How many girls would actually have an abortion?

[Anonymous]

So I know many people that are "pro-choice" simply believe in the right to choose an abortion being legal...they do not necessarily personally believe abortion is moral...so I was wondering...Girls, would you ever have an abortion even if you are pro-choice? and under what circumstances...would you ever do it just because the baby would be a hassle? What if -You could guarantee the child would adopted by a good family able to care for the child better than you could -Or if your parents could raise the child, or help you to the extent that you could still finish school or carry on your career -The Father of the child is stable and financially and emotionally able to father the child -The child is healthy and will be born healthy as far as you know. -The pregnancy is a result of consensual sex, not rape or incest. Where would you draw the line? If any or all of these things were present would you still do it? I'm just wondering what situation our society can help create so that we can limit abortion. Or if many will do it simply because they feel they have the choice and choose to exercise it.

[peace-love-couture]

I am Pro-Choice,I am atheist.

My personal rule on having sex,is I won't be having sex until I can use multiple forms of birth control and am in a committed relationship with someone whom I trust.Of course,not everyone believes in monogamous relationships,that is just my viewpoint.

It is honestly,hard to answer this question,because you never know until you are in that position.It's easy to say no,but you never know until something has happened.It's easy to say yes,but you never know until you are carrying that child.

Personally,If something should ever happen to me(rape),at this point,I'm 16,I'm not ready to care for a child,I don't want to put my body through child bearing,my body is NOT ready for child bearing,I am not mentally/emotionally ready for child bearing.

I understand,people will make the argument,"you could just give the child up for adoption" but adoption means carrying the child full term,at THIS point in my 16 year old life,I am NOT ready to carry full term.

I think there should be a line drawn.Some women use it as a form of birth control instead of using plan B after they have sex,or using birth control during sex.

I know if I were pregnant and there was going to be a severe mental/physical birth defect that the child has and I have an option to terminate,I would.I'm not going to be selfish like so many women who make their child live as vegetables,it isn't living a life when you can't make decisions for yourself,or when you can't speak,or can't talk,walk or do simple life things.Some people make the argument,well a child can do none of those things,but when you're an ADULT and a vegetable who can't make simple decisions for yourself,that IS a different situation.I am in NO way stating that people with mental/physical disabilities are of lesser value to society and more power to the men AND women who raise a child with disabilities,but halfway through the movie "Lorenzo's Oil" it killed me to see such reality.

I don't think a woman should have to carry out full term if she doesn't want to.Ok so people make the argument,"if you aren't responsible enough to use protection,you shouldn't be having sex" which I do agree with,but those same people need to go speak to the millions and millions of americans with VD,STDs/STI's(Including HIV/AIDS) and condemn them for having unprotected sex(those who got it through sexual activity) and need to give the speeches of right and wrong to them ALSO.

If you're going to ask wouldn't the child be happier being adopted?No,not necessarily,especially if they know the mother did not want them,love them or care about them.There comes a time,(if the adoptive parents are good parents) when they tell the child they are adopted and the child begins questioning things.When they find the truth out,it won't be pretty.

[wildfire5288]

If I found out I was pregnant today I'd get an abortion tomorrow, no questions asked. I'm not able to have a kid right now and I know that and I'm not going to bring a baby into the world that I can't take care. I wouldn't want someone else raising my kids, I wouldn't want my parents to raise my kid or take care of him/her until I finish school, I don't know anyone who's financially stable (it's college, everyone I know is poor), the baby wouldn't make it far enough along in the pregnancy for me to know if it was healthy or not, and I'd like to think that there's so many ways to not get pregnant (condoms, the pill, plan B) that I wouldn't get pregnant through consensual sex but if it did happen I would still probably get an abortion.

The only circumstance where I wouldn't get an abortion is if I got pregnant with a guy that I was in a stable relationship with and if I was financially able to care of child and raise it in a healthy environment (I'm not going to have a baby if it means I have to move into a cheap apartment with crack heads sitting outside, I'm not raising kids in that kind of environment). Ideally I'll be married before I have kids in which case abortion wouldn't be an issue. I don't think it's selfish at all for women to get an abortion because I think most of the time women get abortion's because they know that they can't give that particular child the life they deserve and even if they put it up for adoption it still doesn't change the fact that they're mothers and they had a kid that they weren't able to care for. I couldn't live with myself knowing that I brought someone into the world and couldn't take care of them.

[Asker]

But you could live knowing you didn't even give the child a chance?

[wildfire5288]

At the point where you can legally get an abortion now it's not a child, it's bunch of cells

[Asker]

Actually in my state you can get an abortion up until live birth in my state...at wich poiint its not just a bunch of cells..a child 12 weeks old can feel pain

[wildfire5288]

OK well I don't live in your state, where I live third trimester abortion is illegal. If a baby can feel pain at 12 weeks then I'll get an abortion at 11. Bottom line is I would get an abortion under any circumstance except for the one I listed where I said I would not and no one has the right to tell me I can't have one.

[Anonymous]

I would never get an abortion. I don't know why girls want to find as many ways to get rid of the baby instead of finding as many ways possible to let it have a life! I think even if you are raped you should still keep it. Don't have sex if you aren't ready to be a mom. In my eyes a child is a gift from god, a mirical. If you know that you won't be able to support it well enough then put it up for adoption. But don't kill it! You will just be the mother of a dead baby. As young as I am, I truly believe that everyone has the right to live.

[DannyPhantom]

I respect what your saying but I got a question for you. What if you got a woman pregnant but she was not the one for you and there's sign your life would be a living nightmare if this child was born would you consent to her getting the abortion and would it effect your moral stances.

[Asker]

Knowing I consented to killing my child is the worst nightmare I could imagine..worse than paying child support or putting up with a custody battle...nothing comes close in my opinion

[DannyPhantom]

I respect you even more yous a better man then me. I didn't consent but I didn't say nothing so I'm just as guilty. I was in the living nightmare hell on earth situation but I could not find the courage to deal with Satan reincarnated. it bothers me but it might have been for the best but she wouldn't have kept it anyways if I told her too keep it 99.99% sure.

[Asker]

Im sorry to hear that man....atleast understand what happened...even if you didn't say anything...God be with you bro

[JaYce_Luff]

uh oh I smell trouble with this question...lol

[MoreLikeFlying]

Oh there will be. xD lol.

[Asker]

And there is

[MoreLikeFlying]

HERE I AM! :D

But these are 'what ifs' and 'what ifs' aren't suitable argument. Because 'What if this adoptive family isn't as legit as they seem. ' 'what if your parents weren't supportive' 'what if the father is not stable financially and emotionally enough, or is a dead beat.' --- If it was consensual, well. not much what ifs. xD What if you make the wrong assumption? It's depressing either way.

Point is, we can't base everything off of what ifs as a suitable argument. BUT if by some strange chance I was well aware that this was all going to happen without a doubt, I wouldn't get an abortion unless this was a must for my own safety (should it be dangerous for me to carry term).

The baby would already be a hassle to me, and chances are I'd give it up for adoption to a stable family if it meant they were going to raise him/her right, and in a good environment.

[Asker]

Well what if they were...is it ok to destroy a child becasue things MIGHT NOT work out? The child deserves a CHANCE in my opinion...

[MoreLikeFlying]

Of course, I'm just saying, this is not something to base "What ifs" off of, you must take chances that things will not work out how you want, and the chances that they might. Of course the child deserves a chance, but that doesn't mean they're going to get one every time. Expect the worse, hope for the best.

[Asker]

Well if the child deserves to live...who is a woman to say no then?

[MoreLikeFlying]

Just because you deserve it, doesn't mean you always get it. And it's a woman's choice to say no. Accept it, and move on. :|

[Asker]

Well I'm pro-life so....im not gonna "Accept it" any more than I would accept murder being legalized.

[MoreLikeFlying]

Fine. Don't. But do accept that not everyone will have the same feelings and views as you and that sometimes, you're just going to have to deal with it, and live your life how you want it to be done, even though people aren't living how you'd like. :/

[Asker]

I do accept that but ill do what I can to get abortion restricted or made illegal if I have the chance with voting activism etc.

[MoreLikeFlying]

So you would take away another person's right, to satisfy your own opinion? That's just as sick as destroying a potential person. :D

[Asker]

Well I bleive it is a person...and deserve protection..no one has the "right" to destroy it in my opinion...would it b wrong to take away the "rights" of murseres toi kill people ? Just because you choose to do something doesn't mean you have the rite to

[MoreLikeFlying]

You know what? This is a never ending conversation. But you're also taking away a woman's rights. Fucking hell, this is a goddamn never ending cycle. I'm happy you're so dedicated to your opinions. Have a nice day/night.

[Asker]

Well you have wo conflciitng rights..a woman in control of her body and a child/fetus's right to live which some don't recognize...one must trump the other...i side with the child...thats the debate in a nutshell

[MoreLikeFlying]

I trump with both, but sadly this world isn't made of unicorns sh*tting butterflies. Oooh Aawww A Fetus . They don't have a right. They deserve to live, yes, but it's not their right. And not all of them are going to get what they deserve . Tough sh*t. No one is going to be happy no matter what happens. And honestly, how the f*** is any of this your goddamn business? :| I'm getting so stressed right now, this is ending now.

[Asker]

Its my business becaus I believe children are being killed, it would b wrong of me not to be concerned in light of my beliefs. I find it odd you you say a "fetus" deserve to live but doesn't have a right? In my opinion this is about protecting human life, there is no reason to yield to an indivduals wishes without very very good cause..killing is wrong and that's what abortion is to me, regardless of if a woman kills it in her own body, its murder no matter where or how it takes place.

[MoreLikeFlying]

Meh. They're not children. They're fetuses, to me. They hold no life value. I'm glad you have strong beliefs. But I still believe it is the woman's body, and the woman's choice, and I honestly believe that the government should not have that kind of control over a woman. And yes, it should be available with given circumstances.

[Asker]

Well that's what the issue is about to me, whether it is a child or not.....if it is , detstruction of it is infanticide

[Butterfly_kisses09]

I would never have an abortion. If your resposible enough to have sex then you should be responsible enough to deal with the consequences. If you don't want a baby or if your not ready then go on birth control, use a condom, or just don't have sex. The only exception I have is if the girl was raped then I could kinda understand why she would want an abortion but even then, she could give the child up for adoption.

[MoreLikeFlying]

You don't need to be responsible to have sex. You just need a sex drive and enough knowledge to know how to do it. xD As this should be pretty obvious, seeing the people who have sex now are more immature than a 9 year old these days.

[Asker]

I think the point is that the person should be accoutnable for creating a child if they are having sex..

[Butterfly_kisses09]

By being responsible, I mean using some sort of birth control. If your just gonna go and have unprotected sex then don't be shocked when you get pregnant. That's all I meant by that

[brandonscowgirl]

I am pro-choice with specific conditions. I would never personally have one. But I believe that if someone is raped or are the victim of incest they should be able to have an abortion if they want. Abortion is not an "easy-out" for people who are not responsible (that is when it is wrong).

JUST MY OPINIONS

[kmhco]

The only reason I would have an abortion is if there were serious health risks involved (maybe rape as well, but I don't know how I feel about that). For example, if I found out that I was going to have a baby that had Tay-Sachs or some other horrible-fatal disease, I would absolutely get an abortion. Why would you make a child suffer like that? I don't agree with people that get abortions because pregnancy is an inconvenience. If you aren't ready to have a baby, then it is my opinion that you aren't ready for sex.

[MoreLikeFlying]

Agreed. :1 Though being ready to have sex these days, aren't as trivial and don't have as high moral standards as they did back in the olden days, sadly. People are always ready to sex, they just aren't ready to deal with the consequences.

[haleyb]

Honestly, I don't think you can make this decision before you're in the situation. You can't ever know how you'll feel when you get pregnant. BUT if I had to say something, I would say that any of these circumstances could make someone choose not to have an abortion, but not necessarily. No matter what, having a baby will have a huge impact on the woman's life, and just because the situation fits one of those you listed might make her life easier, it doesn't mean they should have the baby.

[Mrs_MHz]

I would never have an abortion. That is murder. I'm murdering a part of me. A being. I have a 3 week old and I couldn't imagine life without her. As for the rape thing, I was raped when I was 15, and I can tell you if I would have gotten pregnant I would have had the baby. You can always give it up for adoption in those situations. Many couples are unable to have kids and you can bless one of them with a child.

[BlackDawn]

I’ve had two and I’m pro choice. I don’t want kids and I don’t want to get pregnant. Fuck that. I don’t care if it was by Rape or by love, I’m not having that thing come out of me.

[sweet18]

If any of those things were present, yes I would still do it. I plan to have children only after I am married.

Regarding adoption, there are plenty of chinese/african babies that "ain't never had sh*t" just waiting to be adopted. We don't need MY unwanted babies.

[Anonymous]

I have to agree completely with what wildfire said. If I was in a stable relationship, that was financially stable then I would probably keep a child.

If those two criteria were not met, I would get an abortion. I am not going to ruin my life and the life of an innocent child simply because some people don't think abortion should happen. At the stage where you can legally get an abortion the 'baby' is simply a bunch of cells.

I also think that if I was to carry a kid through to term it would be absolutely devastating to give it up to another family. I couldn't do it but I wouldn't want to bring it into a family where it didn't have every opportunity open to it.

Hopefully I will never have to make the decision, though.

[Asker]

At the stage where you can legally get an abortion the 'baby' is simply a bunch of cells. thats not really accurate a "fetus" can feel pain after 12 weeks and abortions are available in the US up until live birth in some states.

[Asker]

It didn't have every opportunity open to it. So its better to be dead than not have "every" opportunity open to it? Should poor familes always abort their children then?

[Opinion Owner]

Well where I come from I think abortions are only legal up tp 10 weeks. I don't live in the US so I don't have the option of aborting a baby when it is actually a creature. I think it is inhumane to abort a fully formed baby. And it is my personal choice to to abort if I ever got in that situation. If I WANTED kids and was poor that would be a different story but I am not going to disadvantage myself and a potential family simply because of an accident. I would also hope I was smarter than to le

[Opinion Owner]

(smarter than to let) it happen in the first place. Just wondering if you are also against the pill, contraception and the morning after pill? The are basically the same principal in that they kill potential babies. Grow up, champ - its the 21st century. Every woman should have the right to choose as it affects her life far more than a man's; even from a purely financial perspective, let alone all the rest of the perspectives.

[Asker]

No I'm fine with the pill and everything else out there...i was talking aboiut later abortions...im somewaht dived on earlier ones but I defintiely don't consider them on the same level as the later ones...

[Anonymous]

I would get an abortion, no matter what. There is no way I'm having a child at 18, even if I could give the baby in adoption, for many reasons.

1) Many women in my family had important complications while being pregnant and it might also happen to me and be harmful.

2) Giving up my child would cause me psychological trouble, because I would certainly become attached to him, but I just can't have a child at the moment due to my lifestyle and lack of support.

3) Plus, there is the possibility that the child develops psychological troubles later on when he finds out that he was adopted. Many children try to find their biological parents at some point int their life, which is very hard for them emotionally. I wouldn't want a child to go trough that because of me.

On the other hand, because I WOULD get an abortion doesn't mean I will. I take all the precautions necessary to avoid it, because an abortion would also be hard on me emotionally.

[peace-love-couture]

I agree.Some people will label a woman as selfish for getting an abortion,but isn't it selfish to have a child and the child be put through emotional hell.

[Asker]

Im sure a lot of people would choose "emotional hell" over death

[Opinion Owner]

... think again.. I would know lol

[MoreLikeFlying]

3) You'd rather have an abortion, than give him/her a good life with another family, JUST because he will eventually find out he was adopted and may have problems with it? Just like he MIGHT get life threatening disease, he MIGHT get in a car wreck, he MIGHT turn out to. Blah blah blah. I understand the other reasons entirely, but that reason is kind of silly. S/he may also have a wonderful life, and could grow up healthy and happy, there will be things that will hurt them anyways.

[Asker]

But don't you think a child deserves a chane? I mean if theyd rather not exist wouldn't they commit suicide?

[peace-love-couture]

Honestly,if you're up for letting your child suffer,that's your business,I don't have the guts to do so.MoreLikeFlying,I understand you have your opinions,but no reason is as silly as a selfish woman putting her child through hell just so she can make herself feel better

[Anonymous]

I would get an abortion even with all of those. I'm pro choice. It's a woman's body-- the government has NO right to tell her what she can do with her own body. I'm 19 now, so it's not like I'm 16 or something...But a baby just would not fit into my life at all right now. And I'm not even 100% sure if I even want to have children in the future. Personally, I wouldn't want something living inside me for months to just pop it out and give it to someone else. I wouldn't want MY child to be with another family. Even if own family was willing to take care of it, that's just selfish and pointless. It would be my baby, so I should be the one to raise it.

[Asker]

Well this a hypothetical I didn't want to turn it into a pro-life/pro-choice debate....but question....Don't yout hink your child would rather be adopted than dead? I mean it seems like ur saying "If I can't have it no one can", Are you thinking about teh child at all?

[Anonymous]

If I was a teenager, no matter the circumstances, I would get an abortion.