I don't feel anything when I finger myself?

I'm a virgin, most of the time when I finger myself I don't feel anything, no matter how fast or slow I do it, it feels nothing. I use one finger cause it's all that fits for now, but I'm somehow scared that sex wouldn't be pleasurable. what am I doing wrong?
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  • When I was a virgin that's exactly hat I went through. From what I was told, I wasn't doing anything wrong. I began to play with my clitorous more, and would every few minutes finger myself on and off. It began to feel more pleasurable. Also, it didn't do much for me till I started using two fingers, and making a "come here" motion. It stimulated my G-spot, felt even MORE pleasurable when I added that with playing with my clitorous. So try some different things, and see what you like.

  • I'm the same way, fingering myself does absolutely nothing for me, One finger fits, but I cannot push it very far, but still it doesn''t really feel good or do anything for me, it's just there, but it doesn't help me along at all

    • I have to play with my clit if I want to orgasm, if I do that then I get off no problem

    • have you ever tried with a man,? how does it feel with a guys finger?

    • ha, well I'm in the same boat as you, I'm also a virgin so I wouldn't know. Sorry I can't offer anything more helpful!

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  • As others may have suggested, you should try touching your vulvua and clit and (for now) ignoring your vaginal opening, except maybe to dip a finger in occasionally to keep it moist. You should never try it when you're dry; that'll only make it painful. If you have access to a vaginal lubricant (KY or astroglide or something similar), try that to see if it helps in your masturbatory explorations.

    • I can easily orgasm with clitoris stimulation, it's just that I don't feel pleasure from fingering, it's only pleasurable when I touch my clitoris at the same time. I'm usually wet when I try it so I feel no pain, but no pleasure either.

    • I've only had a few relationships which included sex, but most of those relationships lasted for quite awhile. In all of that time, I've only been with one woman who orgasmed strictly from vaginal penetration (and unfortunately it's not my wife). The rest required a lot of mental and/or clitoral stimulation to get off. You may find that something longer or thicker than your finger would work. A vibrator or dildo might do the trick. But never discount the power of your imagination, either!

  • It could be a matter of position, or mood maybe. I would like to say I know a ton about the subject, but I don't know much about female masturbation. Maybe a girl would be better suited to answer this question. I don't know why everyone here keeps saying "have sex with a guy". I don't really thinks that's necessary, you may just need to practice to find the right spot.

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  • I saw a few answers about your age & being a virgin. Good for you!

    I look at it like this, it's like trying to massage or tickle yourself. It's hard to do.

    Try using some lube & stimulate your clit more.

    • good point, maybe I need the real stuff after all :)

  • try out with a guy...allow him to finger you and c the difference..

    u'll be pleasurable but if it doesn;t work then we shall think..

  • That's what I experience too. What makes it worse is that I don't feel anything with my clit too. I lost feeling on my clit when I was around 12 which is many years ago. I do get really wet and I'm always horny but whenever I masturbate it's not pleasurable and when I overdo it it stings. I'm scared to think that I will not feel anything during sex.

  • you are 25 and older, and still a virgin? just wondering since that is what your age range says, because I'm almost that age

    • I'm 25, and yes a virgin, last time I checked there is a lot of virgin guys and girls here too around the same age , I could lose it if I wanted to, so It's by choice, that doesn't mean I don't get horny.

    • well just asking because it is inspiring when I hear or know of people close to my age that are still a virgin, because I don't like feeling alone, that's a human nature thing, I hate how people say to stop comparing yourself to others, because it is a human nature, human instinct to not want to feel alone, like you are the only one

    • I guess I see what you mean, don't worry you're not alone :)

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  • Try it with a guy who knows how to find the g-spot. Also try right on each side above and below the clit with light touching. Most of the stimulation is around the clit. There is a You spot between the clit and hole too that can be sensitive. You may want to see if one of your guy friends is any good at giving oral.

    • Have you tried to find the G-spot? It is a spongy padded area behind your pelvic bone up towards your clit on the inside. It doesn't sound like you are finding it yet.

    • I tried to find it but couldn't. I heard somewhere that it's easier for the partner to find it.

    • I would love to help you find it if you were local... ;)

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