How do you tell somebody they gave u an STD?

[GorgeousVixen95]

I just went in for a pap 2 weeks ago, I've never had any problems before, well I've only been with 5 guys in my whole life. My doctor called today to tell me I have trichomoniasis, it's an STD that is curable with one round of antibiotics. Only 30% of people will get any symptoms. I haven't had sex in 2 years until this year. I started seeing some body and we've been messing around for the passed few months. He is literally the only person that could have given me this. Also, he told me he hasn't been having sex for a while either, so obviously he has been messing around with someone besides me. How do I tell him? How do I even bring it up? Any advice would help. Because he needs to know that he has an STD so he doesn't spread it. My friend I tell everything to told me not to say anything, but that is fucked up. So please any and all advice will help!

[brendobetino]

I actually got chlamydia when I was about your age. It's really not a big deal just take it as a lesson that could have been just as easily HIV or you could have been pregnant. Just call him and tell him you got tested and what you came up positive for. I know it's a tough phone call to make but if you don't tell him he could get really sick and he will keep spreading it to other people. Just call him be direct and don't play the blame game. You both knew the risk when you engaged in the activity and now you both have to pay the price.

[ThisAndThat]

You are 19 and you have already been with 5 guys? I was 19 when it was my first time and I've only been with 2 in my whole life. My point is 5 is a lot when you factor in how many people they've been with. And he wouldn't have to be seeing anyone besides you in order to be carrying a disease. Lastly how do you not tell them they gave you a diseases? I would be PO-ed reading them the riot act.

[GorgeousVixen95]

Wow, most people my age have been with 10+ guys! The times have changed. Most people are made fun of if they haven't lost their virginity by 14. It is taboo these days to be with less than 8 people by 19. And I was tested before I slept with him and I was fine. He told me before we slept together that he hasn't been with anyone else since his ex and his ex is clean, I know that because me and her are friends and the subject has come up.

[GorgeousVixen95]

And I am going to tell him, that's why I'm asking how to tell him. My friend who said not to is fucking dumb, which is why I'm asking for advice on here since she isn't any help.

[RationalLioness]

He either didn't know he had it or he's been messing around. Just call him and tell him.

"Hey. So I went to get my annual done and I found that I had trichomoniasis. I haven't been with anyone but you. Either you didn't know you had it or you've been with someone else."

[LonelyLillie13]

i just googled this thing and some men can carry it for years with no symptoms !

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trichomoniasis

[Just1n123]

Just tell him upfront, no harm in telling him so he knows and so he doesn't pass it on to other girls.

[Klaatu51]

u can verify it by having a test i guess...

[GorgeousVixen95]

The doctor called me, it's fer sure I have it. He's the only guy I've been with in TWO YEARS. So it's verified. Lol

[MissNowhere]

With a knife.
I'd be so pissed.

[micheal727jovanie]

Mother fucker you gave me AIDS! D':<

[Antizzl]

Your friend is stupid. Just tell him you have it and he should get tested.

[XCuniqueXC]

Well me being me.. I'd just say you gave me an STD!!!

[georgiaaaagirl]

ain't no need to hide or sugar coat it... TELL them!

[BajaG]

Let him know so everybody in your network can be tested.

[Anonymous]

You should tell him. Make sure you sound and act serious so he doesn't misunderstand

[Anonymous]

Thought you said only 30% present symptoms. Is it out of the realm of possibility that he's been a carrier for longer than he's been seeing you?

[GorgeousVixen95]

His ex doesn't have it, I know that for a fact because we are actually friends and that subject has come up. She was just tested not too long ago, and he says he hasn't been with anyone since her.

[Opinion Owner]

Is having an std something a woman shares with her girlfriend? Any certainty that she would admit if she had one?

[GorgeousVixen95]

Yes it is haha, us girls talk about everything and we have no shame in admitting things like that to others we know wouldn't say anything. And I'm known to be very trustworthy so people tend to tell me everything

[Anonymous]

Good question. In your particular case the STD can be cleared up. There's no easy way to do it. First question to him should be "when was the last time you got tested". I wouldn't come out guns shooting, accusing him of giving it to you. Some people are really defensive about this, sadly.

All you need is one Herpes scare to make asking questions like this less awkward.

[Anonymous]

Text or call him and be honest. Tell him exactly what the doctor told you, you have an STD that is 100% curable with one round of antibiotics. Hopefully he won't be too upset especially when he hears it is 100% curable. Just be honest and up front :)

[Opinion Owner]

I misread the question, but this still applies, he may not even know he has it, and will still be glad to hear is 100% curable. As for telling him he gave it to you, just be up front about it, it's not like he could get mad at you for something he did.

[Anonymous]

I'd tell their sorry ass on fb.

[jacquesvol]

Post in his wall.

[jacquesvol]

typo: *Post it on his wall.* (of course)

[Opinion Owner]

Yes!