How do I tell my boyfriend how to touch me down there?

So I've been dating my boyfriend for awhile and he's fingered me a few times but it never feels that great because he doesn't touch my clit. I don't know what to do or how to tell him to touch me there. I just want him to do different things but I don't know what to say.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Don't be shy about telling your partner what you'd like. Good communication is key to having a great and pleasurable sex life.

    When he's fingering you, just say, "Will you rub my clit?"

    Or you can bring it up outside of sex, "Next time we fool around, would you mind rubbing my clit? It feels really good for me."

    Some guys aren't very familiar with female anatomy/female pleasure, so he might need you to show him what you like (either by stimulating yourself and letting him watch, or by guiding his hand to where you want it).

    • Thanks!

  • i liked the clit more too so I told him to touch it. it felt so bad I started drying up ha ha

    then I told him to just play around and ill tell him when it feels good. so far its getting better!

    • wait a sec... he was still going as you were writing your answer on gag?

Most Helpful Guys

  • Saying it directly tends to kill the mood, just next time, guide his hand. The only guys who would get offended are asses who really don't care about your sexual pleasure.

    • thumbs down because you're wrong.

    • awww I was blocked, woe is me, how will I ever make it.

    • How is he wrong?

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  • be straight to the point. Tell him, "babe, start rubbing my clit". I bet he's wondering if he's doing it right. No feedback, no progression in getting better.

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  • When he starts fingering you, gently take his hand and show him what you want. Then react so he'll keep doing it. He'll figure it out.

  • Just tell him. He'd appreciate it.

    Move his hand to the right spot and tell him what you need. We are not mind readers, you know.

  • "Touch my clit."

  • just tell him

  • My ex told me what to do and directed my head, think it worked ;)

  • Show him first, where is the clitoris.Then move his hand on yours clitoris. That's how I learned. I was seventeen.

  • It will be offensive because things are supposed to go into to vagina clit you can rub yourself. Don't tell him. I know I would be offended if my girlfriend said that.

    • ... you're saying ...you would be offended if your girlfriend told you what got her off? this answer makes no sense

    • I agree...you make no sense

    • well for me personally I would find it offensive maybe its just because I'm not a p**** like some other guys who listen to everything their woman has to say.