How long can a man go without sex?

[Anonymous]

How long can a man go without sex? How many days, weeks, or months, before he goes out to find a woman? My boyfriend went out of country for a month to where he grew up, to visit his family and old friends. I wonder, can a man (with average to slightly high libido) withstand no sex for a month? I'm worried that he would meet one of his old female friend, childhood friend, or just any woman, at the gym, etc. Because we won't have sex for a month, although he's not that type of guy who would go looking around for girls when he's in a relationship, or just generally as a man. Is my worry valid? How long can a man go without sex, whether he has a habit of masturbating or not (I know he doesn't, maybe once every 4 months he might).

[ImJustCurious13]

I'm about to turn 20 and I'm still a virgin, so I guess about 20 years 😂 But seriously, you have to ask yourself, do you truly trust him? It very understandable for you to have that fear, especially in our today's culture. But you said it yourself: "he's not that type of guy who would go looking around for girls when he's in a relationship", what I would do in your situation is to talk to him before he leaves and agree to face chat every day while he's gone and stay connected as much as possible. Also, I would highly recommend you talking to him about your worries before you leave, I know it's going to be scary to do so, but if he's a good partner he should be able to talk about it and come to an understanding. AND KEEP THIS IN MIND: As a dude and a human being myself, I can tell you that he's having the same thoughts as you, he is probably worried about the possibility of you inviting other dudes to his house and sleeping with them in the bed you guy's share, and that's a fear most people have while in a relationship. So don't be afraid to open up to him about this.

[Asker]

I was asking after a man has had sexual encounter, how long can he go without sex? 20 years old being a virgin is nothing. I first had sex when I was 2 months before turning 24. Your case should be normal but unfortunately it's becoming not. Okay back to my original question: He cannot do video calls with me, because he does not have privacy while staying over at his family's, so it's impossible to keep a constant mental satisfaction. I suggested we could both masturbation while doing video calls so we're in this together, but he said he will have no privacy.

[Asker]

I have a nice rear and I've sent him picture of me in new panty, but I don't know how he would use it. I provided what I can, but however he uses it, is his option.

[Asker]

I can't talk to him about this because he is aware that I tend to worry more. For example, if I'm stressed from work, I worry about work on my days off

[Asker]

I don't want him to think that I'm being a worrier again

[ImJustCurious13]

The 20 years thing was a joke. I suggested the video chat as a way to stay in touch and you can see each other's faces, but regular texting and calling can be fine. Also, it's OK to tell him about your worries, if he's a good partner he should understand, and it's a way to stay close.

[Asker]

Yes, I suggested video chat, but he can't since he's staying with his family.

[Asker]

I'll just send him pictures of my butt and let him decide what to do with it

[Asker]

Or send him audio files of my moans, which I have done

[ImJustCurious13]

I didn't actually suggest video chat for that, I suggested video chat so you guys can talk to each other and stat close romantically. I wasn't talking about sex or masturbation at all when I was saying that.

[Asker]

But it does not matter what we do during video chat, he said he has no privacy since he's with family. Moreover, there's no harm in masturbating together. We'll both will need it so why not do it together and feel connected?

[Anonymous]

When I'm not in a relationship I may have some urges sometimes but in general I'm not interested and I won't have sex outside of a relationship... And when I'm in a relationship than I'm loyal to my partner. In the end it depends on the person. But just because he's a male doesn't mean he'll sleep with everyone in his way just because he hasn't had sex for a couple months...
And if you want to make sure you two get some sexy time together anyways how about some sexting and cam-sex? In a relationship it's a great thing to do.

[Asker]

I suggested but he said he will not have privacy while staying at his family's

[Anonymous]

for life i guess

[partydelights]

If he's in a relationship, then enduring up to 12 months is not an issue.

For my case, I waited 18 months to marry my virgin wife. The was hell, but possible.

[dantetheexplorer]

As long as he wants to.

Men are human beings.

Unless someone is pointing a gun to a man's head and his life is forfeit unless he has sex right then and there, the man always has the choice to say "No. I'm in a committed relationship. I will not do this."

It's not like there's some internal sex clock, that after it reaches one months, turns the man into a raging sex machine that can think of one thing and one thing only and that normal brain function won't return unless he gets it.

Cheating is always a choice.
A man's penis doesn't into a woman's orifice by accident.

[Zer0Ghost]

If he doesn't actively look and only jerks off once in a blue moon I dunno why you'd be worried. Personally I can forgo sex almost indefinitely if I can still masturbate, a month would be a cakewalk, especially if taken.

[Asker]

What I meant was that he doesn't jerk himself off regularly. I know there are some guys who would not jerk off and would only want sex with other person.

[ImSoSquishy]

it doesn't matter how long, because if someone wants to cheat, they will cheat even if you give them sex regularly. it could be less than 10 hours after you have sex and the guy goes to his side chick/dude or friends with benefits to have sex, that's just how some people are.

[PressOn]

In my experience 25 years. First time I had sex was on my wedding night. After that, minimally everday (when time or events permitted of course), even though it has slowed in the last 5 years.

[20yearsolder]

I'm sure he masturbates daily when he isn't with you. just because he is away from you for a month doesn't mean he's going to cheat. I'm sure he masturbates more than once every 4 months. The majority of us do it. It's normal,

[CuChullan]

What are you going to do without sex for a month?

[Asker]

I have different kinds and shapes of vibrators, and worse case if they all ran out of power and I didn't have any battery at home, I still have my lube and fingers

[Asker]

But I asked because men have higher libido. An above average horny man compared with an above average horny woman might have different ways of satisfying sexual needs.

[CuChullan]

You're worrying about something that might happen and might not happen. Guys always have Palm and her sisters. But if that's not enough, what harm is there is having sex simply for sex's sake. You'll never know. So you're worrying about something you'll never know about. But based on how you feel and the tools you have at your disposal, you are already worrying. It's a waste of time.

[Asker]

What did you say "guys always have Palm and her sisters"? Who's "her"? Having sex for fun was not, and is not my point. I'm talking about the possibility of cheating while not having sex for a period of time.

[CuChullan]

The palm of your hand and fingers!!! There's always the possibility of "cheating". On both sides. Who will ever know.

[genericname85]

theoretically forever xD it's about how long he "wants" to be without sex and that's not very long.

[ElLocoLatino]

2 weeks maximum

[Surely]

If he loves you, he will wait.

[tarun1]

If available, can't go without it for a single day. If not available, can be as long as a year

[ohskippy]

Well 6 years now for me

[Nachowedgie]

19 years and counting here

[Asker]

Will, hang in there, because 19 years being a virgin is not the end of the world!

[Nachowedgie]

Pfft everyone else I know lost their virginities 2 to 3 years ago

[Asker]

Well, just be you. Whenever you're ready. Don't worry about the number. I was a virgin until 2 months before turning 24

[Anonymous]

Probably at least 20% of the world male population will die virgins , so forever really. Also most marriages are wife refusal sexless. Men may have far higher sex drives on average , than the typically sexually disinterested female , but we can handle going without quite well. 1 month is nothing , for most men it is often many years.

[Asker]

But I thought those men whose wives don't have sex with them, some do go out to look for alternatives? I heard that 2 of my male friends were sleeping with other girls and both used sexless life as the reason for cheating.

[Anonymous]

forever? as long as i have wifi so i can fap to porn

[Anonymous]

Well I'm 33 & never had sex.