How do women become promiscuous? having multiple sexual partners?

is it due to some kind of bad experience or they just develop this tendency on their own due to hormones, nymphomania triggering sexual desire?
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  • I have sex because I have a high sex drive and I enjoy having sex. I haven't had any bad experiences.

    People come up with a lot of reasons why some women are promiscuous:

    - she wants male attention

    - she has low self-esteem

    - she was poor self-control

    - she has daddy issues

    - some bad experience

    - she has no self-respect

    - etc.

    While this may be true for *some* women, it is not true for all women, and certainly not true for me.

    Personally, I see sex as a fun and pleasurable activity that does not have to be limited to just one person in your life time, or only in long-term relationships with someone you love. When I have sex with someone, we have a good time. It also provides me the opportunity to experience different things, learn more about sex, and learn more about myself as a sexual being. I still see sex as meaningful, but the meaning I attach to it is different depending on the context (i.e. sex with someone I love has a much different meaning to me than sex with someone just for fun and pleasure).

    To give a little more insight on why I hold the views I do. I think it's up to each person to decide what the meaning of life is for themselves. I'm an atheist. I believe that when we die, that's it. Life is short, so I believe that we should live the most fulfilling life that we can. To me, that means learning and experiencing as much as I can while I'm alive. To me, that applies to every aspect of life, including sex. If I have the opportunity to share an enjoyable sexual experience with someone, or to try something new sexually, etc. Why not? (Note: this doesn't mean that I have sex with anyone and everyone who is willing to have sex with me. It doesn't mean that I don't have standards. It just means that I'm more open to sex in situations that other people might not be, i.e. having sex with someone I'm not in a romantic relationship with).

    There's a book called The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera about a man who is a womanizer. One passage reads:

    "What attracted him to them? Isn’t making love merely an eternal repetition of the same? Not at all. There is always the small part that is unimaginable. When he saw a woman in her clothes, he could naturally imagine more or less what she would look like naked, but between the approximation of the idea and the precision of reality there was a small gap of the unimaginable, and it was this hiatus that gave him no rest. And then, the pursuit of the unimaginable does not stop with the revelations of nudity; it goes much further: How would she behave while undressing? What would she say when he made love to her? How would her sighs sound? How would her face distort at the moment of orgasm?"

    I like to have sex with different people because I like to experience the unimaginable. I like to experience the little things that make having sex with someone unique (and the big things too). And sex is a shared experience that is beneficial to both myself and the person I have sex with.

    • I don't see any reason to prevent myself from having these experiences. I've yet to hear a reason that I agree with. (And no, this doesn't mean I "lack self-control"---in order to lack self-control, you need to feel a reason to prevent or limit yourself from doing something, and then not be able to stop yourself. I'm not unable to control my sexual behavior s, I just don't see a reason to limit myself as severely as some others do).

    • To note, I place high importance in engaging in sex ethically. To me, this means things like: - engaging in safe sex - being honest with my partners; not using them or leading them on to believe I want something more with them - not cheating on my partner if I'm in a monogamous relationship (and contrary to popular belief, I'm fully capable of having a monogamous relationship and more than happy to be in one with the right person) - treating my partners with dignity and respect

    • - treating myself with dignity and respect (not having sex with someone if it would be harmful to me (emotionally or physically), not having sex for any other reason than that I genuinely want to (i.e. not for attention, to try to make someone love me, to please someone even though I don't really want to, etc.)). I'm not a cheater, I don't use people, I don't have STDs, I've never had an unintended pregnancy, I don't have low self-esteem/self-worth. I don't "lack morals". I'm just a girl who

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  • Most of the women I know who are extremely promiscuous are actually not that horny. They have sex to try to get male attention and affection. Actually, most of the guys I know who sleep around a whole lot also have sex when they aren't even feeling it because their feelings of validation are tied up in their ability to seduce women. Extremely promiscuous people tend to have emotional damage -- male or female.

    Slightly promiscuous people likely just have a high sex drive and aversion to relationships, for whatever reason.

    • Slightly promiscuous people likely just have a high sex drive and aversion to relationships, for whatever reason. care to list those reasons?

    • Dislike of commitment/responsibility Feelings of being entitled to what they want without caring about others Cynical about romance Emotionally lazy Etc...

    • are most women like that nowadays?

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  • Obviously we also want sex, but on the other hand I think a lot of women are sleeping with guys very early because they think they have no other option. Not too many guys are willing to wait a couple of months or even just weeks. And if you don't sleep with you have to be afraid he'll leave you. Or they have random sex because everyone does it and again think that guys expect. Sometimes even that he will fall in love with her after they've had sex. This may not always be true, but it is how some women feel

Most Helpful Guys

  • Uh.. MOST people do it by f***ing when they want to f***, and then years later looking back on themselves and saying 'Oh lord, I'm a sexual deviant!'. For a lot of people it's an intellectual decision, 'I desire sex, thus I shall have it' and then they go out and manifest, and some people, as you say, nymphomania, engage in it habitually without joy, and usually don't want to.

    • a lot of people it's an intellectual decision, 'I desire sex, thus I shall have it' what causes them to think about making this decision? because all women desire sex. but what makes them give up their inhibitions so much?

    • Different people have different wants. Some people desire sex, but desire it in very specific circumstances - in a relationship, after marriage, etc. - and some people want it as is, just sex, it's not important to them when. Some people think it's wrong to do such things - these people don't. If you want to get into the environmental and personal reasons WHY these people have arrived at that decision, we'd be here for years, man. Why does anyone make a decision?

  • they start at 15 and don't put much thought into it till their mid twenties and by then they been ho'in for a while now

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  • The same reason guys are promiscuous: they have sex drives and they don't want to settle down/haven't found someone they want to settle down with. Isn't that kind of obvious?

    • then how come there are many women compared to guys who aren't so promiscuous? why is that difference there?

    • Because it's not socially accepted for women to be promiscuous and women are afraid to be judged.

    • so what about the women that are promiscuous anyways? what causes them to give up their inhibitions?

  • By having sex, I would say

  • We just love having sex, that simple and don't hold sex to the standards many others do.

  • it can be due to a bad experience. I hear that some girls after being raped or feeling pressured into sex will often desire to sleep around and have meaningless sex to feel cured.

  • Sleeping around the whole time.

  • Women also have sex hormones. As for being promiscuous, they do so because they inflamed or just not landing the right guys.

    • so what exactly causes them to be inflamed?

    • If you mean the sex hormones, it is mostly estrogen, which is at it's peek around ovulation. Progesterone is also another feel good sex hormone.