How do I initiate going down on him?

Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been going out for like 5 months and I really want to give him a blow job and I can tell he wants one too but I'm not exactly sure how to start it up. I am not really the type of person to be like take your pants off or like hey I wanna give you blow job but I'm not like sure at all how to start it. Any advice? Thanks!
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  • What kind of guy is he? If he's awkward or particularly non-sexual, then I think you may have a more difficult time doing this than you otherwise might. Actually, I think the best way to answer this would be to go through some scenarios so you can choose and adapt the one that is most fitting.

    1. He is shy/awkward/non-sexual and you are in a non-sexual relationship. Don't give him a blowjob. Make out. Later, give him a handjob. Finally, when the time is right, things will start to fall into place.

    2. He is shy/awkward/non-sexual and you are in a sexual relationship. Rather than going through a difficult conversation, start to move down that way while hooking up. Instead of giving him a handjob while sitting next to him, kneel between his legs for the next couple of handjobs. Once you two are used to that, start licking his penis while you are doing it. Eventually, you two will be used to this and you can give him an all out blowjob.

    3. He isn't shy, but he'd probably try to stop you. Let him know that you want to. Either break out of the box and say it, or the next time you two are messing around, casually move in that direction following the steps I outlined in number 2. If he's a nice guy, he'll probably say (and mean) that you don't have to. Let him know that it's okay. Once he's comfortable, he'll probably let you.

    4. He isn't shy and probably won't stop you. In this case, it may only be your own fears that are keeping you back. Resolve one day that you are going to ask him and then don't hold back. It'll feel awkward, but that's part of the fun in sexual encounters. Just say, "I want to try something," and get him out. The awkwardness will pass as soon as he's in your mouth.

    5. He is a sex fiend. In this case, it is definitely just your own mind getting in the way. Either get yourself into a position in which he can take control and lead you to a blowjob, or like I said in number 4, make it your mission. Again, once you get over the awkwardness of initiating it, he'll be squirming and you'll be feeling like a rockstar. or cockstar.

    Well, those are some common scenarios. If your boyfriend doesn't match any of those, then tell me a little bit about him and I'll try to come up with a better (or at least more specific) answer.

    • Thats the longest answer I have ever seen... can I get some of that speed you are on? lol kidding

  • This isn't really that complicated because after all, it's just giving a bj. If you can tell he wants one like you said but hasn't indicated anything, he's probably just shy about the same thing as you are. So since you're pretty sure then there's no sense to be overly shy because you're more than half way there already so there's no way you can mistake. Assuming you're kissing and he at least has his shirt unbuttoned or off, start kissing passionately and then move down so your giving little tongue kisses on his chest and then stomach while your hands are on the side of his hips putting a slight downward pressure on his pants. If he hasn't said anything then that means it ok so far so just keep progressing with his pants until they're down and as long as he's moving around in such a way as to accommodate you, you know everything is going just great so slowly keep going. As soon as it right there use your hands to play with it and just do your thing but slowly at first. If at anytime it appears to you that he's not liking what you're doing just go back off and up slowly and make nothing of it. So he'll never know for sure if you would have gone all the way and this gives both of you a chance to save face. If he says anything when your backing off just say something like, "I was just teasing you to see how far you'd let me go." By the way, you could also wait until HE brings up the subject if you think there's any chance he may think you're acting slutty.

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  • Don't even think of going straight into his pants! It should start with some steamy makin' out. Make out with your clothes on under the covers. When it gets hot enough, insist on taking off his shirt for him and then I can betcha he will return the favour. I'm not sure what turns you on, but for me, just the thought of hot bodies touching is great. It could get you in the mood. If you wanna reach his danger zone, try kissing down his body. Start at the mouth, go down to his neck, belly, and then tease him by kissing around his penis..By the time you know it, you'll be giving him a blow job. Just don't use teeth. They don't like that.

  • hm, if you want to do it, just do it;

    with my ex, while the heat was turned up, id just unbutton his jeans give him that look in the eyes and slide down there. trust me he will enjoy it. my favourite is to spring it on them while they are watching tv or something :P just sit up, unzip and slip it in. hmm.

    or whisper in his ear to take his trousers off or that you want to suck him.

    i know you said your not the type of person to do those things, but those are pretty much the best ways of doing it :P

  • You don't have to go right into giving someone a bj just out of nowhere. It's easy to work up to it. Start slow with the idea. You don't have to just ask him outright to take off his pants. Something you can do is kiss him on his lips and then kiss him on his neck and then lower and lower, but each time you go lower, look at him and see if he wants it or not. Eventually you can take off his pants. Just go slow with it. That way you don't have to talk about it if it's awkward.

  • if your making out on the sofa or bed etc just start kissing his neck and keep kissing all the way down his chest and start to pull down his trousers at the same time. try and keep lookin up at him. if you don't feel confident to give him a bj just start off with a handjob. I know its a lot to remember but I'm sure you will be fine.!

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  • Just follow these steps:

    1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.

    2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.

    3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.

    4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.

    5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.

    6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.

    7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.

    8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.

    9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone. If you REALLY want to learn how to give a blow job then you have to read Jack's Blowjob Lessons ---->
    10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.

    Good luck

  • Real simple here. When you are making out, rub him until he is hard. Then kiss your way down his neck and chest and tummy until you get to his "lil buddy", unzip and go fir it. But, you should wait til you are 18 to do that stuff, stick to kissing for now.

  • Take it Slow

    No one said you have to do that for him , if you really want to give him that just do it on levels make him want you so bad , he Don't have to take off his panties to get really happy , hug each other express to him how much you want him or love him in different way

    hope that I helped you out ;)

  • When your laying on his bed, or your bed; this is what you do. Start kissing him, and then begin unbuttoning his shirt, and continue kissing him on his neck and chest. While you are kissing him; start unzipping his pants. Continue kissing him lower and lower, and when you reach his private area; whip it out and go for it. You can try it standing up and somewhere other then the bedroom, but I thought it would be more comfortable for both of you, if you where somewhere more intimate the first time. Enjoy

  • When you're kissing him start to rub his dick and balls under his pants, then once he's hard (if he's not already) take off his pants. You should be able to take it from here.

  • Honestly I'm a really awkward person.. I usually just say "Do you want me to suck your dick?" ha. Like after we've been making out for a while I mean. Not just randomly ha.

  • pull it out and put it in.

    pretty simple.

    unless he's wearing those magic pants. then just stare at it.

    • Hmm.. where do I get a hold of these magic pants? They sound great. ;)

  • Just go for it! just go down slowly when the opportunity arises.