How many people have you slept with?

So I recently started seeing this guy, and the other night we were laying in bed talking and somehow the question of how many people we've had sex with came up. He told me his number, then asked mine. I was completely taken back, and didn't want to answer seeing as my number is decently larger than his. I ended up somehow changing the subject and he let it go. I've never been aked that before so early in a relationship, and honestly don't feel quite comfortable answering yet for fear of him jumping to conclusions, i.e. me being some sort of whore. I am not so much ashamed by my number because I am almost 21 and I go away to college and hey I've made some mistakes. My question for you guys is what do you think is an acceptable number for our age group 18-24? Are you comfortable telling people your number when asked?
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  • I've been with 1, since I was 19 years old. I don't think you are slutty or whorish, some people just have gotten more experience. Use that to your advantage and accept it, it's your history and you shouldn't be ashamed of it.

  • I am 21 and have slept with 10 ppl... I don't see a problem with having sex. I think guys are

    So judgemently. They can have several but us as women are sluts 4 having fun...

  • do you mean 16 different guys? if so I'm sorry but that's just nasty I wouldn't take a second look at a girl that has had sex with that many guys that's just gross

  • I think an acceptable number for me is up to 0-5 guys and girls. I don't know, IMO, a higher number means bad. To me, It means they had a ton of relationships that didn't last long -- shows the quality of the personality possibly in a relationship, and also the 'easiness' of the person to get in their pants, and it raises the question if all of their partners were even romantic ones or just one night stands.. and once again, a reflection of the individual in question... sorry, again this is just my opinion..

  • Life is an experience and I have never judged any girl I have been with about her past, in fact I have found that I really don't want to know and have stopped asking that question all together. If she asks I will tell her.

  • My number is between 10 to 15. Its not a contest, because if it was, I would never ever ever be able to beat my brothers record, he literally Lost count at the age of 18 and he's 28 now lmao.

  • I'm almost 18 and I've slept with (including my current bf) 5 guys.

    • Slut

    • Thank you, Well I'm from holland, and sex is way more open over here. And my current boyfriend is now my exbf...

    • Woah don't you think that's a bit much?

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  • I prefer to be as close to zero as possible for myself-none for me. Guys will judge you by your number and some guys don't, usually the guys who don't judge you for the number, do not care. That number is set at different values by different people who grew up in different ethical upbringing or how they learnt whether a certain number is valid.

  • It's really not an issue of a number, but rather of how close it is to their number.

    Just as you said you didn't want to say because it was higher than his, a guy doesn't want to hear that a girl has had a lot more than them. (Being higher isn't a big deal, but a lot higher is.)

    The reason why there being a large difference is a big deal is that it can show differing views on sex. A guy who beliefs in only having sex in long-term relationships will not like hearing about a high number. While a guy you is more casual about it probably won't care. (And those are casual but do are jerks anyways.)

    However, if two people really click, and want to be together, then the number shouldn't matter.

  • If you tell us your "real" number I'll tell you mine. I bet I can shock you.

  • I'm at about 100, and I just turned 53. Most people who meet me think I'm weird, and as it turns out, women who are intrigued by unusual characters are often nymphomaniacs. So I've been with a lot of women who would rather do it than talk about it.

    • grats on 100 lays Lol.

  • well me I'm 20 and I've slept with 2 but fooled around with many more. really me I use sex as expressing my feelings to the girl when saying I love you is not enough. the first time I lost my virginity I was 17 and that seems to be the average age for most people to have lost it. to me its not the # that you have slept with but the feelings you had when you did.

  • Funny...I got asked by my Girlfriend last week. She looked like she wished she wouldn't have asked after I told her.

    Now, she brings it up in a joking manner alot. But I think it bugs her.

    If the person asks they better be prepared to live with it.

    When I was your age the # was 12. Now it's around 150. What can I say...I like sex!

    • Yeah, that'd definitly bug her :')

  • 3, and I lost it almost a year ago...one being a one-night stand, and 2 being FWB. I'm ready for sex with a Boyfriend right now to be quite honest. and yeah I do think that being in college everyone should be allowed some mistakes such as one-night stands cause I've been there lol

    • Who did you give your virginity to

    • A friend named yoan, why?

  • Should this number really matter? It does bother people a bit but it should not matter. What should matter is that if your in a relationship and there is only going to be 1 number and that's with him/her. It's asking about a past that has nothing to do with the person you are with now.

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  • About 150 -200

  • at your age if its more than 10 then ya kinna slutty

  • I've only slept with two people, the first was my ex, the second was someone just to see if I could even bare to get on with someone else (I hadn't really gotten over my ex...). I think the main problem that guys have with the number is that we can't change our size to suit yours...let alone I don't want to know the things she's done, how many people at once, how many pregnancy scares she's had, etc. As long as you both enjoy it, it shouldn't matter.

  • I am 17 and have been with 3 guys.. all bfs. I don't think there is an acceptable number. I think people need to be happy with themselves and what they do.

  • Personally, I'm not a numbers girl but a friend of mine is 21 and is sitting at 11. My guy friends balked at that one.

    I was talking to another guy yesterday and he was speaking of a girl who is 19 and slept with 7 guys in three years. He insinuated that this would be one of the major reasons she was a "slut".

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