How to tell him I like it rough? lol

[sweetNsaltyseals]

Sounds like a silly question, but when it comes to sex I like to be taken advantage of a little bit lol... not like whips and chains or rape or anything lol... But I don't like to be asked questions like "how do you want it" or anything... I don't wanna make decisions I just wanna do it lmfao. The guy I'm seeing now we haven't had sex, but we've discussed it and he's the exact opposite I think. This is gonna sound kinda lame but we "sext" sometimes and he always seems to want me to come up with everything rather than suggest what he wants you know? Also, is that something all guys do? Every guy I've dated seems to do that. lol

[l-hedoniste]

"I don't like to be asked questions like 'how do you want it' or anything"

EXTREMELY counterproductive. You want something from your partner, something *specific*, but you don't want to tell him and you don't want him to ask? Recipe for disaster.

"I don't wanna make decisions I just wanna do it"

If a guy said this to you, would you think him responsible, or even sane? Please rethink this.

You should also know that anyone who's seriously into rough sex would find this a turn-off and a dealbreaker. Poor communicators tend to be irresponsible and unsafe, both physically and emotionally. It's why we negotiate so much.

[poulette12]

Okay, I was in that situation. You're going to tell him up front. Be honest otherwise you won't get what you want! Make it sexy as in "Baby, I like it when you do this or that.."