Hand jobs are hard to be good at. Many guys have a hard time getting off to them. Masturbation (which is pretty much what it is) is very specific to each person and requires a very specific technique at times for the person to get off. I'm sure its not much different for women. We're talking about achieving orgasm of course. It's still fun either way.
That being said I think there are just a few bullet points you should keep in mind.
1. Don't squeeze but don't hold loosely. Just an average grip like you would holding someones hand.
2. The most sensitive part of the penis is on the bottom just below the head. It looks like a little line that extends below the pee hole and down to where the shaft starts. That area is like our clit, and is what needs to be stimulated to achieve orgasm.
3. Don't touch the head of the penis too much. The head of the penis is extremely sensitive, almost to the point of being painful or uncomfortable. A little play here and there is OK, but too much can be far too intense for some guys.
4. Keep an average pace. This differs from guy to guy, but an average speed is usually universal. Pumping away like your trying to start a fire with his d*** is not going to do much for most guys and will many times be uncomfortable because of this thing called friction. Same goes if you are moving at a snails pace. A little variation though can be fun.
5. Try to keep variation to a minimum though. Just like you, us guys need a certain amount of repetition to get off. If you keep switching speeds and grips every 30 seconds, its going to be hard for us to cum. This especially holds true when we are getting close to orgasm.
6. Use lots of lube. I cannot stress this enough. If no lube is available, just try to be somewhat gentle. It can literally cause the skin to go raw if you aren't careful and don't use some sort of lube, even if its your spit or something. Also, with no lube usually means your hand doesn't slide as well which leads to you doing nothing but tugging at his d*** which hurts really bad. If your pulling his d*** out of his stomach its going hurt. It's like someone tugging at your ear. It's not a pull, its a rub, remember that.
7. Finally, have your arms prepared and ready to go a while. No matter what the circumstance, nobody gets off in 3min (typically they don't), especially with a hand job. It can take 10-15min or more to get a guy off which means you might be pretty tired by the end. Just be prepared for this.
I always have an issue with my arm getting too tired because so far the guys I have been with want it VERY fast and I just can't keep up, so I normally avoid them and go for blow jobs and all I want is too be able to give a good hand job.
well this is a kind of a personal matter, because every guy gets turned on by different stuff, some guys like it rougher then others, some like it faster, while some will simply tell you what they like, try different things with him, because its not just gripping him and moving your hand, try playing with his balls or twist your hand as you move, the head is the most sensitive part of the penis so try playing with that a little, over all just see what he likes, you'll know how erect he is, if he's softens up then try other things.
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If yes, are you using lube, or lots of spit, or dry?
Communication?
You need feedback to know you are doing well. If his reactions don't tell you, simply ask him if he likes what you are doing. Do something different and ask again. Or ask him to show you.
You could also place his hand on yours and tell him "show me how you like it". I always thought this to be the sexiest approach.
use your mouth!
My wife gives the best handjobs in the world...
1. She uses body oil for lubrication, which is so smooth that if she goes slow, I can't build enough rythmn to come ~ which is REALLY hot, because she can keep me on edge like this forever, if she wants to.
2. She gives it to me standing up, from my left side (she is left handed), and she lets me kiss her, play with her t*ts and ass with my hands. The rule is I can touch all I want, but she "dominates" the handjob. She tells me what to do.
3. She will stop abrubtly, periodically, and threaten to either not let me cum, or ruin my orgasm. Usually, after about 20 minutes of this, I am so desparate to cum, I will promise her anything she wants.
to fast is never a problem. try to seduce him anyhow.
Not true; too fast makes it lose rhythm.
i didn't mean 1MHz !
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