I'm embarrassed by my vagina, how can I feel more comfortable about it?

Ok so my labia is really big & saggy and the skin where the pubic hair grows always feels rough, even after shaving. I'm too scared to let my boyfriend finger me because I don't want him to feel how meaty & rough my vagina feels! also I don't know if my discharge is normal it's white but doesn't smell bad... And near the vaginal opening there are some bumps, my doctor said they probably aren't warts and probably just glands... But I'm still worried about it! I'm just really disgusted by my own vagina :( And I know that's not good!
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  • There is NOTHING wrong with being an outie! From what I've heard, men really enjoy it irl.

    As for the other things, there are ways to solve it and feel more comfortable about things.

    Rough skin: Apparently, shaving is what makes the skin rough. The skin outside does normally tend to get "bumpy" once the hair grows back but shaving kind of scratches the top layer (waxing kind of removes it depending on how its done), which can leave it as what we otherwise know to be "ashy." So try waxing. If you want to do it your self, send me a message and I'll walk you through it :D

    Discharge: This is normal, go search up any other symptoms your having just to check that everything is okay. Drink more water and don't use a lot of soap down there.

    The bumps: Go to a gyno and have it LOOKED at, don't just talk to them about it. Its probably nothing. Is it possible (awkward, I know lol) to grab a mirror and see what they look like? Is it just skin? Do they look like pimples? Are there signs of puss?

    Again, take a look and google what you have. If you're still worried see a gyno. Odds are, nothing is wrong!

    Andyou should love your lady bits because they love you :)! hahaha they are made to be loved :P!

  • I have te same kind of labia and my boyfriend loves them. :D he loves licking them. Don't worry hun.

    • Great Advice...and I am no different (in that regard) from your bf...(:

    • Ok what about the other things I'm worried about?

    • That's no big deal. If the guy really likes you he won't care.

Most Helpful Guys

  • How can you feel more comfortable about it. Well... there is approximately one way to get rid of it, and other than that, live with it. If you can, check out the book, Femalia by Joani Blank, Michael Perry, and Michael A. Rosen. It has lots of... images. Okay you don't have to go so far as to buy a book. However, my point is peoples' bodies and body types come in all shapes and sizes. Yeah yeah here I am calling the kettle black or what have you. Trying to be encouraging when I can't get over my own ugliness. If your doctor isn't concerned then MAYBE there's nothing to be concerned about. I know it's difficult for you to accept but consider this:

    If your boyfriend loves you already, he is bound to love ALL of you and will take you as you are.

    Have you discussed your fears with him? He just might be more understanding than you expect!

  • All of that is well within normal. Guys aren't going to be bothered by any of that stuff. They're going to be too happy to have access to you to even think about that stuff

    You are making a huge big deal about nothing. Your discomfort with your body is a much, much bigger turn-off than your vagina could ever be.

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  • Well, I have no labia and I'm fine with that.

    Life goes on.

    • No need to rub it in. You always do that on every labia question I have read. It's like you love to brag about having a p*rn star looking vagina... I don't need to know. Besides I'm not just talking about labia. I am worried about some other things... Pubic hair, dishcharge, bumps on inside of labia minora near the vaginal opening.

    • I'm not rubbing it in. I'm stating a fact, not sorry if it hurts your feelings. My labia is actually "less" common than yours and you know that I think you simply want to hear guys put down other labias to make yourself feel better.

    • Whats the point in telling me you have a small labia? That's not answering my question. I'm not that concerned about my labia, but I am self conscious of it... I'm more worried about the other things.

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  • going by your description it sounds like a venus fly trap plant

    • Lol pretty gross huh

    • most likely it is only "gross" to you. I bet there is nothing wrong with it lol, you girls just worry too much about some things, imo

  • The only things that can bother me about a vagina is its size. Certain sizes are out, but other than that, it's all good.

  • But wait till a guy feels those lips on his cock I promise he will love them and he will cum so hard I like to watch big lip ride my cock makes me sooper horny

  • I love roast beef...and most guys do.

  • It's supposed to look like that (lots of girls have labia like that) and the white stuff is normal, it's supposed to be wet down there. If your boyfriend is really into you he will be very turned on when he feels it and sees it.