How to ask my girlfriend to do anal?

[Anonymous]

Just wondering how to ask to have anal sex.

[dakadan]

Anal sex is one of the taboo areas in America. It is something that people seem to be very interested in hearing about, but not so much in doing. I would breach it very carefully. Just ask her thoughts in many different areas of sex, not just anal. See if she has any sort of interest then explore it. If not find out why. Is it because she thinks there is something morally wrong with it or maybe it was just a knee jerk reaction.

There are lots of benefits to anal play since there are a lot of nerves there that can feel good.

If she is interested in it don't just jump right in. Use lots of lube (Eros is very good for this). You might begin using a finger to get her used to it and gradually work your way up to more. Always remember to add lots of lube and keep adding it. Getting her comfortable with it after she accepts it may be your biggest conflict down the road.

[hislover]

Be open with her during your love making. Lube is the most important thing you can keep in mind. Talk to her about it while you are fingering her and use those juices to just touch the area. Have KY or something ready though if she agrees. Reassuring her that if she is in pain, you will take it slow. The whole thing is- it is painful the first few times- right at the beginning anyway! Don't lie about that or you won't get to do it a second, third, etc. time. She has to be able to relax, trust you and cannot feel that it is the dirty deed. Have fun, hope it all works out for you. Maybe having her get on this site and read answers to what others have said would be helpful too. I love anal, hope she does too!

[dixiemt2005]

Ask her what things she has tried when she's by herself. I'm very open to ideas in the bedroom, my guy just started fingering my ass one nite. He said if you don't like it tell me to stop. I knew I loved anything anal so I encouraged him. Open communication is a must in a relationship.

[jaycee777]

Well I think it is best to ask out right. But be prepared that she may not want to, and if this is the case, you will need to respect her wishes. Its one thing having sex, but to do it this way can feel morally wrong to some if not just something they find repulsive.