I'm afraid to take my shirt off, what do I do?

Scince I'm not super skinny or anything, I sorta have a little bit of a stomach, and I'm not like all tehse stick thin girls,like my boyfriend usedd to date. Also I have pretty large boobs and ones a litte smaller than the other, but for m its really noticable. I just don't want to totally turn him off or anything... what do I do?
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  • Unless you wear a parka every day, your guy has an idea of the shape/size of your stomach, and your boobs too. He obviously finds you attractive, and if these things were any kind of a deal-breaker for him (which would be very rare in the first place), he'd already be gone, or at the very least, you'd know about it, because he'd be talking about it.

    Your guy likes you, and he's dying to have sex and see a naked girl. He's NOT planning to pull out a clipboard and start doing a survey of all of your "problem areas" and give you a score; guys just don't do that. He's going to be too busy enjoying your body and hoping to God he doesn't say or do anything stupid so that he'll have more chances to enjoy it in the future. Seeing you naked is going to be like winning the Lotto for him; a huge, happy event. If he even notices the other stuff, he simply won't CARE.

    Everyone has body flaws, or things we'd wish were better. EVERYONE. But you can't let that stop you from living and enjoying your life, and besides, these things are so minor that you'd have to be pretty nit-picky to even discover them. Guys just aren't that picky.

  • Men don't care about minor size variations so long as they're allowed to sample the menu. I knew a beautiful red head years ago with a C+ and a B- and she always said it taught here that life wasn't fair but she's still a huge success and married with children etc...

    Be more comfortable with yourself. He wouldn't be there if he weren't interested.

Most Helpful Girls

  • First off, he already knows your size because he can that with your shirt on. Second, if he didn't find you attractive at your size, he wouldn't be dating you. You don't have to feel insecure, he is happy with the way you look. Don't compare yourself to his exes, that is never a good idea. Ever since I stopped thinking of women as competition, & my self esteem has been very healthy. It sounds like you may have some self esteem issues, you need to learn to love yourself & know you deserve to be loved.

  • I always told my boyfriend my shirt (tank top) wasn't coming off during sex...by the second round my shirt was off! just go with the flow it helps a lot if the lights are off! if your in bed messing around just cover up in the sheets when the lights go on. that's what I did my boyfriend never saw me naked but it doesn't bother him!

  • You could work out and eat healthy

    But in the meantime, dim the lights because fluorescent lights highlight things on the body

    Or keep your shirt and a bra on

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  • Just a question. Do you think you could take off your shirt if the lights were off? Might be a step to help you overcome your fears.

  • Dont worry about the boobs, mine aren't the same size either- most girls's arent- my guy friends like mine just fine

  • Does he really think so little of you that if you take your shirt off he'll leave? Now super skinny isn't the best thing ever, and I know many guys whom love women with some meat on them. And as for your breasts not being the same size, we don't notice things like that. And it could be that your breasts are still growing. They can grow from age 8 to 25.

  • The difference in breast size is extremely common, nothing to feel self-conscious about.

    A soft tummy is fine and snuggly on a girl, you don't need six pack abs to look sexy without a shirt.

    And most guys like boobs, regardless of size, so I really think you have nothing to worry about!

  • you'll be fine, boobs are boobs. They're really just sacks of fat tissue if you think about it.

  • What's your bra size and what do you weigh?

    • lol

    • Hey, they're reasonable questions. Just trying to understand what she's working with.

    • DD and 150

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