How to prepare for anal sex (Hygiene wise)?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend (he just became my boyfriend) wants to try anal sex with me. We have been sexually active before but never tried anal sex. I'm worried about some unpleasant stuff happening during it. Is it enough to have a normal bowel movement and a shower? or do I actually have to go an buy enema (I really don't want to) :/ but I will if showering/normal bowel movement isn't enough. Ladies, if you have experienced anal sex, what method did you use to avoid any embarrassing situations? Also, did it really hurt the first time?

[MrOracle]

I'll repost something from an earlier post on the subject:

The short version:

- Get some good water-based sex lube, like Wet or AstroGlide.

- Make sure you go to the bathroom a couple of hours before, then shower and clean yourself well. You can use an enema if you are totally paranoid, but if you prepare as I mention here, that's probably overkill.

- Have him slowly work a lubricated finger into you. I said SLOWLY. Get used to having something in there, moving around and such. When YOU are ready, have him use a second finger. Go as slow as you need to in order to be comfortable. If you get to the point where he can move his fingers around a bit without any discomfort, and hopefully with a bit of pleasure, then he can try his penis.

- He needs to agree, and be absolutely clear, that if you tell him to stop, he will STOP moving immediately, and if you tell him to pull out, he will pull out immediately. YOU control the show here.

- After he's lubed up, have him SLOWLY work his way into you. It actually helps if you push out a bit, because that opens you up easier. The goal is to get him inside you and then STOP and give you a chance to adjust to something that size being in you.

- If you are still feeling okay, he can start slowly, gently thrusting. If you feel there is too much friction, have him add a little more lube, and you may need to do this a couple of times.

- If you are still okay, he can pick up the pace a bit. You direct him.

For most girls, the first time, even done right, is such a new sensation that it's hard for the girl to know what to think. If you followed my steps and went slowly, there shouldn't be much if any pain, but the sensation will still be new and different, and you might need some time to get used to it. Usually, by the second or third time, the girl starts to enjoy it (she grows used to the sensation, and isn't as stressed about it, and so can start to enjoy it), and then, she will usually ask for it from time to time when she's in the mood.

Trust with your partner is KEY. You must be able to trust him that he will follow your instructions, including stopping and pulling out if you tell him to. If you can trust him, you'll be able to relax, and that makes a HUGE difference in how you will find the experience.

Make sure he knows that this is NOT like p*rn; he can't just ram it in you and have you love it. He's got to work at it too, and make some sacrifices of his own in the beginning.

Using this method, every girl I've ever tried it with has liked it and asked for it again. But, you can't skip the steps, at least in the beginning. After the fifth or sixth time, you may not need to do the finger-stretching part, and you might be able to move fairly quickly from insertion to thrusting, but you have to follow the girl's lead. If she gets comfortable and is ready to move along the process faster, she'll know it and she'll tell you.

[Dxtrsnstr]

There's a long version?

[MrOracle]

@Dxtrsnstr Yes.

[0ddjob]

Don't worry so much about the enema. But do brush your teeth.

[Anonymous]

This could just be my bad luck but the one time I tried it, I had pooped and showered before, and a tiny bit of poop was on his d*** when he pulled out lol. So I don't know. But if you trust him enough to want to have anal sex with him you really shouldn't be that embarrassed if it does happen. Of course it was a little embarrassing for me but we both knew where he was putting his d*** and knew what could happen so we just laughed it off. So don't worry if it happens! And it didn't hurt that much because I was super turned on and he went really slow, the biggest issue was getting used to the feeling of something going in a hole where things only go out lol. It just felt really weird the whole time.

[MarcoUSA]

Ummmm... is it wrong that gave me a boner? I bet you tried it again, and the weird feeling has gone away. You cum with it now?