How to tighten your anus, loose butthole?

So I love anal sex, and so does my boyfriend. I honestly have anal sex at least 3-4 times a week. The thing is, I've noticed his penis goes in so easily now, and I know I'm not even half as tight as before...it's really scary because I don't want a loose butthole, who knows all the problems that come with that. So can your butt actually become looser or am I being paranoid? And is there a way to tighten your anus back up like with the vagina? Thank you oh and I've been having anal like this for the past several months
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  • All that's happened is that your anal sphincter muscles are more toned and limber now than they were before. It's no different than a gymnast who can do the splits or pull one leg up beside her head, or the ice skaters who pull their foot to the back of their head. How do they do that? By working out their muscles and stretching until they are limber, which means their muscles can go from very stretched to very tight much easier than someone who doesn't work out.

    Do you think gymnasts lack muscle, or have sloppy muscles? No way. They're just limber and flexible, and that's all you are. You are just fine.

    Where someone could have a problem is inserting huge objects, which stretches you out to the point of muscle tearing. THAT can cause some irreversible damage that can lead to problems down the road. Fisting, inserting soda cans, huge dildos, Coke bottles, etc. are all examples of this extreme stretching that should be avoided. Unless your guy has a penis the size of a 6-year-old's arm, you won't have an issue.

    • Even fisting can probably be done safely...if you know what you're doing and take proper care. That's the advanced class; don't go there yet. Read up on it before you go there, too. And nice image, MrOracle.

  • My ex LOVED anal as well. So much so that I don't do it or even ask for it with anyone anymore. I'm not hung like a horse, but I'm doing well in the size area. She felt looser after a few months (together 10 years of which 90% of our sex was anal). She never experienced any issues as a result of it, but after awhile wanted to feel more full during sex. She started doing butt clenches and squats at the gym and it made a difference. My friends with benefits is a doctor and she says that unless you tear muscle you will be able to tighten up over time. It's when you fist or just go right to it without lube and start tearing things that the looseness can be closer to permanent. That won't happen just because of one times use, but due to excessive stretching/tearing over a long period of time. So, you are safe. You aren't getting loose in terms of it staying that way. You are learning to take penis anally better and more comfortably. If you want to be tighter then just do squats and butt clenches.

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  • I would be more concerned about the long term damages of having anal sex. I have heard of gay men who have anal sex so much, that they actually have to wear a tampon to keep from leaking. My brother is gay, and he ended up having surgery to correct the damage.

    • Yes, that is right. Good article on the Wiki about anal sex. Everyone is different, but the butthole has the last say. Some people do fine with exercises, others need surgery to fix it.

  • A gay friend told me it can stay open for awhile after sex and it's hard to keep things from coming out.

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  • You doing it too often. Girl , take a rest. Your ass need time to recover. For example, I give my ass at least 2-3 days to recover after fucking.

  • squats, lots of squats, think you've done enough squats? NOPE! more squats

  • If you can fit a HUGE dildo in there I'd suggest kegels.

  • ANAL KEGELS! They are just like the kegels for women to tighten back up pu ssy after having a baby. Put a mirror on a chair, and spread your cheeks. When you can see hole, PUSH OUT then HOLD IT. You want anus moving from * to O. *...O...*...O. Yes, just as if you're trying to poop -- then holding one. Google kegels. The cool thing is you can do them anywhere once you learn. At a movie, watching TV, riding in a car. I mean NOTHING is going in your ass the size of a baby right? So ya -- any muscle you work gets stronger. Also, the fact his d * ck goes in smoother is just part of good anal. it is not that you are loose -- it is the fact you now how to relax much more now. Girls tend to clench during anal at first -- not their fault, they guy should be helping them through this -- and you can see how that would make anal hard. How do You f * ck an *? Much easier to f * ck an O. Some Asian women do the kegels, but with weighted dildos. They can crush a beer can between cheeks. So ya. It is all about the effort you want to put in. You can cut diamonds with your anus if you want to. (Little exaggeration but you know what I mean.)

  • I think you should just take a pause. I have a classmate, she also did it very often, like you and had the same problem. You need just rest

    • For how long was she doing it for?