How else to pleaure a man besides BJ'S?

[ForgottenGurl]

I like this guy yet he don't know I like him more then just friends. he has tired pushing my head down there to like give head. but I'm not big on giving head since its not that easy for me because I am paralyzed on 1 side so my mouth don't make that "o" shape. any ideas on other things I could do that will keep him interested yet make turn him on? for example: in bed he's asleep I wake up how do I make him hard and still make it feel good to him. I don't think strokin it for hours would do the trick he'd just get bored on that

[ilovelegs]

This is probably not the kind of answer you're looking for, but your question made me sad. I could never do that to a girl I really liked or knew just as a good friend. Certainly not to a girl I loved. I just don't think a guy. any guy. should be pushing a girl's head down to give him head when she's partially paralyzed. I would just love a girl like that so much and be doing other things to please her to make her happy and things easier on her . definitely not making her feel like she should be giving him head to keep him happy. Can you do other things to get his interest in trying to make him know you like him besides obeying him on doing something like that? Do you guys have anything in common that you like to do besides sexual stuff? What do you like about him? Does he try to help you in any kind of way? Is he sweet to you? Does he try to do things for you that you like? Your question just kind of hurt me to hear that a guy would expect and try to make you do that for his own personal pleasure over yours. Has HE shown that he likes YOU? Please don't think he's such a hot and cool guy if he's after you to do this for him already. It's hard telling what he'll expect out of you next.

[ForgottenGurl]

I Now think he was just after me to use me. he wanted me to pay for everything. he not once pleased me. but I haven't heard from him since wednesday. I tried callin him and stuff not he don't answer for me. The money I have I should be using on ME its a gift from my father when he passed. not using it to be wanted but it gets me used not wanted. By him pushing my head could have sent me to the ER but I didn't care I liked him but I guess I liked him more then he did me

[jbone79]

i'm sorry, but can you please change your icon. that is just totally michael jackson, neverland ranch wrong. to have that little kid up there with a huge billboard sized question like that next to him.it's like a newspaper article for catholic priests - yikes - j p.s. try kissing his neck right below the ear lobe. gotta do it just right. that always rings my bell!

[ForgottenGurl]

Haha funny.. umm that's my son but I see you point.. and I have never kissed him.. not even on the lips or creek like a good night kiss thing.. but worth a try..

[deefacex3]

hm, maybe it's that he wants or needs the feeling, but since your paralyzed, I'm sorry to hear that. but he shouldn't be pushing your head down, that's wrong, especially since you're just a friend. I mean, come on, you guys aren't serious, right? just stick with a hand job, and if he gets bored, then kiss him? I'm not sure on any ways to please him, it just depends on the guy.

[ForgottenGurl]

I have never kissed him. the reason were not dating is because he don't want to start something or a relationship because he's moving in 7 weeks.. he dont want to hurt anyone or get hurt or both.. he does the same with my hand he will move my hand on to his thing.. he didn't push hard just enough to give the idea that what he wanted. I don't want to jump into sex too soon either.. so I just do a hand job when he moves my hand

[deefacex3]

Well then I suggest don't do anything because he's moving.

[Jessica32]

Well if he pushes your head down there, do you honestly think he likes you and respects you?

If so, I'm sorry, but he doesn't.

He's using you.

[tolovewithoutyou]

Don't be so quick to say that, I mean if he does it in a rough disrespectful way then yes fair enough. But I talked about this with my guy and I let him push my head down(not to the point where I gag) to enhance the whole experience because he can choose what speed and depth I can go and make it overall better for him.

[Jessica32]

Yea.. but that's after YOU initiate the blow job. You guys are dating. 2 VERY important details and differences. This is just a friend. And that's his way of getting her to start it. Maybe you didn't read it all.

[ForgottenGurl]

He didn't push hard.. just enough to give me the idea that's what he was wanting.. and just gave it a nudge.. he was hard and all so then I just put it together

[Jessica32]

Even a nudge is too much. YOU decide when you want to give somebody head. Please be cautious. I've been used sooooo many times and it took me so long to realize that it's not what I wanted. It makes you feel empty and like shit.

[ForgottenGurl]

He is using me tho.. he comes over I buy the booze the cigs.. the weed his food he wants.. yesterday bought his meds.. but I like him so I guess I do that to keep him around so at least he is there and I'm not missin him to where I throw up.. I been used every time so I still do know what the right way guys should act you know. I kinda am starting to think they use you at first all guys do.. then it gets in more

[tolovewithoutyou]

Oh I see your point, I did read the question, I think it's because she put 'tired' that I didn't get that bit. I think a guy can initiate oral sex for him but shouldn't do it like that, that's just down right rude. Not even a 'please' haha

[Jessica32]

Awe, hun. Please... Don't put yourself through this. Find a guy that wants to treat you well! I'm going on a date with a guy this weekend, and since I am driving, he has offered to completely fill my gas tank, which will be over $50 for sure, and pay for the date, whatever we do. AND he has offered me a job because he knows I need one. Now, not every guy is THIS giving, and he is probably just "woo-ing" me, but please, you are worth so much more than this.

[ForgottenGurl]

Seems like everyone finds those kind of guys. except I haven't in 6 yrs.. This guy I paid for cigs.booze. weed and his meds I spent like 150 bucks on him in 3 days but I'm starting to think he asked for more then what the total cost but he came over last night high as hell.. I think that's how he bought it. I either get flat out told I'm ugly and my style sucks or used its always something but it sucks no wonder y my self esteem is so low.

[SimplyAGuy]

A man who is really in to you wouldn't be concerned with what you can do to get him off, in my opinion, he will be more concerned with making sure he pleases you. If its about you wanting to please him there's nothing wrong with a hand job while licking around the head of his penis. it doesn't have to enter your mouth to feel good. Jeff

[ForgottenGurl]

Um hey thanks! that was what I was looking for.. I was asking in words before I was the one wanting to turn him on . yea everyone says if he was into me things I couldn't do wouldn't matter but.. that don't come by many people.. so anyways thanks! :0)

[lefthand]

One of my lovers was partially paralyzed in a car accident. She can suck cock but it gets awkward for her after a little while. What she learned to do was give amazing hand jobs with her good hand, and just keep the head near her face. Sometimes she swallows and sometimes she just goes with the facial. She does a wonderful job and recommends "How to be a great lover" as one of her best sources.

[ForgottenGurl]

Thanks! I guess I'm not the only one.. I became partially paralyzed from a brain surgery. I guess I gotta find someone I can mess around wit see what works best who knows again thanks!