I don't like foreplay, but my boyfriend does. How do I fix this issue?

As stated above. When we get romantic I just don't feel anything when he's touching and stuff. I like it much better when we get straight to the point. But he doesn't like just getting to the point, he got offended once about it. Fix, if there is one?
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  • In some ways you sound like a guy's dream girl. So many are so easily turned on that they want to get right to the orgasm. Because of this, you sound more like a guy trolling as a girl. However, I think you are honest and will respond to that.

    There are things he can do while having intercourse. If you are doing it doggie style, he can feel your breasts and pubic area as he does it. With some adjustment, if your heights are compatible, he can suck your breasts while in a (modified) missionary position.

    If you two shower together, he can wash your body and enjoy that.

    Questions. When you get right to it, what do you do about lube? If you use artificial lube, wouldn't you rather have your own real lube?

    Doesn't stimulation of your breasts and clit arouse you? I just don't understand why you don't like the foreplay.

    • I don't understand why either, and to be honest no it doesn't. when he touching me I either feel nothing or it's really ticklish. it just feels better when we get straight to it. as for lubrication I'm pretty much always there or just need a quick little rub. I just I just don't have many senses where I should have senses.

  • I'd say YOU need to change. Foreplay is a very important part of sex, and helps build the intimacy between you. Many women can't orgasm by sex alone, and they need a guy's hand or mouth to help them. It's also very pleasurable for the guy to kiss your body, feel it, etc.

    Give it a chance, and try harder to relax. If he is too rough, or moving too fast, make him slow down, but you are REALLY missing out if you don't include foreplay.

    • i know I need to change and that something wrong I just don't know what. the problem is I either feel nothing at all when he's just touching or it tickles, and when I flinch and whimper because it tickles he gets upset, and he obviously gets upset when there's no reaction from me at all, its obvious I'm getting nothing from it and I feel bad because he feels bad. when we just get to it I feel great. even then touching I don't really enjoy it

Most Helpful Girl

  • Maybe you can still do some foreplay but not as much as your boyfriend wants so he gets his foreplay and you get what you want that it's going straight to the point.

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  • Do you masturbate? Is your technique at all unusual?

    What do you enjoy about sex?

    I'm asking seriously, I'd like to give useful advice, but it would help to know ...

    • no often and when I do I usually never touch myself up either, I just get to it, or I hump a pillow.

    • What does 'get to it' mean? Are you stimulating your clitoris, or internal only, or both? Do you enjoy dry humping with him?

    • internal only. and yes I do but that does nothing for him. and sex is for two not for one.

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  • was literally about to ask a question saying that my girlfriend doesn't like foreplay that much and I do, how do I fix it lol

    from our point of view, we're in no rush to finish things. What exact ind of foreplay do you do? does he go down on you? that's the bit of foreplay my girlfriend really likes obviously lol

    • he touches, he goes down, ill do him. but I don't really like any of it. sometimes I like it but majority of the time I don't. it hurts if he touches down there,and sometimes if he goes down. I just don't feel anything. when we get into it then yea I feel it, but not the before

    • maybe take the time to figure out what exactly you like and what he can do to do it better? and hey I guiess I just answered my own question I was gonna have lol

    • there ya go, lol.