I'm 19 and I have never orgasmed before...what is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

So I've been sexually active for two years now and I have never been able to orgasm. It really frustrates me because everyone tells me how amazing it feels and I'm over here like "awesome, good for you, wish I could know how it feels myself..." Not only do I really want to know what it feels like but it's also making my boyfriend frustrated because he feels like it's something that he's not doing right. We do foreplay for about 20 minutes and by then I am so wet and turned on (sorry about the info) that I just want to get down to business. I love everything he does and how he kisses and holds me while making love but no matter how long we go at it, I can't cum. I always think a lot during sex and I even try to stop thinking and just concentrate on how good everything feels but I just can't. I don't know how to turn my brain off and I think that's the big problem. Ugh. So how can I turn my brain off? && What are some things I can do that will help me reach an orgasm? What do you do? What does it really feel like? && How will I know if I've reached it?

[Anonymous]

Well actually , if iam going to talk about myself .. it 's pretty hard to get an orgasm depending on just your boyfriend , you have to do it by yourself , my boyfriend 's very good in bed .. he goes for long , he 's fast and strong and everything you can imagine but it 's only about your timing .. you should try masturbation with some dildo, control the speed and use your other hand to rip .. you should be really into it like sometime you 're really horny (According To what you said you should be) .. and you should know it 's not about cumming it 's just about having the feeling of an orgasm ..

THE IMPORTANT PART IS :

when you have sex with your boyfriend atfer that you should rip yourself while you 're having sex it 's going to be harder to get one than masturbating .. I wish I helped .. but if you don't get a result out of that I can recommend seeing a doctor ..

[Asker]

What do you mean by "rip" myself?

[Opinion Owner]

It 's "RuB" I'm sorry

[Asker]

Okay, that sounds better. lol Thank you for the advice!

[Opinion Owner]

You 're so welcome ..

[xHoneyxBeex]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. A lot of women have this problem, it's a lot harder for women to orgasm than for men. I would list some helpful tips but I actually wrote an article on here that goes into a lot more detail than I could mention in this little text box. It's kind of long but if you have the time you should read it: link

It goes into a lot of the physical AND mental aspects of a woman's orgasm so maybe it will help you. I've tried all that it mentions and I don't have any problems coming. If you get a chance, give it a read, I hope it helps:)

[Asker]

Thank you so much! I truly appreciate it! I will definitely read it. (:

[xHoneyxBeex]

No problem! I really hope it helps:)

[Asker]

I will let you know if it does! Thank you. (: Do you mind if I message you if I end up having questions after reading it?

[xHoneyxBeex]

Of course! Feel free to message me with any questions you have:)

[Asker]

Honestly, your article gave me a lot of insight and the only question I have is, what does an orgasm feel like? My best friend described it to me as having an urge to pee and then releasing it...is that true? Thank you for your help!

[xHoneyxBeex]

Well..it's sort of hard to describe. A normal orgasm is somewhat like a "throbbing" feeling in your vagina. It sort of pulsates and just feels really good not in your stomach exactly but the feeling is below where your stomach is sort of. What your friend is describing is more like "squirting". That's when it feels like you have to pee but vaginal fluids "squirt" out rather than pee. It feels the same as a regular orgasm though, it's just messier. It's described as female ejaculation.

[Asker]

It's just a throbbing? Is there more to it, because I've experienced a throbbing feeling before, I think I felt it in my pelvis? I'm not sure if that's the right word for it. && I've never felt the peeing feeling so I guess I'm not a squirter. lol

[xHoneyxBeex]

No it's not just that. That's just the main physical feeling. It feels A LOT better than I could possibly describe. Lol My best advice would just be to try masturbating and learning your own body before trying to orgasm with your boyfriend. It's so much easier once you know what it feels like and how you can make yourself and your own body orgasm first.

[Asker]

That's another problem, I don't feel comfortable enough to masturbate unless I use a vibrator. Do I have to use my hands? I don't feel comfortable using them because I honestly don't know how to...

[xHoneyxBeex]

You don't "have" to use your hands but it helps. I masturbate in a REALLY weird way and it's kind of embarrassing to admit but I just lay on my stomach with my hands down there and rub it and finger as well. During sex I orgasm the easiest on my stomach (cowgirl position, leaned over with my chest touching his and riding him and also grinding) I mean, every girl is different. You just needs to find what works for YOU. Try different things, experimenting is the best way to figure out yourself.

[Asker]

Hmm, that sounds interesting. I think I'm going to try that. Thank you again for all of your advice. I truly appreciate it! (:

[xHoneyxBeex]

No problem! :)

[xHoneyxBeex]

Thanks for best answer!

[Asker]

You're very welcome! (:

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

nothing , some men either don't know what they are doing or you haven't done something that works. If I were you I would try a vibrator.

[Asker]

I've tried a vibrator but it never manages to help me climax. /:

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Try a rabbit vibrator or a hitachi magic wand

[Asker]

What's a rabbit vibrator? I have a bullet.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

a rabbit is the best thing ever this should explain it link

[Asker]

I'll definitely have to get me one if those! Thank you! (:

[Jonny_]

A lot of girls don't come from penetrative sex, it's more likely for a girl to come from clitoral stimulation... Through oral or grinding (done correctly of course) Again this doesn't work for every girl. You need to go through a checklist, including clitoral stimulation, shallow penetration, deep penetration and maybe 'finding your g-spot' I could go into far too much depth, but all I can be bothered typing right now is just mix things up since what you're doing obviously isn't working. Personally I don't just do foreplay then plough through sex, I might go through a long foreplay start to have sex, tease a bit throughout, stop and give her oral if she's getting a bit distracted. Oh and when you reach orgasm you'll definitely know there's a big difference between feeling good and orgasm...

[Asker]

Okay, I'll talk to my boyfriend and tell him to mix it up a bit! Thank you!

[Jonny_]

No problem, if you want more advice you can message me some time... I'm just a bit tired at 3:35am

[Asker]

Okay, thank you! (:

[Dragan]

Everything is O.K. with you. Focus on clitoris in the beginning. During intercourse well come clitoral stimulation by hand. Women second orgasm experience easier and faster. A little meditation at the beginning then cunnilingus. At the end of cunnilingus, clitoris sucking most women brought to orgasm. Tantra is the best for female and male orgasm.

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[Asker]

Okay, great! Thank you for the info! (:

[chalobole]

Message me.

[Anonymous]

You're not alone, and definitely not the worst. I'm 20 and have been sexually active for 4 years, a few different guys, and still no orgasm lol. I heard that you should pay attention to your clit as well when having an intercourse

[Asker]

I'm glad I'm not alone. /: && I'll try to focus on that, thank you! (: