I can't make him hard when I give him a blow job?

so every time I have sex with him he always ask me to give a blowjob. but when I give him a blow job I can't make him hard, and I get sometimes worried, that I can't get him excited. I need tips that will turn him on, and make him wanting more. also, his shaft is really big and long so its hard to deep throat, and I need tips on that. thank ya(:
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Most Helpful Girls

  • you are doing something wrong. Try this:

    First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.

    It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.

    Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death.

    Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.

    A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.

    When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.

    Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning.

    Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes.

    Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually, by clicking on the link

  • Ok to get him exited tease him.

    For example before you go down on him and you are just fooling around rub up ageist him so he knows you want him.

    Before you take off his trousers or pants feel his penis with your hand. Rubbing and gently squeezing ect.

    Kiss and lick or even bite if he likes all down his body. You can play with his nipples too. Guys like it just as much as girls do.

    You could give him a little hand job before you go down on him to make him want it.

    If you are feeling confident enough you can masturbate in front of him. Guys love to watch. Plus it is a super tease.

    As for deep throating I have the same problem.

    It takes a bit of practice and you will gag a fair few times before you get it.

    Practice on bananas and make marks with your teeth so you know how far you can go. You may want to use something more sturdy as bananas break easy.

    Also you can play a little game by using tasty gels. You can challenge yourself to go deeper on him go get the gel. Don't use too much as it may start to get sickly.

  • dont worry I can't deep throat either and I hate giving head

    but use lube and play with him while your just sucking on the top half lol.

    use your tounge and go up and down

    play with his balls

Most Helpful Guys

  • Giving a great blow job is one-part technique and one-part passion. If he does not get hard when you are sucking him...focus on the frenulum...stimulate it with your tongue. Vary your technique and don't be afraid to be a little noisy. Humming stimulates him and shows him that you are very much enjoying him. I have never performed on a guy that did not love knowing that he was the best tasting and most savored thing I'd ever had in my mouth. Don't be shy about performing for extended periods of time. I've given some 45 minute blow jobs. If you still cannot make him hard...talk with him about any anxiety that he might have with your performing fellatio on him. Lastly, if he still has a hard time getting or staying hard, tell him to avoid p*rn because it is de-sensitizing him to things.

  • Ask him to tell you how to give him a blow job. Guys are all different and we like different things. Whatever you're doing might just not be doing it for him. There's more to sucking a penis than just regular and 'deep throating'. Just ask him what he likes in detail.

    ~Distant

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  • just try out different things id say as long as your not bititng I don't think itll hurt I love it when my ex tried new things surpirsie him. also find out if he one them guys that like pain. my roommate(chick) dated this guy that asked her to step on his balls an stuff like that in high heels it was way odd. but hey whatever get em off I guess.

    • haha that chick is weird.

    • yea but still ask him lol never know id never have it like that but never knwo what the guy like...

  • maybe you should start with a handjob and then alternate with some blowjob

  • I agree with ( distant ) just ask him what he likes.

  • Start by touching him and massaging his member until he's good and hard. Then, before diving right in and sucking him, gently lick all up and down his shaft. It's also really nice if you flick the tip of your tongue on his frenulum. That ALWAYS gets a good response!