I can only orgasm from penetration?

Okay, so this is an embarrassing one.

Basically, my boyfriend and I recently became sexually active and I seem to only ever orgasm when he’s actually inside of me.

I’ve talked to my friends about this and they said they feel barely anything during penetration, they need some sort of clitoral stimulation.

But me on the other hand, can’t get it from any sort of clit stimulation, and my boyfriend is starting to think I’m faking my orgasms to keep him happy (which I’m definitely not) and I was just wondering if this is normal? And how do I reassure him how he’s pleasing me is perfect as it is?
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  • A lot of women need far more than penetration to orgasm. The internal part of the clitoris includes these bulbs of tissue that get erect, much like penis. Because they're near the vaginal opening, some women get a lot of pleasure and can achieve orgasm from penetration. Most, however, need some attention paid to the actual clitoris, and that's fine too.

    The bottom line is if you have trouble orgasming and want to work on it, you can and you should feel totally entitled to do that. Whether it's working with a partner or on your own, there are plenty of different ways to explore.

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  • A bit unusual but I wouldn't say its a bad thing (probably a good thing for your boyfriend as he doesn't have to worry about multi tasking, what works for him also works for you). Just tell him, if he isn't reassured then I guess their is really nothing you can do about it, just explain that this is suprising to you as well but you like it so its fine. Explain that you have no reason to fake it because then that would leave you with out an orgasm, and that's not to your benefit. If that doesn't work then quite frankly their is nothing you can do, not every one is the same what works for one person doesn't work for another. You just happen to be an exception.

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  • That's great. It sounds like you're really sensitive at the G spot. I think many women, including me, envy you! You can tell your boyfriend you're the exception. Guys have no clue whether you're faking or not either. Every single time I've orgasmed, even the biggest ones I've ever had, they've thought I faked it lol. I never fake them - the only thing I fake is enjoyment if I'm not feeling it.

  • For me G-spot stimulation feels the best as well. I do hardly orgasm from clitoral alone, and if I do, its not half as good. You are not alone girl.
    My bestfriend is the same by the way, she can't even understand how one could cum without penetration.

  • Lmao, I don't see a problem here. If you really are cumming he should know unless he's a lame and an idiot.

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  • This is interesting and sounds much like my situation with my girlfriend. Just explain to him what you feel when he´s inside you and tell that your clit isn´t that sensitive so for you it feels better if he´s inside you. People are always different and that´s your way to get off :)

    Do you get an orgasm from your clit if you masturbate? Or is it always g-spot orgasms?

  • It is possible to have orgasms from penetrations alone. It's rarer, but still a thing. I can have orgasms from just that or clitoral, doesn't have to be both.

  • Strange. It's not the norm, I'm not aware of the statistics, but why care? Have fun.

  • It's normal. He needs to understand that every girl is different, and every girl gets orgasms in the way that works for her, no matter how other girls may get them.

  • It is really just a matter of preference what makes you orgasm. Some chicks only orgasm off getting face fucked, others off anal, clitoral. So how you orgasm is perfectly normal at least scientifically speaking. You probably can't do anything to reassure him other than explain your situation and then just tell him it is perfect as is and just keep telling him that. Worst thing to do is to try and pretend you aren't or are having an orgasm because as soon as you start the lie you will be stuck in an endless loop of that. If needed just explain the above to him. Remember that scientifically an orgasm is caused by a chemical reaction so achieving one would naturally vary from woman to woman and man to man because you are essentially trying to cause a chemical reaction from external stimuli. Not super romantic sounding I know but hopefully that helps. Good luck and Best regards

  • I love penetration and it’s completely normal I hate clit stimulation it’s kind of painful and doesn’t feel good

    • Because you're abusing your clit, learn to do it properly.

    • @azzntittiz some women have extremely sensitive clitoris each person is different

    • Mine is sensitive too so it hurts if rubbed the wrong way. Sensitivity actually means more intense orgasms. You have to know what works for you, I don't remove the hood and have to rub it between my fingers.

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  • The wife prefers the real deal just like you and loves the intensity of it. She can reach orgasm if am doing oral or if she is using toys but if she had to choose she will take penetration every time. Tell your partner not to be worried and how you like it when he is a part of giving you pleasure.
    I used to be like your partner not believing that i can make a woman orgasm but that was just fake media i was believing in. It is perfectly normal, if the others can't have it doesn't mean it's not normal/bad it just happen this way. Have fun and tell him how much you love it, support him and he will support you back

  • Every woman is different. You are not alone. As far as "convincing him", tell him if he thinks you're lying to him, then you've got bigger problems and see it that changes his tune? lol I mean, all you can do it say it, if he chooses not to believe you, what can you do?

  • That's a great thing!

  • Trying whimpering instead of moaning.

  • Don't overthink it. And tell him not to overthink, as well. If you're happy with penetrative sex, and your boyfriend is happy to give you that, then you're golden. If he wants to occasionally get you off without having to get himself off, as well, there are tools for that. There's a lot of nerve endings in the vulva, and the walls of the vagina, as well; contrary to popular myth, clitoral stimulation isn't the ONLY way.

  • I don't know how to convince him but that doesn't sound like a bad thing

  • My wife doesn't only orgasm from penetration, but absolutely does orgasm from just penetrating as well.

  • you're just in a minority. Only like 20-30% of women can orgasm from just penetration.

  • Different results from different acts. Most women cannot have an orgasm from penetration alone. Clit or G spot stimulation with fingers, tongue, or other objects is the only way most women can have an orgasm.

  • nothing wrong , everyone is different

  • Then marry and let him be in you and cum inside.

  • lucky girl, just enjoy it, other not get it but you getting it. well done.

  • It’s normal you’re just in the 30 percentile. Over 70 percent of women can have only clitorial stimulation. It’s fine but also explore your body more just to see what is sensitive for you

  • Not Normal. You must have an abnormal, unusual g spot and you should get check for your clit, some girls don't have a clit.

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