How to tell my one night stand I'm pregnant?

[Anonymous]

i had a one night stand with a guy just over a month ago and now im pregnant. im still in contact with him but how do i tell him?

[btbc92]

Tell him that you're pregnant. You made the choice to have sex, you should have known what the consequences would be. Don't hound him, don't pressure him. But be genuine and honest with what has happened with you. Make sure you have NOT had sex with anybody else since him, and is not seeing anybody. Because this si going to be tough. Don't expect him to pay for child support. If you keep the child, which I pray you do, get a DNA test and make sure that he is aware that this is a child he conceived with you. He should have a choice to decide to be in this baby's life or not. I can't tell you what to do. But you seriously need to save yourself for marriage to have sex. Because god forbid you could have got an STD.

[babyshark22]

what a judgmental and thoroughly unhelpful response. shame on you

[btbc92]

There is nothing judgmental about what I said. The truth is when you have premarital sex you are responsible and accountable for everything that you've done including giving birth and conceiving a child into this life. If people can't handle the truth then they'd shouldn't have to be complaining about it. There is nothing unhelpful what I had said. It's only unhealthy because a lot of you people want to do what you want to do without consequences but you call yourselves adults. You don't realize you're not just hurting yourself you're hurting other people with your choices. If I don't say something somebody's going to say something. And if I say nothing then I'm lying.

[btbc92]

I don't see how in the world can you come on here tell me I'm judgmental but me while we had to make judgment calls every single day in our lives and that includes dealing with other people. Unless you saying you want other people to think for you? You don't want other people to be judgmental towards your decisions make the right judgment calls every day of your life.

[Paris13]

Sit him Down, and no clowning Around And tell Him... The Truth.
He may even Question you with, "How do I know I am the father?" And if this is the Case, it's just a Lame Duck Excuse to merely Excuse himself out of What should be his Responsibility, Here, dear.
Good Luck. xx

[TuMeManques]

Tell him you need to meet, preferably in the daytime and somewhere public so he doesn't think you're looking to hookup again. Then you tell him basically "I got pregnant when we slept together and I thought you had a right to know about it."
Good luck

[Scooby225]

Honestly speaking all morals, and sentiment aside. Tell him or not, when it comes down to it he really has no choice in the matter. Rather you have the baby or not is up to you. He really has no say. The only thing that effects him is him paying child support. And if he doesn't he's just gonna be shamed as a dead beat dad. It was a one night stand so you two barely know each other. If he's good he'll try to help out with the child and act like a father. Though you two may or may not be together. It would be nice to warn him about how complicated his life is about to become

[Anonymous]

first, if you had a one night stand with a guy that means he barley knows you. People these days are weary of girls lying about whos baby they are pregnant with. First you need to prove that is his child because If I had sex with some random women and she calls a month later saying that, I wouldn't know what to think since I dont really know her like that.

[Asker]

yeah we do know each other sort of we went to college together

[Opinion Owner]

still, do you KNOW eachother on a personal level where he can trust what you are telling him? this is a very serious subject and will be life changing for the both of you. He has to know without a doubt that you are not trying anything funny.

[Asker]

we where in the same class and we do talk

[Opinion Owner]

yeah you do talk, but does he trust you?

[Asker]

yes no maybe i do not know sorry

[Opinion Owner]

why sorry? lol.. Just give him a reason to trust him. Show that you are trust worthy by saying you are willing to prove it. Trust builds relationships. do you want to be with him, or?

[Asker]

i do not know but i am more than willing to give him a dna test if he wants i have nothing to hide

[Opinion Owner]

having nothing to hide is something that most people respect it shows that you are a genuine person. You should tell him in person a text might not sit so well.

[Asker]

yeah but he moved away 2 weeks ago

[Opinion Owner]

how far away did he move?

[Asker]

2 hours away which is far where i life as i live in the uk and i do not drive

[Opinion Owner]

ok well request to see him as it is important

[Asker]

i will try thanks for being understanding

[Opinion Owner]

np hope things work out for you

[Asker]

thanks i will keep you updated on what happends

[Opinion Owner]

alright

[StainedClass]

I'd like to know what happens too.

[Asker]

@StainedClass letting you know it looks like i may be a single mom

[evelyn26]

Good thing you are still contact. I would suggest you tell him. Tell him in person. Think hard what you want to do. Do you want a baby from some one night stand? I would think no? Would you be able to afford it? Etc

[Asker]

i am not killing my baby

[SaintDamage]

@Asker You're the boss, that's the right attitude! Admirable.

[evelyn26]

If you don't want to the no one can force you. I know I would if the baby had an illness No child should suffer and much less in this cruel world

[GirlNextBored]

Just straight out tell him. He needs to know and you need to be able to make plans based on decisions y'all decide to make from this point forward.

[Asker]

yeah i get i have to tell him but how

[GirlNextBored]

Boldly tell him. Don't best around the bush just tell him. You are still in contact with him, ask him to dinner or call him and tell him

[Asker]

i am only in contact with him like facebook and text as he moved away 2 weeks ago

[GirlNextBored]

Tell him you need to talk to him if he won't let you call them send him message over Facebook. He needs to know

[Asker]

i will try thanks for being understanding and i will let you know how it goes ok

[Asker]

looks like i am being a single mom

[lumos]

You call him, tell him you have something important to explain, meet him up in person and let him know what has happened.

[itiskissie]

You should tell him. Both of you are responsible for that baby... so. Are you keeping the baby?

[Asker]

yes i am keeping the baby i will not kill my baby i could never live with myself if i killed my baby

[itiskissie]

Sure, but tell him straight out. Make a plan and just go from there.. he should know though and you should also listen to what he wants to do. Important... you guys will figure it out

[Asker]

i hope so

[Elarra]

First, I recommend you tell him in person, maybe in a public place like a coffee shop or something so you don't feel self conscious. But don't do it over the phone or through text because that will make it easy for him to run away.

[misstalia_95]

Why didn't you take Plan B? Anyway, it's too late now. Hope you're okay with not getting any sleep for at least the first year.

[failinglove]

''Hi, I don't know how to tell you this really but it turns out I have AIDS, I'm so sorry...''

''Whaaat? Whaaaat? Are you serious?''

''Nah bruh, I'm just joking, I'm only pregnant with your child''

''Oh okay, damn, don't sc... Whaaaat?''

[Lynx122]

You should take you hand smack it on your face and then just like leave it there for a while.

[Maxine_Payne]

Like most of the suggestions on here, I'd also suggest to tell him in person. However, be prepared that he might not want anything to do with the child or even pay for child support.
Good luck!

[dannymexico90]

You tell him in person and you don't back him into a corner with this baby. I would recommend an abortion if he doesn't like the idea. If he's Mexican though he will probably jump for joy and give you a ring

[TripleAce]

Tell him its time to take out the chedder cause baby lucy is guna cost daddy an arm and a leg 😏

[BeautifulPromisesx]

LMAO gag needs to chill with these pics ffs

[Nikki267]

there is no easy way to do it, but maybe text him saying I need to talk to you why don't we go for a coffee or something and just blurt it out, its going t shock him no matter what

[Paultripps]

Have to just tell him. No other way around it. Waiting won't make it any easier. And YES tell him. He has every right to know even if you aren't going to keep it...

[MaiaPapaya]

Refrain from having sex next time. wow. Tell him you're pregnant. You kind of have to now.

[Prof_Don]

The main suggestion I have; tell him in person

[Rachel_is_gay]

Show him your pregnancy test pic with a "bitch I'm pregnant" caption below

[CoolSky01]

just tell him to set up a monthly payment for the next 18 years, he will get the hint.

[Nora_90]

"Hey so I need to tell you something, I'm not gonna hide it and I need to tell you, so I'm going to say it now. I'm pregnant."

[Asker]

yeah but im scared he will not want the baby

[Nora_90]

Better to tell him than keep it from him. I hope you are able to look after a child of course?

[Asker]

oh i think i am as i have my family to help me and i do have a job

[Nora_90]

Oh okay that's good to hear. And the guy you slept with. Did you like him?

[Asker]

yes i did and still do as we went to college together and we are friends sort of but we got drunk at a party and you know the rest

[jacquesvol]

Show the test or use words

[MysteriousDarkness]

Talk to him in person and say you are pregnant. Not hard to do.

[Deathraider]

Well either just tell him or don't.

[WD2017]

You should have worn a condom. You could have gotten AIDS. Not cool. You don't know how 'not cool' that is.

[babyshark22]

you know what else is "not cool"? your remarkably obtuse and unhelpful answer. this is an advice forum, not a place to shame people. get it straight

[__Victoria__]

Tell him directly you don't need to hesitate. He has to know

[Nahid1234]

You aren't happy?

[awanti95]

You should think before sex or must use condom.

[Dr_Latex_McPeggin]

You contact him and let him know you need to talk in person and then tell him outright...

[blackwolf3x]

Directly

[casperj3]

just be point blank with him

[Paperless_Spider_Ass]

Best way would be to do it in person. That way you can see the look on his face. Maybe it will tell you more about him.

[Anonymous]

'tf is that picture for?

[Asker]

i did not put that pic there the site did

[Opinion Owner]

gag (you're stupid)

[Anonymous]

you just straight up tell him.. he needs to be prepared for 18 years of paying child support :(

[Anonymous]

You bruh you're a dad now!

Joking, sat with him and tell him calmly.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't because it's the girls choice and Abortion.

[Paultripps]

She can still make that choice, but he has the right to know. Girls who do this are super fucked up...

[Asker]

@Paultripps i am going to tell him as i think he does have the right to know

[Paultripps]

Good for you. Don't understand women who think it's ok otherwise

[Asker]

@Paultripps i dont understand too sure im the one pregnant but it is his child too but dont get me wrong it is my choice if i keep the baby or not just that i should tell him im pregnant is what i agree with

[Anonymous]

I recommend abortion.

[Anonymous]

Wait 9 months then leave the baby on his doorstep with a note reading "it's yours".

[Anonymous]

Abortion is the only way.

[Asker]

no i will not have an abortion never

[Opinion Owner]

Have fun being a single mom.

[Asker]

have fun being a single guy for life

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks! that's actually my goal. Women only corrupt a guy's life anyways.

[xxmamichulaxx]

You really had to go anon to make this comment? Lmao corny.

[Opinion Owner]

You reap what you sow. Now you'll end up being a single mom probably forever because you weren't careful.

[MysteriousDarkness]

If you get someone pregnant you most likely will want them to get an abortion because you are not man enough to be a dad.

[Anonymous]

www.mememaker.net/static/images/memes/670545.jpg

[Asker]

lol funny that really cheered me up a lot

[Opinion Owner]

Are you okay? Can you raise a kid alone if the guy doesn't want to be involved?

[Asker]

i do not know as i am only 20 and still with with my parents

[Opinion Owner]

Does your parents know? I think you should tell them first. Good Luck

[Asker]

my parents do know they are very surportive

[Opinion Owner]

Thats great. I do think you should send him the meme I posted though but text him "knock, kcock" first.

[Asker]

lol i may do that thanks and i will let you know how it goes ok if i do sent it to him

[Opinion Owner]

You seem awesome and have a good sense of humor. I really hope he supports you and be there for you. *hugs*

[Asker]

thanks and you seem to have a good sense of humor too i would love to talk more to you but that would be creepy lol

[Opinion Owner]

Talk to the guy first please. We are all waiting to hear what happens. Update. lol Damn I'm nosey

[Asker]

it is ok i do not mind but i was asking as in do you want to be friends or something lol but it is 2 am here were i live so he is most likely in bed

[Opinion Owner]

I don't really use this app so it wouldn't make much sense. Plus what if we argued before on a previous question? haaaaaa.

[Asker]

nah it is cool it is ok if we argued or not that is what people do they argued sometimes but we can use facebook if you want

[Asker]

just letting you know i told him and he is not talking to me now

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that. *hugs* I hope you're doing well and he comes arounds and understands he needs to be there for you.

[Asker]

hi it is me erm do you have time to talk as i need to talk to some one

[Anonymous]

You just godda say it.

[Asker]

i know but what do i say to him

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe bush beat. Let him come to the decision.

[Asker]

bush beat i do not think that is a good idea