I can' t orgasm during sex?

I've only had 1 boyfriend in life and he's also my only sexual partner. I feel like I've tried everything. Different positions, role playing, being kinky etc. etc. And I've never been able to have a vaginal orgasm. I've heard this is normal for most women. I've been able to orgasm once when he ate me out for about an hour and it was amazing. But, I know he doesn't want to do that everytime we have sex which I understand. anyway, the sex feels good, but it bothers me he can finish and I can't. And I've dug myself into a hole cause I've faked all my orgasms for about 15 months now. I feel awful for lying but I didn't want to hurt he's feelings. I figured if I actually can vaginally orgasm I won't have to lie anymore. sex is more than just orgasming but cumming once wouldn't hurt 😭. I'm more than willing to try anything. I've been "practicing " non-stop for months now leading to us have sex about 3 times a day, each time something different, but same results. Any tips?
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  • I have found that the key to a female orgasm is for at least myself is being bmvery generous. The man should put the pleasure of his woman before his. I usually like an hour of so of foreplay where I sensitively use my tongue around the clit. there are very interesting and specific movements of my tongue that really create a sensitive sensation, but that's not all. using my mouth and tongue in all areas of the vagina and clot are also essential but they have to have a rythem to it, it's a skill really. while face deep in the clot and vagina it is also important to massage and play with other parts like the nipples, and penetration with my tongue is also effective. Have him practice and do this for about an hour and then mix it up and take turns sucking on each other. from there when he penetrates there are certain angles that are important when having sex. for example, when in missionary position if he props himself up in the right spot his penis with rub against your clot while he fucks you. another tip, during penetration if he rubs your clot while ducking and sucks on your nipples at the same time, that really creates stimulation.

    • sorry for the typos.

  • This should be a lesson to women to never fake orgasms. The guy can't work with you to help you achieve them if he believes you are already having them.

    Orgasm from vaginal alone is not that common. It has been mentioned on here to include clitoral stimulation with fingers or vibrator, which is a great idea. One thing I have always done is to make a point of getting my pubic arch tight against her clitoris, and stimulate it with my movements. Usually works well,

    • Thank you for MHO. :-)

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  • Most women can't orgasm vaginally. I've never been able to, I can squirt but I don't orgasm from that. I'd say just be honest with him and say you can't cum just from penetration, then you can try other things like rub your clit or have him run it while you have sex or use a vibrator on your clit while you have sex. I know it sucks having to tell him but if he doesn't know nothing will change. Good luck Xx

    • u squirt without orgasming?

    • I don't orgasm period

  • hi, its quite normal not to be able to have a purely vaginal orgasm, its more common for women to need clitoral stimulation aswell, so just relax and accept this xx

  • you have to tell him, because if he finishes too early you cannot finish. he would try different techniques on you as well, help you out I'm sure.

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  • You're still too young, hence all the issues. And why wouldn't your boyfriend like to eat you out all the time? If he really liked you he wouldn't mind, he would actually love it

  • You are correct... orgasm from vaginal alone is not that common