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I'm a 22 year old 5'1'' virgin: how can I get laid?
Anonymous
So my life has been a huge let-down: I spent the first 18 years of my life being bullied, etc. and didn't make even as much as a female friend until 1 1/2 years ago, as a sophomore at college, but she had a boyfriend. Therefore, before college, I had NO experience. I also had to battle Asperger's syndrome and being of mixed racial stock. Anyhow, I'm only a semester or two from graduation. I have only hooked up with 5 girls, all drunken hookups, never had a girlfriend, and am really scared I'm going to be a virgin forever. I try to go to bars in NYC when I am home looking for a one night stand, and it hasn't happened. I'm not bad looking, I have a pretty solid face, and I'm in very good physical shape, I work out often. I graduate college spring 2012. What can I do now to lose my v-card already?
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note: I'm 3/4 white, a quarter east Asian, as in my mixed race background
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What Girls & Guys Said
11 16Don't sweat it. One HUGE thing you have going for you is you don't have an STD. If you want to bag the women here's what you do...#1 Focus on doing things you're passionate about. Make yourself interesting and fun. Seek out experiences in life not just with women. Ladies like interesting people by being well rounded and knowledgeable you will be more attractive. #2 Work on the confidence BIG TIME. No negative self talk. Eliminate from your mind that being a virgin is a deficit. Instead focus on your selectiveness and the fact that you are STD free and have no kids and no regretable ONS. #3 Surround yourself with opportunities to meet women socially and casually. No pressure...seek out women as friends. Eventually it can grow to be more. Good luck. You will do just fine I'm sure.
Oh and if its just too much of an albotross go hire a high priced prostitute and get it out of the way. USE A RUBBER though.
Loose your "V" to someone you care about..not a one night stand...You said you want affection in a comment.You will not find that in one night stands.
I'd quit looking and just have fun...Otherwise, you come off as a desperate,just want sex kind of guy...there are way too many out there to be another
ok I'm really just looking for sexual experiences, but I do not ever wanna pay money for them because I tried that a few times and it was awful. I could barely get hard. I want attraction to me, even if its not love per se, something about me that brings her to me over other guys. To me, that is affection. I'm just like all other guys. I am still above 5 feet, so I'm not a complete freak. 1 nighters do mean something: that I had something which made me better than all others at the moment.
and I'm tired of being inadequate: my friends have all f***ed girls by now, I haven't. I haven't even gotten as much as a bj, hj, etc. or gotten to eat a girl out, lick t*ts, etc.
You sound insecure and confused..sorry to be blunt but that's just how I am...Having one night stands or f***ing a girl does not make you better then others..there will always be some girl that finds you "attractive" out there.I find it sad that you need sex to make you feel better about yourself...You sound like all the other insecure,horny,desperate bastards out there that think that f***ing a girl makes them better then other guys...How would f***ing a girl that make you "adequate"?
I hate how being insecure ruins a guy's chances with a girl, but a girl being insecure does not ruin her chances with a guy
umm @SOCALGAMEHATER2006: sorry but yes,girls that are insecure actually ruin their chances at getting a boyfriend.
no, most guys will give an insecure girl a chance