How to make my boyfriend finish faster when I give him a blow job?

He lasts FOREVER, which is great if we're having sex. But terrible if I'm giving him a blow job. I usually start off by getting him very turned on then giving him a hand job just so he doesn't last as long - but it still takes at least 20 minutes. I know I'm doing a good job but I get tired so I alternate between jerking him off, using my mouth, and both at the same time. He ends up having to help, and I swallow it for him. He doesn't complain at all but I would like to be able to do it myself! Help!
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Thanks everyone but I already do all of these things with the exception of deep throating and the finger inside him (he wouldn't like that) & I can't deep throat. Workin on it though. Guess I'll just have to figure out what works best for him and deal with the length of time haha.
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  • Sounds like you really do try to give your boyfriend a great blow job so you should be highly commended for that. However, I think you're missing out on doing something really important when it comes to making a guy come fast. Start spending more time just sucking on the head and tonguing underneath on that overly sensitive protruding skin spot. Both the head and that spot is highly sensitive to a girl's sucking mouth and tongue that keeps working that spot underneath. It seems like it'd be easy to do both at the same time because my girlfriend does that all the time and she never fails to bring me immense pleasure plus getting me off as fast as she wants. Taking a guy's d*** down deep or up and down the shaft doesn't bring anywhere near as much pleasure. Doing all that is only as good as it stimulates those two spots I just mentioned. Think of those as two triggers. Mess with those for a bit and you're going to have a guy that cums just like you want as well as enjoying it more than before. Also, you'll be able to use one of your hands to hold and slowly jack him off and/or play with is balls at the same time if you want. Get the head in your mouth and start sucking as if you're trying to suck his come out of him. He'll be begging you to slow down but don't listen until he blows. You'll be able to do all by yourself and he'll never cease to be thanking you. You'll be so proud of yourself at how good you've gotten. Good luck!

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  • abw121290 actually said it: you're already doing a very fine job.

    Some guys just take longer. Like girls we occasionally have to "think" ourselves over the top.

    2 things ALWAYS feel good. Wet and slippery... and your tongue. Swirl it around and around the head when he is in your mouth, as well as when he's out. It may not necessarily make him lose it- but it will sure as hell feel good... and that's never a bad thing!

    Balls are highly sensitive things- never ignore them. Licking, tonguing, and sucking all feel awesome. Basically- never leave them alone, whatever else you may be doing.

    Using your hand (as well as mouth) is what will probably bring him there faster... most of the time. Be slippery... alternate the two. When he starts getting close, go faster and harder- especially with your hand. If you like him exploding in your mouth, put him in just before he does... or as he goes off.

    He is used to his own and he knows exactly what he wants (just when he wants it)... which is why he usually takes over. A lot of girls are this way too.

    If you're up for it, slide a very slippery finger (eventually 2) in him as he's building up and getting closer to climax. Start slowly but soon begin moving in and out fast. He WILL like it. Keep it up all the way- well into his orgasm. Warning: He will come unusually hard and intensely- and you will be... well... covered.

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  • I love to give my husband a good BJ... I like rough gagging mascara running bj's. Take it deeper, all the way and once his balls are on your chin instead of using your head to go back and forth just use your throat like a swallowing motion with out moving your head. In fact it helps if the he pushes on your head so you can't move it. Serious just use your throat and over come the gagging sensation.

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    • Not if you've got a killer gag reflex.

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  • do it faster

    • Not possible I'm afraid.

  • maybe try deepthroating, perhaps just fondling the jewels, mixing sucking with stroking, perhaps rub him on your boobs. I would try varying things up. Also ask him what he really likes while you're doing it. This will do two things, 1) really turn him on that you would ask and 2) give you an idea of really gets him going.

  • It sounds like you are doing a really good job.. I would play with his balls and flick your tongue on him at the same time. If you are using your tongue and hands, and massaging his balls, he will come faster for you.

    • I already do that haha. Thanks though.

    • Some guys just last longer. but you are doing great!

  • How many guys have you blown already? and where?

    • One... Just him. Why, what are you implying exactly?

  • 20min isn't necessarily that long.

    I think it comes down to two things.

    1. How often and how recently did he ejaculate? If a guy is having sex/masturbating quite frequently and recently, it will become harder to achieve an orgasm. For example, if a guy just masturbated once a day for the last week, and then you give him a BJ, he's going to last really long. If he hasn't came in 3-5 days however, he'll be really sensitive. However, this can be hard for some guys to control considering the fact that most guys masturbate and or have sex almost daily (or would at least like to).

    2. Your simply not hitting the right spot. Though I find its next to impossible for a girl to give a bad BJ, there is something that you should just be aware of. The most sensitive spot on the penis that is responsible for our orgasm, is the spot on the botton of the penis right where the head connects with the shaft. It almost looks like a line that extends down from the pee hole to where the forskin is/used to be. Basically alone that line is like our equivalent of our your clit. Use your tongue to hit message that spot.

    • It's *youre and I am! Sometimes. I usually end up sitting on his chest and giving him a blow job that way though because he's very girthy and curves upwards so that's the easiest position otherwise he hits my teeth. So sometimes I do play with that. Doesn't seem to make a difference.