How do I tell him that I want him without being blunt about it?

I'm kinda shy when it comes to being sexual, but there's this guy, we're friends and we're "talking." And I feel really sexually attracted to him to the point where I just wanna jump him haha. I'm pretty sure that he feels the same way, but we haven't acted on anything except hugging and brushing against each other whenever we're together. But that's it. So how do I hint to him that I kind if want him without outright saying. Whether over text or in person.
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  • I saw in the comments that you want to date him as well as having sex with him. In that case I think you should pursue that first. If you start dating, sex is pretty much guaranteed as well, maybe even on the first date if you want. BUT, if you just go after sex, there is a greater chance that he will want to continue just sex rather than a relationship too. Things could get very complicated and you could end up getting hurt because you don't both fully understand your expectations if you just have sex first... I guess it depends how you would feel if it ended up purely as a sexual thing without dating too.

    The best / sometimes only way to go about these things is to just come out and say it. You could subtly hint that you like him by being extra chatty, wearing revealing tops, or spending more time with him, but he might not notice or he might think you're just being friendly. Alternatively, you could be more obvious with your hints, for example by dancing with him or leaning in for a kiss on a night out, or by trying to hold his hand one time, or something like that. But if you do that, you're basically saying "I like you", so you might as well just say it instead. That way you can think about what you're going to say and phrase it how you want to. Just ask him on a date, or tell him you really enjoy spending time with him and you'd like to get closer to him or something like that.

  • You could always not jump bases and just kiss him...you could text him and let him know your feelings for him. Everyone seems to hug more these days, so I can see for both of you how it can get confusing. Does the hug linger? That might be a clue?! If he is into you then don't worry about your shyness because once a guy has been given the green light he will probably get very enthusiastic. Remember though you are not in a relationship with him so don't make the mistake of letting him think you are easy - don't want to make your current relationship awkward etc

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  • You could be bold and grab his ass when you guys hug, also you could draw out the hug a little longer than usual. Ask him if you are showing too much cleavage at any given point. It gives him permission to look at your breasts and I guarantee his answer will be modest. You could also ask him if they are evenly sized or something of that nature and depending on how he answers you could offer to give him a better look later. It's forward but not too forward. I dunno, I'm just spit-balling some ideas

  • I've got a much better Q; why is it that people always wanna just hint at sh*t instead of just saying it like a mature adult?

    btw, I don't think you're pretty sure he feels the same way cause if you did, you'd have just told him already, instead tho, you're trying to hint at it so that there's less risk of rejection.

  • Next time your with him... tease him a little. If you're sitting together, or kissing...reach over and massage his crotch lightly. If he wants you...he will let you continue...if not..he'll make you stop. Don't tell him you like him...show him.

  • Why don't you want to be straight up about it? That is usually the best way to go about matters like that.

    • right?

    • Because it's not like we're dating or something. Like I said, I'm shy when it comes to these things so I can't just straight up tell him.

    • I know that your shy and don't want to be straight up about it, but it would probably be the best thing to do, in multiple situations in life not just this one. Personally, and possibly the majority of guys prefer bluntness instead of having to guess what the other person is trying to hint at. Do you want to date him or just have sex with him?

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  • kiss him...flirt more