How to teach my boyfriend to go down on me?

[Anonymous]

how do I get my boyfriend to do this? he doesn't know how apparently.

[rainydaydreamaway]

Some ideas (a few already mentioned):

Have him watch you get yourself off... say 'look but don't touch' - he will like it!

Use toys specifically designed for the clit... also have him watch or have him use them on you.

Porn is a great idea, especially as already mentioned, girl on girl as it really shows what is being done.

And the best suggestion - practice practice practice!

Is he open to learning this? Some guys' egos get a bit hurt when they realize what they're doing isn't working for you. How does he do with his hands? Is he able to bring you off with his fingers? if not, he doesn't maybe know what turns you on and you need to show him.

It's important for him to understand (and you too) that the goal is not always orgasm... explore the sensual together for a while without even trying to have an orgasm. Learn to read each others bodies in other ways... massage, playful wrestling, etc. Learning to just be comfortable with the other person's body goes a long way towards creating real deep pleasure.

You are both at a great age for learning and discovering together - it can really be a blissful, close adventure you share together... as long as you are both open with communicating about it.

Good luck and happy teaching!

[megall2]

first you need to find a position you like i.e. doggy, missionary,cow girl and instead of having sex have him perform oral on you that way. be assertive and if he is down there chances are he doesn't mind so don't be afraid to guide him. when you are alone feel yourself and see what you like and tell him to do the same only with his tongue. compliment, compliment,compliment! let him know it feel good and he'll try even harder to please you. moan lots but only when it feels good and when it doesn't tell him guys want to know what they are doing right or wrong so telling him will benefit the both of you. I wish you lots of luck and hppiness ;-)

-megan

[madmisskelly]

you can guide him, or you can have him watch porn. Any porn involving oral sex will do. You can even have him watch girl on girl porn. The way girl on girl is set up- they always show a lot of oral sex that and girls know what girls like. so have him watch that

when I wanted to know how to give head, I watched porn, or read cosmopolitan.

[daveyjones]

Tie his hands behind his back, sit on the end of the bed, have him kneel then give subtle hints i.e. "up a bit", "lick inside", "run your tongue slowly up", "suck it", "lick it faster", you get the idea!

He'll be eager to have the use of his hands again and he'll be eager to bring you off in order for that to happen. It's a win win situation!

[Chasee]

well if you want him to do it. then tease him alittle bit then tell him he has to do that if he wants anything.

and if its just simply trying to teach him.

well the ntell him how to do it.

all it is is simply licking and movement with your tongue haha.

[audreymarie21]

my boyfriend didn't use to be very good at it, but then I saw on here someone posted "spell the ABC's with your tongue" I guess it was something some comedian had said before, but I told my boyfriend and he made me orgasm... so maybe it was first said as a joke, but it worked for me, and it was an easy instruction to give to my bf.

[Asplode]

If he's willing to do it, then just ask him, and tell him you'll guide him. When he's doing it, give him feedback, let him know what to do

[bennynthejets]

just like riding a bike...practice practice practice. and don't be afraid to coach a little bit. and if you want him to do it more, set it up as a trade off for something he likes.

[matthew88]

Start a cute little wrestling match and pin him down with your crotch on his face.