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How do you feel about circumcision?
I am having a baby boy in less than a month and have been seeing a lot of pros and cons to circumcision. Some people say it is mutilation, some people say it is needed so they do not get yeast infections or other problems that could arise from bad hygiene caused by being uncircumcised. Men, if you are circumcised, are you happy about it, or did you wish you had been able to make the decision yourself as an adult? If you aren't circumcised, do you wish you had been? Women, if you had boys, did you and why? If you haven't had any boys yet, do you plan on it? Why and why not?
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May I please add, I am looking for opinions, views, etc., not to be judged, please don't refer to me as a bad parent for asking this question, if you feel strongly about one side, give me the reasons, don't try to make me feel bad to choose what YOU want me to.
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12 42It's a tradition in my country plus some say it's unhygienic if the guy is not circumcised.
What country is that country?
I'm from the Philippines. It's like a rite of passage because most boys here are circumcised when they reach ages 12-13.
Well, I stand by the idea that doing anything for merely tradition is stupid if they don't know the reason behind it, while it's pretty much proven that nowadays the "benefits" of circumcision converges to zero.
I was circumcised about 3 years ago because when I wasn't the fluid and discharge or the urine that leaked after peeing stays inside the gap and could cause fungus, but honestly it is up to you to get him circumcised or not.
... that's why I use toilet paper after peeing and also shower regularly every 1 or 2 days
You shower every 1-2 days? (mesonfielde) I consider showering regularly at least once a day... Every day.
Lol...
Leave it on! Cleaning under your foreskin takes literally seconds, my parents taught me from an early age the importance of doing it and I have NEVER had an infection or 'bad hygiene'. Seriously, it's no different from teaching your kid to wipe their ass or brush their teeth.
Please leave it on. I am so glad mine did. Your son will have a much happier sexual existence with it.
if i have a boy hell be circumcised
Why would you slice off bits of your son's body, knowing that they will be a victim of your decision for the rest of their entire lives?
there is no victim, its nothing serious..
There IS a victim, you permanently alter their body and chop off a part of their genitals. The fact that you don't even realize the harm you cause is sickening.
jeeze with the downvotes, now i know why many of you are single
Eh, I'm pretty sure that absolute disrespect towards the bodily integrity of others is a black mark on your evaluation for capability of empathy, emotional maturity, and capability to understand other people in general.
you're a fucking moron, stop combating my opinion
I'm perfectly fine with my circumcised penis.
It's really up to you.
I'm circumcised and if I ever have a son he will be too.
... https://www.circumstitions.com/Images/looklike.gif
Just in the news today.
www.latimes.com/.../...delines-20141202-story.html
It takes 10 seconds to clean underneath the skin, and it doesn't even get to the point of dirtiness unless I haven't showered in several days.
It's not your choice to make. Just as you got to keep your full genitals, so should he.
Well, the choice IS mine, actually. Which is why I am asking how people feel about it, I want to make the right decision.
The choice should not even be yours no more than it is mines how your body looks. There is no decision to make, simply avoid being a shitty parent, it isn't difficult in this issue.
So trying to figure out what is best for him and that possibly being getting him circumcised, makes me a shitty parent? Funny story.. My grandfather, about this time last year, had to get a circumcision, and was laid up in bed for about a week, I'm not saying what his problem was on here, but it was something that could have been avoided had he been circumcised. Granted, this isn't something that is gurunteed to happen to every boy, it's a possibility. Which is why I'm asking how people feel about it, I never asked to be judged. Maybe this would be easier, sir, if the choice wasn't mine, but guess what, after I carry this baby boy for nine months and he joins us here in the real world, one of the first questions that will be asked of me is if I, me, his mother, want him circumcised. And guess what, his father DOES, so just because you think you are right, does not mean you are. Like I said, I asked for people's views on it, not to be judged. Thanks.
Good point. Amputate his arms while you're at it. can't get elbow arthritis if you haven't got them. No need for those legs either, they just reduce one's lifespan as has been statistically proven. Get over carrying a kid for 9 months woman, its his body not yours. Dont be a shitty parent.
I think you are a bit of an idiot. I am asking for people's advice and you are being a complete jerk. Go troll someone else.
People like you should never reproduce. It makes me sick that there actually exists people that think they have the right to do whatever they want to anyone's body. I hope one day someone does something similar to you since you are so okay with mutilating people for fun.
Seriously, I'm sorry you feel that way over me trying to figure out what is best for him. The thing is, I never disagreed with your opinion, just the way you phrased it and how you are talking to me. I'm going against my fiance by even looking at other options and facts on this subject because he is so intent on getting it done, but you are saying I shouldn't reproduce. I guess next time I'll just do what he wants instead of taking the chance of coming across someone like you that apparently is okay with making an already emotional pregnant woman feel that much worse. I'm not taking this decision lightly, and I thought I was doing the right thing by asking random people for their opinions, but in your eyes, I guess not. Again, thank you for succeeding in making me feel like shit.
Well technically you should redirect his statement towards your husband then. He's the one who claims it is perfectly okay to chop parts off of other people, apparently. :P
He is entitled to his opinion. At least he isn't putting me down for considering NOT getting him circumcised. You have been assuming this whole time that I am going to do it, calling me a bad parent and saying I shouldn't reproduce. Honestly, that hurts, I want more than anything in the world to be a good mother and all I did was ask for opinions and how men feel about being circumcised or not circumcised. I know boys that are mad at their parents for choosing against it, there are so many different views out there and all I wanted to do was hear them. Not get slammed. And maybe my fiance has his reasons to want it done, I just don't understand why you men or boys are getting so mad that I wanted to hear how men felt about it, I never ever once said I am pro circumcision but this guy jumps to telling me I shouldn't reproduce? Do you have any idea how much that hurts when I am trying to do the right thing?
Question... Have you ever been laid and do you have any children? Or even a woman?
It's disgusting. I think it is completely disgraceful that parents, agree to mutilating their baby son like that. If you really want his dick dissected, then at least wait until he is old enough to decide for himself. Parents have no right to make such drastic "modifications" to their childrens bodies, whitouts the childs consent.
this!
I've done it when i was seven years old... the healing process is long... like removing the plaster i quite painful where the dried blood and skin fused upon healing
Do you wish it had been done when you were a newborn?
yeah but... i dont know maybe its more painful to remove the plaster in newborn... in our culture those who circumsized before reaching ten is often teased as grown up
I think it says a lot about human beings that the vast majority of us seem to still not see the problem with the old "I won't remember it if it's done as a baby, so it's better that way". I give up all hope in humanity when I hear people even hinting at this. So, it's ok to torture a baby (cannot give baby general anesthesia nor pills for pain after the fact) if he doesn't remember it? Are we this stupid? Did the pains and sufferings of those who lived before you no longer matter because they are now dead? If you fall and hit your head, lose your memory, and start a new life; does that mean the experiences you had before didn't happen?
Actually, I can't see real pros for circumcision. I'm uncut and, as most uncut people, I've never had any hygiene problem as well as any infections or sexual problems. If your son will care about his hygiene his penis will be fine, with or without prepuce; if he won't then his hygiene will be bad in both cases.
It's not the same thing having phymosis and having a prepuce, yes phymosis may occur in some uncut people and if this eventuality will happen, then your son might need a circumcision not before; however having phymosis is not the rule at all.
Chances of having a penile cancer are very low anyway, and to have it in the prepuce is even more difficult, of course circumcised people can't even have that far possibility since they don't have part of the prepuce, but they could have it in the glans indeed, should we cut out the glans too to prevent the possibility to have a cancer there?
I think the question (as I guess, there's no religion or tradition convinciment behind) is all about if we think we have the right to do something on others body without their own consent. I personally call it violence, and violence is always unjustified.
You know, i know circumcision is not that big deal per se (even if it actually is an unjustyfied mutilation) but it is a sign about what consideration you have of your son. He is not your thing and a parent shouldn't feel the right to touch his sons, never.
Of course, I didn't say anything about sexual stuff cause that is a thing that, I assume, doesn't have to interest to a mother since it's just a matter of nowadays fashion and personal taste.
It's not about fashion or whatever to me, I've got friends who's parents didn't get theirs done and they resent them for it. Plus my grandfather got his done about two years ago for medical reasons that could have been avoided had he had it done. I just want my son to be happy.
Why do your friends resent their parents for it? They can do circumcision if they want it now. Not being circumcised is not necessary a permanent state. Just to be clear, I'm not agaist circumcision for the sake of it, anybody can do whatever they want on themselve. But the point here is that you son's body is not yours. If someone wants a tattoo it's ok for me, but imposing a tattoo on someone else body without his consent is violence. A kid needs protection right in that way since he'is still not able to defend his rights, and that's what a parent is supposed to do for him until he'll need it: to protect him but not to choose for him, since in this last case the parent would be the one who violates his rights. I guess, your son will be glad to know that his parents rispected him. Sincerely, I think forced circumcision should be illegal as anything else which is force. It is still not only because of its strong relations with religious and traditional beliefs.
Anti-circumcision unless needed for medical reasons. I have a tight foreskin and am considering circumcision but it will be a last resort. I'm mostly worried about the loss of sensation.
Good for you. I'm currently trying to restore my foreskin, and if I can regrow 15 square inches of skin, I'm sure you can grow a less tight foreskin.
Disgusting and should be illegal.
Why is it disgusting?
How would you like to have a body part removed against your will? If your kid wants to get circumcised let him make that decision for himself once he's an adult. Why the hell would you even want to mutilate his penis like that? It's completely unnecessary and has been shown to decrease sensitivity in the penis by up to 50%. I'm sure he'll be made up to find that you ruined his sex life not 5 minutes before he came into this world.
I am against it
I am not circumcised and I am so happy that this horrible präzise is not common in Europe
My mom didn't want to have to clean out the smegma so she got me circumcised. I am glad she did too.
I think the latest at which that might have to be done is at the age of 5, because after that you can do it on your own. I do not remember before the age of 5 so I'm not sure if she had to, I think she made me do it for myself, haha.
You should let him make the decision when he's older. If he's cut and he doesn't like it then you can't change it. It's his body, it should be his decision. :)
you can't do it when they r older it would be excruciating.
Actually sushi, my dad got his done about two years ago and while he had to go through that pain, and basically lay in bed for a week, it is possible. I would hate for him to be mad at me later in life though for making him have to deal with that as an adult. That's why I'm so confused on what to do. His dad thinks we should.
If you both feel strongly about getting him circumcised then do it. The only main downside with circumcision is that it decreases sensitivity in the penis and if it isn't done properly then it could damage the penis. If you're going to do it, do it right. :D
My fiance feels strongly about him getting it done, but I am still weighing both sides, I don't want to regret choosing this for him later on in life.
@Sushi4me sure you can, all you need is dedication. it's just as "excruciating" as an infant, why do people that is negligible?
I am uncircumcised and in the U. S. that is a strange thing i guess.
But its not anything crazy i mean washing it is no problem just teach him good hygiene and everything will be fine and if you decide to circumcise him good too! now he doesn't have to worry about explaining to American girls lol.
i still have everything in place as most europeans do. Come one let's be serious, if you wash, you don't get dirty, you don't get infections. Never had a problem because of my foreskin. And it actually has lots of sensitive spots and nervous endings and feels good.
Plus from what i heard/know it also helps your partner during sex: it gives an extra feeling to the girl and it also helps penetration and makes it easier.
Never looked at p*rn and said to myself, man i wish i never had it. Glad i have it.
Thank you for your opinion with no judgement, it's greatly appreciated!
It looks better and stays cleaner. Ignore the weirdoes here. I am happy I had it done and would do it for my boy. Some people are so dramatic and might be because they know they have an ugly dick.
Or because they have a normal looking dick and can't understand why you'd cut bits off it for absolutely no reason.
reason 1-looks better reason 2 -stays cleaner reason 3-I love it
Oh and I love the fucking freak with 5 accounts. Go get circumcised if you hate your dick that much.
Reason 1:that's what It are used to so of course you prefer it Reason 2:take a shower Reason 3: good for you, but don't force it on others.
Freak Freak Freak Stop hating your penis
My penis is amazing.
So why do you hate it so much
... I don't.
Ok sure. You dedicate half your life to this subject, pretend to be circumcised, open numerous accounts, ask baby tattoo questions and ask 50 or more circumcision questions on here. Sure
I don't open multiple accounts. I have only one more extra account and I haven't logged on it in 3 months. And I don't pretend to be circumcised, because I'm not.
Lol ok sure nutbag
If you have to get your foreskin cut off, in order to keep your dick clean, then you really are a moron.. It looks better, but all dicks can look like that, when erected or if the foreskin is drawn back. Because of the head constant rubbing and touching underwear/pants, you lose some sensation and the head won't be as sensitive, thus you lose some pleasure when having sex.
Either you have a dick or you are one of multiple accounts. Odd how a woman knows what a dick feels like. Go fuck off and stop commenting freak
Well it's true. If "cleanness" is your best argument, you honestly should have all your teeth removed - keeping THOSE clean is way more complicated.
Wow so very clever moron. Now of course you are obsessed and of course you posed questions pretending to be circumcised and yes of course you have multiple account but of course you won't stop commenting on my answer cuz you are a fuckin freak. I certainly could help your freaky ugly dicked ass to remove your teeth and would do so happily.
... good for you
Honestly it does seem like half the men on here hate their penises which is why they are all so dang defensive...
Exactly. If they loved their dicks so much (and it's really mainly one guy that has multiple accounts) they. he would not make a big deal out of it.
Exactly! I hate when people shove their opinions down people's throats... Which this guy is doing. I think he has more issues than he realizes... Getting so worked up over a question. There has to be something behind that...
The obsessed dude that is always commenting has asked about 30 questions about "mutilation" :P You don't have to @mention is name he scans EVERY one of these questions.
If you saw his old pic of him on his profile you would understand :P
I think a circumsized penis just looks better.
that doesn't really justify slicing off parts off of someone else's body, does it? it's not like *they* at the time think it looks better for them
@Mesonfielde Actually the baby's opinion is the least of the worry. He's a baby, he won't care. And when he gets older, he'll watch p*rn and see every single guy circumsized and actually feel better that he was lucky enough to be circumsized. It's the norm, and most girls find it more pleasing to the eye.
@Mesonfielde
So what if he grows up, reads about the functions of foreskin and desensitivization, realizes that something was taken from him without his consent and will hate his parents for being such douchebags that they made a permanent alteration to his body before he could fight back or make his own decision? Some people do take that stance over time. Just because it's common in p*rn , doesn't mean it's justified. It's plastic surgery with near-zero tangible benefits, whatever benefits it has can be achieved in other less drastic ways..
@Mesonfielde The probability of what you mentioned happening to a boy is extremely low. Most of my friends and I are all circumsized and none of us hate our parents or desire to have foreskin. As for desensitivisation, sex is awesome and so is jacking off. I don't think I'm missing out on anything and if I am, oh well, I don't care. Yes, my parents made this decision without my consent. Do I care? Not at all. On the contrary, I'm thankful. Circumsized penises look better.
"Look better" is just a possible perspective, I think they look silly and mutilated. The probably is not as low as you think.
@Mesonfielde Yes, you are correct, it is subjective. However, back to your point, I still think the probability is very VERY low. I have never heard of a guy hating his parents for cutting of their foreskin. Ever. Almost all of my friends are circumsized and happy. In fact the ones that aren't circumsized actually wish they were.
Well technically, with all the false propaganda, I am not that surprised. And who in their right mind would want to realize that they were permanently scarred and mutilated?
www.mothering.com/.../...cumcised-post-here-2.html
@Mesonfielde LOL that website looks like it's full of people with mental issues. Honestly. i personally think it's safe to say that 999/1000 men don't care that they are circumsized. Of course the way you word it, "permanently scarred and mutilated" sounds horrible, but in reality it's just a little piece of unnecessary skin being removed. And please don't compare it to having a finger or toe removed, it's of no comparison. @Mesonfielde
""little piece of unnecessary""
Not exactly true. It serves the purpose of protection and moisturization.
Also, cutting it off can mess up your sex life pretty much completely www.reddit.com/.../ckdkq54
@mesonfielde I have never had any problems with my dick, so I find it unnecessary. As for the next part, that is a ridiculous claim. sex feels amazing to me as I'm sure it does to any male circumsized or not. As for masturbation, I have no problem doing it. I'm starting to think those are just trolls.
Even if you check the question, some are like "uh, it's obvious" and the other is like "I get burns without vaseline". Quite obviously you seem to not have had these problems, but that doesn't mean others don't.
@Mesonfielde Maybe it's a sensitive skin issue and not a circumsision issue? I don't know but they are definitely a minority. I'd say more uncircumcised males wish they were circumsized than the contrary. But because circumsision is believed to be "mutilation," internet gatherings and posts about it are more prominent than guys who aren't circumsized wishing they were. Plus they can still always get circumsized. Just my theories based on experience and people I've talked with.
Well technically the foreskin is meant to be responsible for that stimulation, which wouldn't cause burns. So it's quite obviously a result of circumcision.