How to deal with girl who wants sex with you but age gap is way too big though she is legal age.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who's granddaughter told me she wants me bad, I know she isn't joking around, she loves older men and is really hot and horny for me. As I said she is of legal age but the age difference is big. how do you handle telling her no, as flattered as you might be without risking her getting upset by rejection and maybe making up some story to get you in to trouble for rejecting her, if I was younger or she older it would not be so bad but not with this age gap. It is certainly a concern and awkward.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I would cut her off before she could concoct a story. Mention it to your friend immediately. Tell him/her what the granddaughter is doing and that it's making you uncomfortable and that you will be avoiding being around whenever the granddaughter is. Then mention to the grand daughter that you spoke to her grandparent and as you said - you appreciate the attention but will not engage in any type of relationship with her.

and stick to it.

[Asker]

Am certainly considering your view.

[northwestree]

If this is really a problem for you just gently tell her the age difference is uncomfortable for you. On the other hand many older men would consider this to be a dream situation, see is you can wrap your head around finding pleasure with a younger woman.

[Asker]

Being with a younger woman doesn't normally worry me, it is quite acceptable nowadays but this age gap is big, if she were older then it would be different. Yet as she is of legal age no law would be broken, but I would be going against my own morals if I allowed it to go any further.

[MissShar2k12]

Just tell her no. Don't sugarcoat anything. Just tell her no--UNLESS, you want her too. But she's your friend's granddaughter, so the situation will always be awkward. If you two have sex, every time you go around your friend you're gonna feel a little bad. Don't put yourself through that. Think about if it was your granddaughter.

[Asker]

Very good point, it is something that needs to be nipped in the bud, She is young enough to be my own daughter and I would not be happy in that situation. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

I think it's best to let her know plain and simple that you will not do that. But there might be a case where she might get really nasty about it. So it's best to let your friend know about the situation before hand. Hope you get this situation settled soon.

[Asker]

Thank you for your advice, nearly all of you have been very helpful

[standUP]

It's a good thing for you posted anonymous, just by you thinking about this is making me sick to my stomach, CREEP !

"you would if the family wasn't involved"? WTF !

[kambo_trick3y]

This is so f***ed up.

[Asker]

You are not wrong there, it is quite frustrating. I can say no, and have hinted very strongly but worried things could turn ugly.

[dudeman]

id do her if I was you

[Asker]

If there were no other dear friends involved it may not have been such an issue but when they family are such good friends it is not that simple, lose good friends for simple sex or keep friendships and say no. I know a lot of guys would be flattered and a tiny bit of me is but it is not worth it.

[dudeman]

why would you loseyour friends. she's an adult and you are not making her do anything she doesn't want to

[Asker]

Her family have very strong views on this type of behavior , and while I don't share all their views, am more open minded etc, I do have a lot of respect for them. Yes she is barely an adult but adult nonetheless, but how can a person go a head with it when you know it will ruin a very good friendship. As I said before if she was older then maybe it would not be an issue, well put it this way, the age gap is 29 years. would you still want to risk it and lose friends?

[dudeman]

if her family was OK with it I would but if they are not then I wouldnt. good people are hard to come by

[ERB62]

Give her the bone