How long does it take to finally start enjoying sex?

My boyfriend and I started having sex, I was a virgin he wasn't, but it never hurt I never bled it doesn't even really feel good or anything, I just don't feel much...is this normal? Also I know his d*** is smaller than average, maybe this is why? Maybe his d*** is too small?
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  • I feel your pain. I have had sex with two guys and to be honest, even that didn't make much of a difference.

    In my current relationship it took a year and a half for me to actually get off during sex. Since we figured out what did it that time, it's been a lot better. So in time you'll find what works for you. Just to help you try to speed it up though, my friend and I both had similar experiences, our guys just went right from naked to sex.

    You need foreplay, you need to be really ready for it because otherwise it's just sex and you're body is like "well... uh... k, this isn't what I want right now." (obviously it is different for everyone though). Start out just making out and rubbing until you feel you really want more, then move into basic foreplay like fingering and hand jobs (make sure he pays attention to your clit too instead of just ramming his fingers into your vagina). When you get to a point where you can't resist having more, take the foreplay up a notch and go to oral, this means both of you... not just you doing the work, he needs to keep your pleasure level in par with his.

    I find when a guy goes down on me, I'm able to orgasm so if you're close and don't want to stop, just let it happen. If you can, when you start to get really close stop him and at that point have sex... try being on top at this point.

    In my experience, warming up and being really close to orgasming before sex made it a lot better because it usually takes women longer to build an orgasm than it does for men.

    Hope you start having more fun soon! :P

  • Since you've gotten a lot of rude responses from guys, I'll give you a real answer. My first time having sex I didn't bleed and didn't feel much at all either, certainly not pleasure, this guy was above average, about 8inches and really thick. It hurt after, I couldn't walk. As we continued having sex I started to actually feel it and it did feel good. Later on I had sex with an under average guy (my second guy) and he was about 5 or 6 inches, and I didn't feel anything, not pain nor pleasure and it never got better, so from my experience, it's his size.

  • if you have worn tampons before you had sex for the first time I doubt you will bleed because it can pop your cherry. Which is where the blood comes from. Isn't it good that it doesn't hurt?! Be happy.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Sounds like the typical American male. Only having sex to pleasure himself.

    Hey I was like that, till this one female complained to me how she wasn't satisfied. My mind was blown, because I had thought I was doing her like a boss and she was enjoying it. Apparently not.

    From that there on, I did my research like a nerd attending a uni. Now I always lick, finger before any type of penetration. I've got a small d*ck too, I'm courageous enough to admit that. But a d*ck is not the only ingredient for a girl to achieve orgasm. Men have their tongues, mouths, and hands.

    So in my opinion, tell your boyfriend your not satisfied.

  • He's gonna need to use his hands and mouth. He may not know what's working and what isn't. You need to communicate. Also, you should trim any hair and make sure you've just stepped out of the shower if you want him to go down on you.

    Have you ever masturbated? It definitely helps if you know what works for you.

    Foreplay is also important.

    Above all, DO NOT SAY HE IS SMALL TO HIS FACE. Some guys are really sensitive about this, big or small.

    • But we've always had foreplay and he uses his hands and mouth...idk what's wrong with me

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  • yes his d*** is too small

    thats it

    • I can't tell If your being serious or sarcastic lol

    • i was being sarcastic because after reading your question all I thought that you wanted to hear that the reason was his small penis so I said it on a serious note sex is both give and take not just take u are not getting there because maybe lack of foreplay or stuff like that try talking to your guy about all this maybe this will help all the best

  • Everyone is different. For me, it was enjoyable right away. I loved it from the very first time.

    • after thinking it over I realized I just forced myself to not feel anything, because I really liked him and I was moving away soon, and I didn't want to get anymore attatched to him than I already was because it would hurt too much :( we still talk, but a long distance relationship across the country seems too much/impossible

  • Its okay. Some women are just naturally born with big flopping p******.

  • When we got married, I was too stressed by the thing of getting my job and career going, getting accomodation and other things. Then the kids came along. It was only many years later, once the stresses reduced, that I began enjoying sex...

    Also it helps if you have an understanding partner who makes you feel confident. I don't think the dic* size is important as made out to be. Having the right technique and attitude is.

  • It might be to small it depends on the size. I have personally never had this problem and the hole point of have good sex is for pleasure so what are you going to do?

    • Like the condom falls out every time because it doesn't fit on him

    • So its skinny then. I've never had anything like that happen before. It probably feels like you just have a finger in you no wonder you can't have a orgasm.