How should I go about initiating a handjob, or blowjob for that matter?

I've never given one before. My boyfriend knows I'm inexperienced and I know he doesn't want to pressure me into doing anything so I don't think he'll ask me to do it. I told him once that I was willing to do it and he said if I wanted to, but it never happened. So, what am I supposed to do? Just start unzipping his jeans? I'm clueless.
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  • Tease him a little. If you are sitting on the couch together put your hands on his pants and slowly move it over his crotch than tease him a little as you slowly unzip his zipper. He will be in shock a good kind of shock. Do it slowly its an enjoyable agony. If he won't ask for it which is sorta cool then he's waiting for you to do it when you want to do it. Anonymous user down there had some good tips. Look him in the eye while you do it that's hot. If you want to you can get down on your knees that's kinda hot. Another thing you can do is grab his hand and put it on your boobs. he will like that and know what's on your mind. I would just give him a handjob the first time If I were you even though he will no doubt want more leave him anticipating next time. Its always better to do without your shirt on lol. This is a question with a really easy answer

  • From a guys perspective, if you are sitting together and have your hand on my chest and then slowly slide it down and start massaging through my pants would be very erotic. You will start to feel the erection growning and he will know it. then you have to let the cat out of the bag. I would start with a handjob and then move to a bj later. gives him something to look forward too:)

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  • for my boyfriend, he loves it when during were making out (laying down) ill lift up his shirt a bit and gently use my nails and drag them lightly down his pelvis / hip area and then back up again. it actually makes him shudder (: each time I drag my nails I go closer to his crotch , I go under the waistband on his boxers a little to tease him, then back up again, until the anticipation is too much even for me and I have to unzip his zipper and go at it.

    i always give him a blowjob after giving him a handjob first (except not enough to have him cum)

    i read in cosmo how the feeling of your mouth is so overwhelming for him at first that its best to start with hands on. so after the handjob ill look at him all sexy and slowly move down to his penis and then yeah, ya know the rest ;P

  • I think you should be having him go down on you first for awhile until he can eat you out good and then you can start considering or trying to figure out how to give him a hand-job. A boyfriend should first be pleasuring his girlfriend before he even thinks about how to get him off. My boyfriend has been pleasuring me for a few months already and I'm not into worrying about that other stuff yet and he's more than satisfied. He's the one that should be wanting to learn what to do first, not you. So good luck on getting him started.

  • Yeah! Just be kinda creative. And its okay to go kind of slowly since you're inexperienced because going slowly also builds anticipation. Run your fingers around his waistband right above his jeans and maybe unzip his pants and then kind of go at it. start out slowly and speed up as you go. I always start with a handjob then once you're a little more comfortable, start using your mouth,too!

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  • Yes.that's how I like to do it. I just come up to him, unzip his jeans and start playing with him. When he gets hard I put my mouth at the base and go up. If he's larger than usual relax your throat. I like to slide my hand up and down after my mouth. Make sure there's a lot of wetness. Don't use teeth. Make sure your nose is clear too. Make sure you tell him to tell you before he cums before giving the BJ otherwise you can end up with a surprise in your mouth. Something I like to do is have him lay on the bed or couch and you do it from the side. This leaves his arm free to play with you so it's not all you doing the work.

  • well you could start by like making out w him and kissing his body and stuff and move your way down. I mean there's a lot of stuff you can do I guess its more of a matter of what you're comfortable with doing. do whatever you want to do he will like it no matter what pretty much guaranteed. have fun with it haha no pun intended just go for it

  • The first time I gave a blow job, I wrapped a handkerchief around my boyfriends eyes and unzipped his pants and started taking things very slow on his penis, then went full fledged. I really don't want to describe anything on here, I don't know if this website is supposed to be PG13 or not. Hah. But, I was the same way when I was young. I was really embarrassed about it, but, the first night my boyfriend stayed over I gave him the blow job and after that I'm not at all ashamed of giving head in front of him. Just don't think about it, just do it, although I know that's hard to do.

  • Whenever I would do either, it would always start by us being all over eachother, making out and stuff. When things start to warm up or get intense, I would just slip my hand down there and get the job done.

  • Everyone starts off clueless. for the most part trust me it will come to you then you will be an expert. lol Be creative

  • Some girls practice before hand with perhaps a cucumber, banana or toy. Some may watch one on video if available. Or if you are really close with your female friends if any have already done it. Maybe they can kinda show you with with your produce. If you are considering the blowjob guys like it when you give them random eye contact. tease them a bit with some tongue flicking and licking the head too not just bobbing up and down. You may get tired by dragging it out a little if you want to tease them but they sure will go mad over it. Specially, the back side just below the head on the back of the shaft there is a pretty sensitive spot that if you flick your tongue across fast and up and down. Take you tongue towards the lower or mid area of the shaft and drag your tongue gently up. That is the way I start it off , but sometimes when you bobbing take a break by going back to some licking and flicking.