I don't know if she was asleep when this happened so I'm worried if she thinks I took advantage

I got drunk and I went back with this girl last night, (went back there the night before too) shared a bed but didn't have sex as by the time we got the chance to get to bed she had to up for work in 2 hours. Anyway, early this morning I got a little touchy feely when I woke up a little, we fell asleep with her cuddling me, and this morning I was like semi asleep and I moved my hand from around her waist and started stroking her body, eventually playing with her p**** a bit and fell back asleep again, this happened a few times, and I thought she was awake as she was making noises and she'd turn round and get even more comfy and fall back asleep. But now being completely sober and after thinking back on it I feel like I was taking advantage as this all started when she was still asleep, and this is completely out of character for me. I fell back asleep with my hand down there still, then later I cuddled up to her even more and she held my hand. She didn't say anything when we woke up, and when she got dressed she lay back on the bed and cuddled up to me for a few minutes again, then offered me a lift home. so I'm not sure she minded too much, but I don't know if she was actually asleep or she was fully aware of what was going on when this happened so I keep thinking that I took advantage a bit, and I don't want her to get the wrong impression of me.
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  • Wow ... I'm sorry, but I have to deliver the hard truth. You should feel bad. I know you were drunk, but you weren't aware if she was awake for this or not. The only times that sexual touch should happen is when two people mutually agree that they want to participate. Because you were unsure of her wanting this, you shouldn't have done that. I mean I don't know if she knew about it, maybe she was so drunk she was unaware. There a lot of things you don't know.

    However, the fact that you feel bad means that you know you could've done better. What happend was bad, but it's not on the same level as a guy who preys on drunk girls. I've done a lot of things I regret while drunk. Who knows what her impression is. Apparently she's not disgusted by you. Maybe she was aware of it ... but that's not a question that you should ever have to ask. Next time you spend time with any girl, make sure they are awake.

    • Yes I know and I do feel really bad about it, she wasn't drunk as she hadn't been drinking at all that night, it's hard to explain though as at the time I thought she was fully aware by her reactions to what I was doing, And just after she turned around and hugged me and fell asleep on me again. Its just now I'm looking back on it and thinking what if

    • It's probably not as bad as you think it is. She's apparently not mad at you. Stop beating yourself up about it. It happend, you might have changed a few things, but it sounds like she probably was aware. Next time ... try giving her a kiss, don't go straight for the va-j-j haha.

    • Yeah, I think I'll send her a casual message this evening when she finishes work, I think she will say something to me later after talking to her friend if there is a problem but I just hope I'm making something out of nothing and she was OK with things to begin with as she didn't seem to be off with me at all when I left, even when I kissed her goodbye

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  • I have been in each position before. To me it was no big deal as when you are in bed with another person penises get hard in the middle of the night and breasts get cupped. IF you are not consciously doing it, no big deal. If it was done with the sole purpose of turning her on or getting off or getting a sexual reaction then you should feel guilty.

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  • Sounds like she was cool with it mate.