I can't even find a slut?

I'm 23 and I'm tired of not having sexual life. It gets to the point that I start doubting about my value as human being. I can't even find a slut to have sex with. I only rate girls f*** or not f***. I don't like the 1 to 10 scale to be honest. But even with a binary system usage for ratings I can't find a girl and I don't want to pay, that would make me feel even less valuable. By the way I don't believe in the right girl will come, that's a lie, all the hot girls I know already had sex, and the more I don't find anybody the older they get too. Not cool at all.
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  • Did I miss something? Call me crazy, but I have always based my value as a human being on what I aim to contribute to humanity over the duration of my lifetime. Sex holds no value on me as a human being at all. I can maybe give you a few pointers or suggestions.

    1. Stop objectifying women.

    2. Stop objectifying intercourse.

    3. Since your so good with a binary system concept, let me suggest the wonderful world of statistical probability.

    4. Your personality has a lot to do with this. Your statements relfect objectivity, selfishness, emotional instability, narcissism, impulsive behavior, and overly excessive egotism. Can you really blame a woman if she does not want anything to do with you?

    5. Sex is based on trust, caring, and a love between two people, your attitude only suggests that you desire instant gratification. It's an act of sharing. A woman already knows what she brings to the table in this. The question I would ask you is if you realize that what you bring to the table based on your statements is probably not something a woman wants, or not something she can't find somewhere else in some other bottom feeder within the gene pool.

    This all boils down to one thing. Your afraid to love someone. You have a lot of unsettled self esteem issues and a very almost adorable vulnerability. This is only temporary if you have any sense. Good luck.

    "You have to be the change you wish to see in the world" - Ghandi - j

  • There are so many things wrong about you.

    First off with appearance, in your picture, only the guy on the right in black clothes and black hair looks like he get's laid.

    The other ones won't turn any heads in bars.

    So unless you the guy in black, start working on your appearance by working out, getting better haircuts and better clothing style and pose as a more mature person and have a more sexy vibe (sex appeal).

    Second, your mindset is just messed up; you're desperate (turn off), think low of women, think mechanical about women (giving them grades and stuff. A trademark of watching a lot of porn, where you view women as objects you pick out from a shopping cart).

    I seriously suggest you get professional help outside of these forums.

    You can get it at sites like link or link or you can youtube stuff like "keys to the vip" etc to learn some life changing concepts.

    Good luck!

    • I'm the guy in black, the other guys are massive pimps by the way, the guy in the left was my roommate and he always brought a different hot girl every weekend, I don't live with them anymore, they tryed to teach me, but I couldn't understand what they were doing

    • Hmm okey at least you have the looks then. Check out the links our read my articles on this site for some general guidelines.

    • Yeah I'll check it out, I remember my friend was in a dating community called RSD and he was getting threesomes with hot girls, I saw it happening to him many times, and he was not even in shape at all, he was fat and he dressed like sh*t. I need to learn more about that stuff

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  • ok...well I get what you are saying I think...

    I was 20 when I had sex for the first time and all the people I know had been doing it for years already at that point (fair enough you are 3 years older ..but so what? ...you never know what is just around the corner...) anyways..I felt similar to you - maye not quite as desperate as you sound in your post..but there is a lot of pressure arount the fact of having sex these days and it seems to be a competition to have it earlier and earlier for some...

    also I would not advice you do to and have sex with just anyone..(be it a slut or someone you have to pay for) I don't thik that would make you feel any better...

    maybe you should not concentrate on getting laid...go out ..have fun...make friends...and eventually it will happen (even if you say that's a lie - but this is just my opinion)

    also you say: all the hot girls you know already had sex...maybe you are chasing after the wrong type of girl? could that be at all?

    I know a couple of people by the way that are you age and older that for some reason hadn't had sex with a girl yet...it bothers them too...and there is no good reason for it...they are nice people...but that is just life...it is not a reflection upon yourself or the person you are. so don't put yourself down because of it.

    • "he's chasing the wrong women?" for crying out loud the guy just said he can't score a slut! pay attention! the more attractive the woman is, the more of a SNOB she becomes! its a fact of life, there is no such theing as the "right woman!" there are just unattractive women...and stcuk up women! thats why some men settle for fat women,

    • Wow....how did you end up with so much hatred towards women?

    • So I suppose that by your standards, you must be some pretty hot stuff cause you're such a douche guantumdefender.

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  • So I'm confused are you looking for a virgin girl or someone who just likes sex a lot and is really good at it? Maybe you should try being in a real relationship with a girl to have sex I hate that guys just think that they could get sex out of us now without even having to work for it anymore or be in a relationship with anyone.

    • I want a relationship. But I'm disagree with you about having to work for the sex, that's just like paying for a prostitute just in a different way, sex shouldn't be something to work for

    • Well when I mean work for it I mean being nice to her and gaining her trust!

    • Trust is important, but sex shouldn't be something you have to gain, it should be just mutual affection or plain fun

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  • Wow. I don't even know what to say to you. That's sad the way you look at life and you feel like you need to have sex with a slut? that's very degrading and you need help.

    if its that serious to you, then you have no choice but to pay since you get get any real action on ur own.

    • I am an awesome person, very authentic, honest, and real. But I don't know why I'm not getting this area of my life handle. You can't lie that is not important because everybody knows is important. Why would you suggest to pay for it, when I'm the one saying that will just make it worse. What kind of help is that.

    • Okay but you can't just be like "Damn I need to f*** a slut badly" because that is not going to get you anywhere. If you are as good as you say you are, then why don't you wait to find somebody or maybe a friends with benefits?

    • I've been waiting, it's not like I have another option.

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  • Have you been to a bar lol sluts galore...

    • Yeah, no luck there

    • If I knew what is it in my personality that I need to chance I would. Maybe I'm too gentlemen with girls. I buy flowers, invite to dinner, try to play sports, try to be funny, I learned guitar, I joined a gym, I don't know, wtf am I lacking?

    • Um, the fact that you have decided that you would rather find a "slut" than attempt to establish a relationship with a girl is proof enough that you are not even remotely gentlemanly.

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  • LOL. A BINARY SYSTEM! That's a good one. Just let it happen. it'll happen when you're ready.

  • From what I've seen based on other questions and based on your profile. You try to look confident but come off kinda cocky and are kinda down on yourself because you have trouble with women. You need to stop concentrating on just getting laid. There is so much more to life than that. If you can find someone you love you will have sex on a pretty regular basis. The right girl coming along has nothing to do with your hot friends having sex it means the girl that make YOU feel special and that makes YOU love life and smile. It has nothing to do with where SHES been. You can try another style or new clothes. Maybe try somewhere new to look for women. But don't give up hope and you'll find someone. Your still young and have a long time to go before you have anything to worry about. Good luck. I hope this helped.

    • Thank you Cliffy. you couldn't have said it any better :)

    • How am I cocky asking these kind of questions?

    • You totally missed the point of what Cliffy was saying.

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  • Keep stressing about it.. ..the slimmer the chances will become.

    lol

    • Everyone always say that, but I never really get the concept

  • Even if a girl is very, very open with her sexuality, she won't be random; you still need game. She may be faster, or more forgiving, but you still need skills.

    Get out there, stay out there, and you'll be okay.

    • It's hard to find out where to go when you are not at school or there is not nightlife in your town

  • Doesn't surprise me either. You sound like you have no respect for girls.

    • In a sense I feel bad for not be able to understand what they want, but I respect them, they get laid every time they want to.

  • Stop stressing about it, believe or not the time will come, but if you that desperate I'll give you some places were you can find SLUTS.

    Go to a bar

    Late at night go to the streets of New York

    Go to party a lot...GOod Luck

    • M town has no bars, only has one club that is a little far, and I don't know about parties going on my area

  • try one of those dating websites

    • Maybe I shpould

  • u could go 2 a bar

    • Yeah I been trying to find one in my town trust me, this place sucks, we have a big mall but not a single club

  • Maybe you can find a girl once you stop being a loser.

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    • What do you mean? what is it abut me that makes you think I'm a loser

    • If you are any of the people in your profile pic, it tells me that you don't really take care of your own looks...what makes you think you can get a "hot" girl? And you say sh*t like "I can't even find a slut to have sex with. I only rate girls f*** or not f***" which makes you sound like a jerk. You are seem to think you are awesome...I see no indication of that whatsoever in you post.

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  • I'm going out on a limb here and say, the reason you don't have a girlfriend is because you are ANNOYING! It's sex, get over it. Sex, yes it is fun, is NOT important. At all. Even having a girlfriend isn't that important. Having friends and acquaintances is important.

    I was 23 when I lost my virginity, and you know what? It wasn't at all fun or enjoyable. In fact it took several more times to become fun. Yeah, I got off, but I didn't enjoy it. To much pressure.

    Now, from reading your question and replies, I am guessing english isn't your natural language is it? If not, then I am thinking you may have chose your words wrong, if it is your natural language you need more schooling.

    Quit with the, "I am a great guy", and just be you. The more you try to impress the more cocky and aggressive you come off. TALK to people, and for the love of (insert deity, whatever here) don't give your personality resume. Even talking about the weather would be better than, "I am such a great guy you have to like/love/f*** me". You know what I mean?

    Good luck and RELAX!

    • I don't say you have to like me to a girl, I don't try to impress, if I said here I like who I am, is because is true, that's why is hard to figure out for me why I am not with a girl.

  • go see prostitute, lol but beware of AIDS! if you have many partners! once you get it don't regret it ok!

    • It's not about getting off, is about connecting

  • i understand your trouble to the fullest although I'm not 23 yet. I do understand the feeling of just wanting to getting laid. though the way you word it was a little more aggressive.

    • Yeah my english sucks

  • I'm sorry but you just sound like a jerk. No wonder you don't get laid.

    • I know the words I used like slut sounds harsh, I shoulded say open minded, normally I don't even use bad words when I talk.

    • I really don't judge girls at all, of anything I judge me, I try to make myself better everyday.

    • Ok first off it suck to be a virgin especially at his age. second off he has a point though it was poorly written in a vulgar tone, it is hard to loose one virginity especially if your out of college. also I would like to ask you a question and answer it honestly. are you a virgin over the age of 23? if so then you should feel a little left out. if not then you really have no say in the matters because you lost it earlier then he did.

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