How do I get more aggressive with my boyfriend sexually?

My boyfriend tells me he likes aggressive girls and wants me to be more aggressive. I HATE initiating sex, but I'm willing to do it. After all, it might be fun. The only problem is, it's never a good time. We're either in his room, with his roommate there, or we're in a really public place where neither one of us would actually want to do it. When we were in his room once, I tried making out with him but he didn't seem to understand, or follow my lead. He returned the kiss but didn't continue. And once when we were having sex, I put his hands where I wanted them, etc. But I don't think he saw that as "aggressive". What do I do? For the record, he likes sexual jokes but hates dirty talk. I don't want to do anything that makes me look too serious.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm a very aggressive person in bed. With my boyfriend Nick, the neck and the ears seem to do the trick. Its an aggressive move, but it can be done subtly. If you are in his room with his roommate, lean over to him and not to hard but not to softly bite his neck and lightly bite his ear lobes. It gets something going but nobody else can really see that your doing it. So if you are in the room with his roommate he can look at his friend and ask him to give you guys some alone time. If your in a public place like a resturant or something get close to him and under the table cloth start rubbing the inside of his thigh. It also shows him that you want something to happen latter.

  • Just throw him on the bed, get on top of him and start kissing him. If that is too aggressive, do it nicely. Say something lay down! Once he lays down climb on top of him and start kissing him. If he doesn't take that as a hint- start to stoke on him and rub up his shirt- I'm sure that he will get it then. And as for his roommate- ask his roommate to give you guys a few hrs. If your man want ask him- then maybe you should!

Most Helpful Guy

  • Aggressiveness is more about using someone for your sexual pleasure, which isn't a bad thing if someone is actively volunteering to be used. For you, this could mean laying his dislikes aside ("I don't care if you like dirty talk you ))(*&@, because I'm going to *#&(& the %*%)^ out of you!"), going when he wants you to stop ("I thought you liked teeth"), stopping when he wants you to go ("But it's sticky!"), and going farther than he planned ("That's why it's called 'fisting' baby")

    You'll get the hang of it. Have fun.

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  • Wrestle him, and in him on the bed ;)