Hymen 101: All You Need to Know About This Part of a Woman's Body

Given the amount of questions about virginity, sexuality, first experiences and what to expect (not to mention the false information regarding the same topics that's being spread), I felt it was necessary to write this in an attempt to better clarify things to other young women out there. The topic today is all about it: your hymen!

Hymen 101: All You Need to Know About This Part of a Woman's Body

Here are some common misconceptions about this part of your body...

It "pops" when you have sex

This is what most people get wrong about hymens. Your hymen doesn't "seal" your vagina (if it did, how would you menstruate?). It is located in the entrance of your vagina, or a few millimeters inside it. It's not a piece of thick skin, neither does it close your vagina. It's more of a mucous membrane that can (and most likely will) be perfurated and stretched by normal activities as time passes by. Nothing's popping down there, rest assured!

If you're a virgin, it's still there

No!!!! If you're at least a teenager, your hymen is most likely very perfurated or almost entirely gone (some doctors claim it's never really completely teared though). Chances are higher if you wear tampons or masturbate for example. You don't need to ride horses to not have it anymore; it's normal and happens in most cases whether you do a lot of physical activity or not. Your hymen is a very bad indicator of whether you've had intercourse before.

It hurts to have sex for the first time because of your hymen

As mentioned before, if you're starting your sexual life at least in your teens, it's most likely very perfurated or not there anymore. Therefore, it is NOT the cause of pain in a girl's first time. The pain and bleeding is most often than not caused by friction: being nervous, lack of foreplay and no lubrification are the normal causes.

Something to keep in mind

All I've written here is applies to normal conditions. Some women do have a very thick hymen that doesn't break, sometimes even after intercourse. In those cases, medical help is required and it needs to be removed surgically. Also, every information I've gathered to write this Take comes from reliable (and medical!) sources. If you have any further doubts or a specific issue, you should talk to a gynecologist. It's never too early to book and appointment and check how things are going down there; you don't need to have sex to go see one!

Hymen 101: All You Need to Know About This Part of a Woman's Body

I hope this Take was informative and could at least help you with basic doubts regarding your hymen. Remember to regularly see a doctor and ask for exams to make sure your friend down there is healthy!

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  • I broke a 14 year old's hymen when I was sixteen, but that was it. All of the older girls had already lost theirs, either from penises, hair-brush handles or their own fingers.

  • The technical name of vaginal hymen is vaginal carona. It is located 1-2 cms inside the vaginal opening. It does not have a standard shape , color and size. So every carona looks different. It consists of thin folds of mucous tissue , which may be tightly or more loosely folded. When it is thin , it may look pink or transparent. And when it is thick it may look a little paler or whitish. Usually it is elastic and stretchy. I few girls are born without a carona. And those who have it fully blocking their vaginal hole will need to undergo surgery to open the hole for menstrual blood to flow out. If it is stretched by fingers or tampons , it may cause some pain or cause minor ruptures in the mucous folds. These ruptures have an ability to heal within 24 hours.

  • interesting read! Some things I knew already but I also learned something new :)