Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Rape is a big problem in today's society. It's not unusual to hear about friends or relatives who have been sexually abused in the past because they were too underdressed. And I blame the girls because they "are asking for it".
I think the girls should learn what they shouldn't do/dress to avoid these situations.
So here are 5 ways to avoid to get raped
1. Underdress
This might be the most obvious one. If you dress in short shorts or a short skirt, you have to expect people looking or touching. It's bound to happen!
2. Hair
You shouldn't have your hair out, because that means somone can grab it and drag you away somewhere. Remember this when you curl your hair next time!
3. Shoes
If you wear high heels, your sexy legs will show, and we can't have that, can we? Use low shoes and your butt won't be the first thing people will look at.
4. Respect
Respect the men you are talking to. If you get rude or say something wrong it's your own fault if they want to punish you.
5. Don't go alone
You shouldn't go alone in the street. You are a easy victim, you brought it upon yourself!
For the people out there that agree with me:
You are a awful person. If you can't see how sick it sounds to "prepare" somone and say that they are bringing it upon themself. It's NEVER the victims fault.
If somone gets abused with a hammer, would you ask them if they wore thongs? Or if them somehow triggered this person to hit them with the hammer? If they were telling the person clear enough that "No I don't want to get hit by a hammer".
The men (or women) that think it's okay to force somone into sexual acts should really seek help. Short skirts are NOT an invitation. It's simply somone who wants to wear a short skirt.
I hope the people reading this thinks about this next time they ask the victims what they were wearing. Instead of blaming the victim we should punish the person who did those things.
What Girls & Guys Said
49 84Wow this was shockingly pleasant, Thank you so much for that note on the end because I disagreed with Most of the things stated here. Dressing a certain way does not give the green light to Fucking rape, sorry bro. Guys can control themselves Just fine around other dudes and dress however way they want, but people always want to punish a woman because he couldn't keep it in his pants because that red skirt just Happened to look "slutty" and he was having a "bad day" You want to prevent rape? Here's a tip. You and your boys (or girls or friends of any nature) Learn to fight, suit the fuck up (any weapon used for self defense that is not exactly a life ender but could be. Example: Knives, brass knuckles, shanks, tasers) just in case your walking home at night, walk in a group and if a man is having a "Bad day" tear both of his bad days off and shove it up his ass. See if that'll brighten it right up with some high notes. God I'm sick of people justifying these cruel acts. You can't control yourself? Wear a damn blindfold or check yourself into a mental hospital. Only then will the world be a better place.
Damn, I was about to pull out my pan and smack you in the face with it. Thank goodness I read the last part.
Lol the title tho
you really got me xD
If you have no reason to put yourself into a potentially dangerous situation but do it anyway, you're not going to get the same sympathy compared to say, someone who was beaten up and raped by an intruder into their own home.
I fully advocate harsh punishments for the crime, but with some victims i would feel somewhat indifferent even if i think the perpetrator should get 15 years solitary. He will pay for his crime and she should have taken up her friend's offer for a ride home, case closed move on.
good tips!
I waa going to say so, e points make sense. Like as a guy I wouldn't walk in a gang ridden town and not expect to be robbed, in the same respect id expect a women/man to know if she/he wants to ride the danger wave, certain risks come with it... and rape is one of them. You can't expect to tell a rapist not to rape, thats what they do... but you can expect to tell women or men to take extra precautions and be safe.
Like carrying a stack full of cash is asking to be robbed. What do you think? Leaving your door open and put a pile of cash in your car, sounds like a good idea to you?
If you live alone and have money without any decent security then you are asking them thieves to visit you.
Because it's not the victim's fault doesn't mean people should risk it. There ought to be an "uncommon stupidity" prevention law somewhere.
Someones body isn't comparable to a stack of cash.
@Mayamoon02 Perhaps not but the incentive is the same. Meat invite animals, cash invite thieves and sexy body invite rapists. Just because something is a crime, people won't do it. We wouldn't have criminals and prisons otherwise.
Why do you blame conservative men for rape when if it were up to us, every woman would have a revolver in her purse? You can blame the beta males on the Left for disarming you because they believe that a plastic whistle is a more efficient rape stopper than cold steel.
OK I can really feel the intense straw manning just from the first point.
I'm an awful person if I think there are precautions you could take to prevent rape? I agree that if someone thinks it's the girls for fault getting raped then they are a terrible person but this post makes it seem like girls shouldn't be careful or take caution to avoid getting into situations like that. If I walk in a dark alley with cash falling out of my pockets and I got mugged, of course it wouldn't be my fault but there are definitely things I could have done that could have prevented that.
I think the message should be to tell rape victims that of course it's not their fault, but still teach people to use their fucking heads and try to avoid dangerous situations. Telling someone to not go alone at night is not being sexist, thats just good advice and shows you care about their well being.
I did all of the above and it still happened to me. So it's not really 100% true.
So sorry to hear that. *hug*
I was getting seriously pissed off until I got to the second one. Well done!
The grammar in this. Jesus.
(It's terrible)
Your both right and stupid at the same time.
Lame.
Don't teach girls how to not be raped teach not to rape in the first place
How do you teach someone not to do something? Rape is already illegal. Do you know how justice works? Sounds like you want liberty to risk any danger without consequence.
@SnatchFinderGeneral I see your point but if simply trying to teach one HS class to respect each other a little better might prevent one sexual offense theocrats one less life turned upside down and bit might not revolutionise the world but it helped someone (also sorry for the gender roles I get that that isn't always the case)
If you don't want a starving person to steal your food, you don't teach them not to steal food, you give them the opportunity to guarantee their own food.
@SnatchFinderGeneral I'm sorry but I think those are two incompatible scenarios that really can't be compared
They don't have to be compatible to be compared lol. It is analogous. And since you give no reason why, my only response is that saying something doesn't make it so.
@SnatchFinderGeneral Well maybe we'll just have to agree to disagree on this one
You don't confine people to a society without that society providing sufficiently for human needs. You will get resistance.
@SnatchFinderGeneral ok so we're just disagreeing...
Umm, ok. Can you actually tell me in words what you actually disagree with?
@SnatchFinderGeneral you saying there is no point in educating kids and teens about the topic
Right. Because that's like teaching people not to get so hungry that they steal. So how do they do that exactly?
There are certain types of assault that probably education would help with. But not many. TBH, this happens more in some more traditional cultures, where you have guys who think 'oh she came to my apartment because she wanted sex, and she expects me to be pushy because she doesn't want to look like a slut'. But those attitudes are fading. As far as I can tell, most rapes are done by a core group of likely sociopaths who do it repeatedly. The problem isn't that they don't understand consent, in fact a significant number of them are specifically wanting to get sex without consent. The problem is that a few percent of the population has no empathy for other people, and no conscience. Teaching these groups to have empathy doesn't work at all. The brightest members of the group simply learn how to feign empathy and manipulate people more effectively.
I was gonna start this whole rant... GOOD thing i read the last part.
How to reduce your chances of being a victim. Don't do dumb stuff, don't get so drunk that you don't understand what's going on, be situationally aware, trust you gut, if it seems dangerous don't do it. In an unknown situation don't go alone. Etc. To say that it's "never the vctims fault" is a misnomer what you are saying is that "you were completely powerless to avoid the situation. It's like telling someone who stuck a fork in a power socket, "oh it's not your fault, it's juat that the socket is mean" you can't learn from that.
One of the things a victim needs to hear is that "you did this right" and analyzing the situation is the way that people learn. No clothing and hair is not a factor, but walking down a dark ally at night alone is. Don't take the power away from yourself and others just to prove a political point.
I absolutely understand your point and I agree! But still it shouldn't have to be that way. Girls should be able to go down a street alone without getting assaulted.
There are F'd up people in this world, and pathology is just that sickness. There is no way to reduce pathology before the individual does something screwed up. There maybe warning signs but someone has to catch them, understand them and react appropriately to them. People should be able to go down the streets alone without being assaulted, but that is simply not the world we live in. And this, honestly, is not a gendered issue guys face a lot of the same F'd up situations girls do.
I was about to go on a rant until I read the end. Good take!
Or you could just use common sense and not walk around in bad neighborhoods, area's with high crime rates or just being alone at night in general not unless your packing anyway. Not go out to bars alone and get wasted and or not to accept drinks from complete strangers you've never seen before.
Why do women say 'men can stop rape' and then when we do what we can to protect them they turn on us and accuse us of rape apology? Is it because... is it because... is it because by trying to protect women from rape we are acknowledging that rape exists and are therefore condoning it? Does it seem like we are 'accepting' rape if we try to protect them, because we are saying "there is rape" and they say "well their shouldn't be"? Or is it because we are seen as rapists? I don't get it :(.