How to make masturbation and sex less painful

[Anonymous]

So I've only just recently lost my virginity...but I've used toys for years...I can't seem to make penetration less uncomfortable...when I use a toy It gets to a point where I have to stop moving the toy in and out and just let it stay inside an orgasm. When I have sex I just have him keep going. I'm wondering how long it takes the umcomfortableness to go away? What can I do to improve it on my own alone while I'm single so its easier with the next guy?

[MrOracle]

Can you describe the pain? Does it feel like you are being stretched too much? Is it friction burn? Is it a dull ache like a bruise? Those are all different pains caused by different things.

There are also several medical issues you might have that typically cause pain during intercourse, and you really need to discuss those with your gyno, and don't give up until you have a diagnosis that seems to fit.

[Asker]

I'd say definitely a stretching and friction pain! My doctor said I'm perfectly normal :/

[MrOracle]

Stretching will get better with time, and friction happens because you are too dry. Buy some good water-based lube like Wet or AstroGlide and if you feel at all dry, stop and apply some lube before you keep going. Going dry for even a short amount of time will greatly increase the friction, and will give up something like a carpet burn down there. Ouch!

[Asker]

oh ok! I noticed there seems to be more friction with condoms...does that make sense? I want to use them for protection but they seem to cause more pain. I've never asked a guy if we could use lube because I'm young...I'm scared they will laugh? If it is because I'm tight should I not get ashamed to ask?

[MrOracle]

You might be a bit smaller/tighter than average, but the biggest thing is the condoms. Condoms don't retain your natural lube as well as bare skin, so you tend to dry out faster. Some girls naturally stay really wet the whole time, but some don't, and if/when you don't, you need to add some lube. That's totally normal and okay, even p*rn stars use it regularly. It's nothing you should be ashamed about. Condoms aren't "natural" and so sometimes you need a bit of help with them.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice! :)

[Red_Arrow]

Sounds like you are lubed well enough. Make sure to use enough lube, and replace it any time you feel yourself getting dry. If that does not do the trick, you probably need to see a doctor.

[sexyasianboi26]

Stop using toys, it will de-synthesize your p*ssy. Because you've trained your self to orgasm when using a toy.

[Asker]

nah I have no problem orgasming either way I'm simply wanting to know what to do to lower the pain.

[cheflove69]

practice makes perfect and lubrication works wonders...

[Asker]

ok tmi tmi but I do get really wet but I guess because I'm small it's just a lot of friction...I'm scared to ask lube because I guess I think men expect a girl my age to not need it...

[cheflove69]

I think age is not a factor when it comes to lube and you may get wet but you will also have friction lube is a different kind of barrier and consistency that will protect you and make it feel great because you will enjoy the experience and focus on the pleasure instead of wondering when the pain will subside...

[Anonymous]

Don't masturbare because it gets addicting :'(