I'd worry less about the mess & work on gradually stretching your sphincter so you can enjoy it. If you are comfortable getting fucked anally, it , you can focus on the pleasure you can feel from both anal stim and the clitoral stim (actually possible. Have a butterfly vibe handy- one that stimulates your clit and g-spot- you and partner can masturbate you at same time. Many women love the sensation of having so much stimulation along with degree of fullness available that way.
You can use any toy or body part when going from V to ass w/o concern but never reverse it (i. e. using toy in ass first, then V w/o total sanitizing). Have plenty of lube (water-resistant) and take it slow. Make sure you get off as many times as you want b4 anal. If it is his 1st time & he's w/o condom the tightness will make him come quickly. Make sure he knows you reserve right to back out, dictate pace etc. You are allowing yourself to be very vulnerable, psychologically & physiologically-he should respect that. There will be a small amount of shit involved, Use common sense, don't eat a 24 oz. prime rib an hour before. Don't try to "cleanse" yourself with laxatives or anything similar. Any medication that slows peristalsis; lomotil, opioids, imodium will help from anything overly messy. If an accident happens, do not feel ashamed as you are bestowing a great favor. If you want to make it kinkier, try pegging him while giving him reach around. Most men associate getting anal w/ gay sex or getting punked but having a hot woman taking your ass cherry can be a new level to your tabu breaking.
If your poop isn't mush, then using the bathroom beforehand is quite sufficient. I recommend a bidet for cleaning - softer than toilet paper on delicate parts that are about to be active. Using water from a bottle and a hand also works (do wash your hands after, eh?)
A douche can work... it's also possible it can mess up your digestion later on, and both you and your partner won't be happy if that happens. So decide how paranoid you want to be. But my gf has never douched, and she's always been really clean.
If you go to the bathroom a little while before, I promise you won't have a mess. Just use a condom and some lube to keep things easy and clean.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!A good shower maybe an enema or douche will work. Do you want the anal sex or does your bf? As you know, use a lot and I mean a lot of lube. I have only had it once and it was different (good orgasm) but my gf did not like it. Have you talked about it ahead of time? I hope your bf can get you off with his tongue or fingers before or after the anal sex, you deserve a great orgasm also. What do you think?
Also use adult wipes, aka adult baby wipes.
Just make sure you don't have to poop at all. There will be no mess. Never ever have had any incidents in all the times I've done anal.
stick a circular bar of soap up your ass.
My gf always just goes to the bathroom and sticks a finger in to check just before we get down to business. We don't believe in douches or enemas because they end up making a bigger mess in the end.
Like you said, the rectum is usually quite clean when you don't need to poop. We have been doing anal once or twice a week for several years and have rarely encountered any "problems".
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