as not turned on! so how can we put this behind us and have good sex? I need to know every single thing I can do to make penetration easier, I realize first time sex may not be great but as long as he can comfortably penetrate me more comfortably I don't mind! any tips at all would be good

[bitesizedonut]

Use a lubricated condom (if you use condoms) and use a water based lubricant on top of it (KY would be the most commonly used brands). That will make penetration much easier if you yourself are not very lubricated. As for positioning. Missionary is the most natural for penetration, especially if you place a pillow under your hips to can't your hips at an upward angle.

Try a little foreplay (make out, oral, clitoral stimulation, massaging one another sensually, kissing up and down each others bodies etc.) to get things started and stay under some warm covers if it is cold and you are feeling exposed. Whatever is causing you to feel nervous/stressed, try to remove yourself from those things as much as possible - these things well help get you naturally lubricated.

I have to put this disclaimer because I wouldn't feel like a responsible adult otherwise, but I think it would be best to wait until you are more comfortable. Your body will help you gauge when you are ready. If your body isn't ready, it may be a good sign that you are not. I find that the best sex there is to have is with your life long partner. I don't know how long you have been together or the dynamics of your relationship or any of that, but if you feel the same way (you want to have sex with your life partner), it may be better to wait until you are married or at the very least engaged. At the very least it sounds like you love him and you understand where your relationship is going and that you are very comfortable in each other - these are all steps in a good direction. :)

Whatever you decide, good luck :)

[bitesizedonut]

*cant your hips upward

[hotbannies]

Lubricated condom.

Or I know weird, but it hurts more if your vagina is dry...

and also if his d***k is dry or what not.

[mickey13]

ever heard of a prequel, you have 2 c that b4 the sequel (excluding star wars)

if your not turned on perhaps you shouldnt let him shove it on in their like ray lewis,

foreplay is important, if your not hot and bothered your cats just gunna reject him like shaq in his prime, so what you have 2 do is want 2 sex him. not please him, sex him, because if you wanna sex him then something he does will eventually turn you on (kissing, cuddling, humping, etc.)

after your turned on you should get wet which should allow him to go ahead and slide on in. if you are for some reason unable to get wet then use lube, if your wet and he can't find it then the dudes as blind as stevie wonder. you should get my points by now so I think ill shut up

laterz and I hope you 2 work it out

[dan_i_am]

Your are very wise: you figured out exactly what the issue is. I'd suggest explaining YOUR situation to your bf; after all it takes two.

To answer your question specifically, there are two things that make penetration easier:

1. Lubrication. Try almond oil, it doesn't dry out, and

2. The right angle and position. For this, you may want to try starting out with you on top, because you can feel the angle and position "things" correctly for entry.

Hope that helps! D.