How to get my girlfriend to be more adventurous in bed

[Anonymous]

Ive been with my girl for about 3 months. We have sex about 3 times a week which I'm fine with but she's like a sack of spuds in bed. we've only had sex in 4 different positions. Usually its her on top or me on top. we've spooned once and done doggy once in the shower which I was really surprised at. But when we have sex its just boring. Its always in the bed,lights off,her clothes are partially on and the quilts always on us. If I try an do it without the quilt she just complains that its cold( its not). If I try putting her legs on my shoulders she complai s she will get cramp. She doesn't even wrap her legs round me when we do missionary. She won't give me a blow job despite me actually liking going down on her. She won't even play with my penis cos I get to sticky.. I'm definitely more adventorous than she is an I need some advice

[AustinMan]

I'll throw rain on this parade. Step back and ask yourself: at your age, do you really want this as a sexual starting point? She's clearly pretty hung up and is never going to be the free spirit sexually that you're looking for. Sex is the engine of intimate relationships and if it's this boring, it's gonna take a great deal of your energy to move her just a little. I suggest you sit her down at an intimate dinner and just ask her a few questions: Is she happy with your sex life together? What would she like to see change? What are her fantasies? On this one, if she doesn't answer right away, shut up and wait. If fact, that's a good strategy for this conversation. Don't take her off the hook by saying something else. Ask her what it will take for her to experiment and relax in bed with you.

Let us know what happens.

[cavmanier]

She's likely partly uncomfortable with herself and with you. Being patient and trying to make the relationship better is a good route to go. You can let her know how you feel but don't pressure or stress her out about it. She has the right to do and feel how she wants.

[Izzy2102]

With how many guys did she sleep before you? Because she just seems a bit uncomfortable with the the whole sex thing. Just give it time.

You could try to make it more romantic and passionate. Find out what her favorite chick flick is and borrow some romantic gestures. Make it more about love than sex and when she feels comfortable she'll be more inclined to try new things

[Anonymous]

wow, is she super self conscious?

does she seem like she enjoys it?

i'd be pretty frustrated if I were you

you should act like her and see what happens

get her started and then just lay there

[Anonymous]

She seems really reserved. Get a book or look up some other sex positions.There's a lot of different ones, even if she's timid in bed there should be a lot of others you could try with her.

[toast25]

Get her drunk… problem solved

[Anonymous]

Try watching p*rn with her, and imitate the positions.