How to give head ? I'm clueless!

okay likeeee, how should I go about doing it, like what turns you on to start it ? like going down your pants, then grabbing your dick? do I give the guy a hand job while licking his head ? im SO clueless! please give a beginner answers. and tell me how! and do you kiss after? like will he not want to kiss after you suck his dick. ? and how do I know when to stop? sorry, but I'm nervous, but i want to give my boyfriend head.
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  • Just ask him. He'll guide you along and help you. Tell him you want to but you're unsure how.

    Assuming you've already given him handjobs, then while you're in the middle of doing that tell him you want to give him head but you want him to help you. Then help him off with his pants and find a comfortable position because after awhile your neck and your jaw and your hand and your arms are all going to start getting tired. I find it's more comfortable to have him reclined back, but still sitting up rather than laying back (like on a couch) and then kneeling on the ground in front of him between his legs. You don't have to bend over so much this way, just put a pillow underneath your knees or they'll get sore. Oh, and make sure you're hair is pulled back otherwise it'll get in the way and distract you.

    The main thing guys like is just for you to be enthusiastic about pleasuring him. My first boyfriend told me to act like it was a popsicle, which kinda works. Lick all around it, kiss his inner thighs, nibble (very gently) on the skin. If you take him in your mouth don't try to deep throat it on the first try or you might throw up. Work your way up to that. Just do what you feel comfortable doing. You can lay his penis flat over his stomach and lick the bottom side of it. Also, don't forget the balls. They're really sensitive too. And while you have him in your mouth you can pulsate your tongue against the underside by the tip (it's very sensitive there.) Just stroke him with your hands while you're going at it. Listen to the sounds he makes. You'll be able to tell if there's something in particular that he likes.

    He'll tell you if he's about to cum. You can decide what you want to do from there (swallow, spit it out, lay it against his stomach, catch it in an article of clothing.) That's something you both have to figure out before hand.

    Wow, well I hope this helps somewhat. Oh and pick up this months Cosmopolitan magazine. Become a reader. Haha. They always have really great tips and ideas in there. Good luck and have fun girl! :-)

  • Start by licking/kissing the area around the base of his penis before moving on to his shaft. Lick the length of it several times while also using your hand to rub some of your saliva on his penis (gross, but necessary to avoid friction). Remember to pay attention to the tip as this is where many of the nerve endings are (specifically on the underside of the tip).

    After a minute or so of this, put as much of his penis as you can in your mouth. Place your hand at the base of the shaft and wrap your fingers around the bottom few inches of his penis and put your lips right up against your index finger. When you move your head up and down on his penis, move your hand along with your mouth. Try not to break the seal between your mouth and hand, as this tactic helps you avoid biting his penis and getting lockjaw. It also gives the sensation of deep throating without actually having to fit 7 inches of penis down your throat.

    If you need to take a break, go back to licking up and down the shaft for a minute. If you're comfortable, feel free to lick his balls, as men seem to love this. When you make your move back to his penis, just try to keep your pace consistent until he gets off.

    Have fun and good luck!

  • I remember asking this question so many times to myself, until I finally had the guts to actually do it! Before my boyfriend, I've only given a head once, and it wasn't a good experience. I stopped immediately. But with my boyfriend, a couple nights back, I decided to try it out again! I wanted to make him happy, and that would make ME happy. So we were in a hot tub (which helps because it takes everything away but the actually feeling for him), and I started. I actually enjoyed it really(: It wasn't at all what I thought it'd be.. And I actually liked it myself. I think it really depends on the girl whether she'll like it or not, or if she's really into that guy.

    Now about HOW you give a head.. Well it's very simple. If you've never done it, don't try any teeth because you won't be experienced.. Go for full lips and tongue and don't always do the same thing. It's better to have a wide variety of things to do to him. Try also not using just your mouth.. Maybe play with the bottom portion while your giving one or anything of that genra! Hope I helped (:

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Most Helpful Guys

  • ok, so first start with something romantic, get in a romantic atmosphere. (this is to help the girl out.) then start kissing, when kissing make sure its passionate and then mount it to making out. when making out start massaging his legs, them move ur hand to his junk (keep his clothes on). ok, this is the 2nd most crucial point. if he pushes ur hand away. or seems to not enjoy it, stop it. its obviously not the time. the slow way is perfect to see if he's in the mood. ok so after massaging his junk, open his pants and take it out. start with a handjob. slowly start pumping away with his dick (start out really really slow.)

    (now here's a point ur boyfriend is most likely circumsized but he might not be I'm not D=

    ok so if ur boyfriend is circumsized.I encourage finding a good lotion to use or soft oil. Nothing that glumps up or works in to the skin to easily. Then take both hands and slowly tease your grip up and down his shaft. Watch him as you hit certain spots, his eyes and moans should let you know what spots are more sensitive than others. If he starts gettin too worked up, and you want to prolong his orgasm a little while.then move your hands down to his balls, and if you are willing.you can even finger around his ass a little. When he calms down, move back up. While stroking him, let your fingers really work his shaft good. ok this is when you should RAISE THE BAR! start going really fast, if he puts your hand on your head, tell him if ur uncomfortable. try and go as far down as you can. also. tease him a little, lick his penis and flick it with your tongue. make sure to tease him but I would reccomend to do this before you start giving him oral.

    When he is about to cum, you should know it. It is very important that you keep your stroking steady and consistant till he explodes. After he explodes, you will find that he might be super sensitive, and he needs you to stop stroking for a few seconds till some of the sensitivity goes away. But then start stroking again. it will add to his pleasure. good luck

  • Good for you. Asking a question like this shows you are being considerate and it sounds like you have given it enough thought that you aren't just jumping into it out of pressure.

    Some men will not want you to kiss them afterward. They have this misconception that it will mean they are gay or something. I have to admit I was this way for a long time. If that is the case then you might go brush your teeth if that will make them feel better.

    Starting off slowly always gets me. My partner will rub my leg and occasionally brush past my penis. This gentle teasing really gets me going. Eventually she will start to caress my penis either through my pants or have removed them to do so directly. Then she will put her mouth over my penis or lick it or kiss it, etc. She will also stroke my penis while going up and down on it.

    It all feels good and is pretty difficult to give bad oral sex. The only problem I have ever had with it is when her teeth scraped me. That hurt.

    Also, you can always ask him if he likes different things you are doing. Each person likes different things.

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  • For an adolescent male there's no such thing as a bad blow job. It's impossible. Your technique may be a bit awkward at first but your man is still going to shoot the moon! And that's not all, young one. As you explore new techniques together, your guy will grow more amazed with the explosive results while your skills improve and seek new ways to torture him into the stratosphere. Oh, eye contact during oral is a huge turn on for most guys because it increases the intimacy of the act while allowing you to see how your partner reacts to various tongue-twisting stimuli.

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  • Hey, I'll give you a few tips.

    1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.

    2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.

    3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.

    4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.

    5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.

    6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.

    7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.

    8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.

    9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone.

    10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.

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