What you're describing are physical signs of virginity, not virginity. The presence of a hymen has long been used to prove that a woman is pure and untouched by a man. It's mistakenly prized so greatly that hymen restoration surgery exists. Some people pursue surgery to lie to a man, while others just want that roleplay for an anniversary honeymoon.
Virginity is not the presence of a hymen. Virginity is the status of having never had sex. Until then, no matter what you do alone, you will always be a virgin. But neither status is inherently good or bad.
Losing virginity isn't always painful. Some hymens break easily, and some women don't even have one by the time they're adults due to it breaking from athletic activity. Some are like tissue paper, while others are like braided rope.
If you really want to break your hymen, and you don't want a penis to do it, a dildo will work. You won't have any emotional support to help you deal with the pain, if there is any. There are benzocaine-containing numbing agents that can help minimize the pain. Go very slowly and increase the depth a little at a time until you get the results you're after. You can also go to a gynecologist to get some advice, and possibly pursue day-surgery to remove your hymen in the most painless way possible.
As for being 19 and still a virgin, I think the push to lose your virginity is a big mistake for both genders. It is not a magical thing that will change your life when you lose it. What matters is who you lose it with and why. There is some truth to the idea that virgins are gullible, less mature, more naive, and that may be why men value virgins so greatly - that's the impression I got. Treat virginity like you would a first kiss, a first handholding, or a first shared smile.
Of course, all this goes out the window if you value virginity in the biblical sense. You may want to keep your hymen for your wedding night, but your future husband won't know what a hymen feels like if he's also a virgin.
Get a lot of pillows and put a picture of your face on one of the pillows buy some Vaseline and a pickle/cucumber/carrot/squash what ever strikes your fancy and have sex with it *boom* no longer virgin
you cannot lose it to yourself as the definition of losing your virginity requires intercourse which technically requires a penis...
If you are worried about breaking your hymen, odds are it is already gone, especially if you masturbate. You will feel a bit of discomfort when you do it for the first time as you will feel nervous so will be tense... after that you will relax and things will be ok :)
You can't lose it to yourself. Even if you use a dildo and or something, you're not gonna lose it. You lose your virginity when a penis enters your vagina. But sure, you can try to stretch yourself and out and stuff to make it easier when the first time comes.
Okay, sex should NEVER include blood or pain unless all parties agree on it ahead of time.
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You can go fuck yourself.
But seriously you can't lose it to yourself.
Also do you really think the guy will distance himself because you were in pain as bleeding?
You can break your hymen using some sort of object or your fingers. However, you'll still be a virgin until you have sex with another person.
Go to an adult novelty/sex store and find yourself a reasonable size dildo for you to "practice" on.
Technically you can't. But all you can do is get a big toy and use it all the time try different things with it
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