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How to prepare for anal sex?

My boyfriend and I are going to have anal for the first time in a few days and he told me I need to prepare but how? Neither of us have tried it and I know we need to use a lot of lube but he said I need to get my asshole used to something in it and my fingers won't work. I don't h e a dildo or anything like that so what do I do?
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OMG it was AMAZING! finally had anal today. We had broken up..long story he's been cheating on me the entire time and other stuff...but today we got together and had anal. We just used a lot of lube. No real prep. I will definitely be doing it again. I didn't cum, he didn't last very long!
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Oh boy, it's an exciting time for the guy and a nervous time for the girl! Love it.

    So here's the skinny on back door action. Some people recommend an enema about 2-3 hours prior. I'm not sure its necessary but it might make you more comfortable knowing its perfectly clean in there. if you do, READ THE DIRECTIONS CAREFULLY. doing it wrong can be... BAD.

    If you don't just make sure you have a good sit down a few hours prior to clean the path. Don't try it if it's been to soon after, the anus has a lot of physically triggered muscles that don't fully relax back to normal right after a #2 so trying to go the wrong way down that one-way will definitely land you a ticket.

    I highly highly recommend that to prep you experiment/play with some of your fingers to get used to what you will experience. Anal is 100% reliant on how relaxed you are, for both of you. If it's all new and too weird you are going to tense up and it will suck for both of you.

    I also highly recommend "wet platinum" lube. My girl swears by it and despite trying others it is now a prerequisite and the only acceptable option. No WP, no tailgating.

    If you can get your hands on a small but plug my girls swears that playing with that a few days in advance really prepares the brain. Just get it in there and back out a couple times and training is over.

    Ok, now to technique. first and foremost LUBE LUBE LUBE. no such thing as too much, but don't ever just squirt it up there on it's own. Just dump it all over whatever is going in and refresh it often. Also a finger or two dripping with lube in and out a few times will help tremendously just before you start.

    get the "item" (cock or toy and LUBED UP) at the opening and just press it against slightly. Slowly increase pressure pushing in, and at the same time push your anus out like you are doing some business. The muscles are designed to only open by pushing out, so anything else will just make them lock up and in. This is really important since if he is pushing and you pull back at the same time that’s when tears and damage can happen.

    Now except the fact right now that it’s going to feel basically like your are taking the biggest sh*t ever. BUT if you relax and try not to fight that backwards feeling of something going the wrong way it can eventually subside.

    Now most people don’t talk about this, but your body does some weird stuff at this moment. It kicks on your sympathetic nervous system and as a result you have to fight your body’s natural reaction to stop/pull away. You will eventually get used to this, but the first time might be just shell shock.

    After you’ve gotten the hang of pushing out when something is going it and just relaxing when it’s coming out, you have the basics. Just try and RELAX RELAX RELAX and eventually your body will stop focusing on weird sensations and let the nerves turn on.

    You absolutely can orgasm VERY POWERFULLY from anal sex, but only if you are extremely relaxed and have th

    • the rhythm down. Make sure your guy starts suuuuuuuuuper slow, and only pushes in when you tell him. Once he is all the way in, have him just rock a little back and forth until you get used to that, then increase speed and the amount of movement little bit at a time. When you are fully relaxed he should be able to thrust at normal sex pace and you will be in sensory overload. I also highly recommend masturbating with your clit as much as you can to keep your brain distracted and focused on

    • the ?good? sensations to try and filter out the other ones. Good luck! And remember, RELAX and LUBE!

    • This guy has it right, absolutely. Lube, fingering, relaxation. I've been with a couple girls who used to ask me to f*ck them in the ass regularly, they got off so hard from it. Have fun.

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  • Anal sex increases the chance off developing anal cancer, anal sex will eventually lead to pink sock, anal leakage, infection from tearing off the inner walls off the rectum, E coli, hepatitis A, hepatitis B, hepatitis C, intestinal parasites, chlamydia infection, poliomyelitis, human papillomavirus (HPV), gonorrhea, Herpes simplex virus, conjunctivitis, prolapse.

    Here is an example of pink sock actually happening link

    Things like lube and having slow intercourse will slow down the rate this will happen but the rectal walls are surprisingly extremely weak and will eventually callapse, they are not designed for penetration

    Guys that like anal sex whether they admit it or not, have been brainwashed by too much p*rn, I find it disgusting about the whole taboo idea, I don't buy the "I like it because its taboo" its NOT TABOO anymore. It used to be but its became pretty normal now, monkey see, monkey do. ass to mouth is just something new whatever p*rn shows guys will follow

    If you want to do anal sex to loosen up your asshole, make sure you use LOTS of lube so you can slow down the rate prolapse will happen and leakage and not often, your butt is not designed for it but whatever I can't stop you, do what you like I'm just giving out facts

    • A prolapse won't happen from gentle anal. You linked a hardcore, weird video.

    • Lol @ chlamydia, HPV, gonorrhea and herpes. If her boyfriend has those diseases and they have (normal) sex regularly, she'll get all of those anyway, but if he doesn't, having anal sex won't make them magically appear out of nowhere. Given that you claim to be 'just giving out facts' but are wrong (or perhaps intentionally extremely misleading) on something so basic casts a fair amount of doubt on the validity of the rest of your answer.

    • You don't understand how weak the anal muscle are do you? any ass that can stretch like that can deffinitly prolapse and will

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Lube, lube, lube...you can never have too much lube. Generally you need to work up to anal sex, fingers- toys- then an actual penis. As you've said you don't have toys I'd go with Belgie's advice on the cucumber, but fingers will work a bit. It takes a little while to get used to relaxing your muscles- when he enters you, he needs to go like one inch, then out, then in again with another inch, then out again and repeat until he's in you- don't just try to get the whole thing in on one go. Also- to relax your muscles you actually need to push- as if you're pushing something out like when you're on the toilet- it opens your sphincters and lets him get in. Take it slowly and eventually it won't hurt that much, and then it may be pleasurable (it isn't for all girls).

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  • Why won't your fingers work?

    • Tough angle, too small.

    • ^what he said

    • Err... tough angle? I only ask, because that's worked for me... Anyway, what Belgie said.

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  • You could try slipping a condom over something phallic shaped, but which is not too stiff or sharp or prone to break.

    Cucumber is the most obvious. Cut to a thinness you feel comfortable with. Make sure it's long enough that you can always reach it. Increase thickness over time.

    • That's a good idea...

    • I highly recommend against using any type of food anywhere near your anything but mouth. Get a toy that is made from medical grade plastics that won't hurt you, get stuck, break, or make you sick. If you want your butt to stay function and not wear a diaper you're whole life, don't mess around.

  • Anal sex can lead to cancer, I personally am not a fan. However, LUBE LUBE LUBE and luck !

    • I know to use lube I just want to get used to something in my ass before my boyfriend and I do it and want tips on how to do that

    • What doesn't cause cancer now a days?

    • That is a true statement but if you know something causes it 100% than you should try to avoid it, if your smart.

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