I am not comfortable and suck at being on top with my boyfriend. How can I make it better?

[pleasinghim]

I was with the same man for 8 years being 26 that is the majority of my sexual experience. His penis was 10 inches and I was used to his body and how we moved together I was great on top and knew exactly what to do. I have been single for 3 years and have now been seeing someone for 3 months and he is about 6 or 7 inches I know that doesn't sound like a huge difference and he is great in bed but when I get on top I have problems getting it in, keeping it in and do not feel comfortable at all being on top with him. With the size difference it is so hard to work it how I want to. I can't really do the same things as I did before seems like every move I make he's falling out or I am worried about moving to much and he falls out. I really like him he is a great guy I have known him for quit a few years before we got together and I would really like to be able to please him as he does me when he's on top so any advice would really help me. Thank you and only serious answers please

[Panopticus]

Have you thought about changing the "on top' position to the "Scissors" variation? with your man on his back you kneel before him and put one of his legs over your hip and then put your other leg over his other leg as his penis enters you. One of your buttocks will be on his thigh. This makes for deeper and more "locked" coupling [whatever a man's size] and then you can give your whole mind to the enjoyment of the moment. As he must be worried about falling out all the time and maybe losing his erection this position may be far better for the both of you.

Another benefit of this position is that it gives more access to the breasts if the woman is really tall ... or so I have been told by the very tall lady who found this position best by far!

I offer no guarantees as everyone's body size and so-on is different but if it helps then all to the good.

Best of luck.

[pleasinghim]

Wow that sounds like a great position I will definately try that it shoud definately make things easier with the body difference and probably make me not so sefl conscience about it since he too is trying something new great adviec than you very much

[kateakanne]

You can try different positions as panopticus suggested. If your really set on being on top though I have a few suggestions.

Since you're having problems with him falling out when you're on top, its most likely because you are going too high when you pump. You're used to being able to go higher before and you can't go that high now. So my first suggestion is to get into a deeper squat, or widen your knees when you're on top of him so you don't go as high as you did before.

Another suggestion is to not be directly vertical over him. When you're on top and facing him, lean forward a bit, changing the angle. If you're facing away from him on top, then lean back a bit. This should make it that even if it does fall out, it should be able to slip right back in without any break from the pumping.

Hope this helps.

[prettyj]

ok, well a position that always works is riding backwards. because maybe you are either leaning too much forward to him and that's why he falls out. or try squatting over it. this takes tremendous power and strength in your legs, but with practice your thighs, calves and butt will be able to handle it, trust me I could probably kick any door down today! lol. seriously this gives you more control over how much rise and fall you do on him and lessen the falling out issue. ps work them kegals for a better grip! ;)!

[katiesmuff]

Your only problem is adapting to something different. With 10" to work with just about any position you were in on top would work just fine. Now with a more normal guy you need to adjust a little, Little less pumping, sit up more so his penis and your vag are in a more direct route to each other, and slow it down some. Simply said you pretty much want a position on top where your p**** lips are kissing his testicles when you thrust forward.