I'm fat, and my boyfriend wants me on top when we decide to start having sex?

I would like to know why my boyfriend (skinny) would rather have me than one of the other skinny beautiful women who hit on him? I know he likes my personality, but I need something deeper as to why he likes my body?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I was the same way with my ex boyfriend. When we had sex, and I was on top he noticed I wasn't so into it and I told him it was because I was self conscious and thinking mostly about what he thought of my body from that angle, generally what he was thinking when I was on top and he reassured me I had nothing to worry or be self conscious about and that he thought I looked great, and the worse part is that I was wearing a dress so when I was on top I still pretty much had it on covering my torso, so I was way too self conscious lol I'm not one of those really skinny girls either.

    basically when you like someone for their personality, everything else is irrelevant. You look past what they might consider their flaws or insecurities and you like them, for them and everything about them is perfect, so he obviously doesn't see anything wrong with you.

    Try not to worry about it too much, especially when it happens. You might forget about it and just do it, but if you did what I did then it kind of ruins the moment.

  • OKAY WOMEN. I KNOW WE aren't HAPPY WITH OUR BODYS, BUT THE MEN THAT WE ARE WITH LOVE US NO MATTER WHAT SIZE WE ARE. EVEN KNOW WE SEE FLAWS IN OURSELFS doesn't MEAN THAT HE DOES. WE NEED TO DRY AND PLEASE OUR MAN AND ENJOY IT AND JUST DO IT HE WILL LOVE THAT INSTEAD OF FINDING FLAWS IN OUR OWN MIRROR. JUST GET ON THE COCK AND RIDE FORGET ABOUT IT... HE WILL THANK US LATER

  • I'm in the same boat! My boyfriend says he likes me for my personality and that size doesn't matter,but size (for me) does matter. he's dated bigger girls in the past so I don't know whether to believe him or not! actually his longest relationship was with the biggest girl he dated!

Most Helpful Guys

  • First of all, you need to remember that when it comes to what he finds attractive, it isn't YOUR opinion that counts, but HIS.

    Second, while I will admit that many fat girls aren't attractive, there are plenty of bigger women who rock those curves, and who look just fine and super-sexy with a bit of cushion. Skinny certainly isn't the ONLY thing that's attractive.

    Third, many bigger girls have big boobs, and when the girl is on top, her boobs are usually right in her guy's face. if he's into big boobs, that might be heaven for him. And similarly, many guys absolutely LOVE a big ass on a woman, and so they love doggy style and reverse cowgirl where they can see it. The girl might think "I can't do that, my ass is too fat" while the guy is thinking "JACKPOT!" It's all about perspective. And you can't tell someone what THEY are supposed to like, or argue with them about it. Guys like what they like, and every guy is different.

    • thank you

  • A lot of guys like to be on bottom as it makes it easier for them to maintain endurance and free up their hands. As far as you weight goes guys who like big girls live the visual of all of you on top of them... its every guys dream to be somewhat raped by a large woman. That's a fantasy all guys who like robust women have... not necessarily a Dom sub thing... it is just great to have a partner do enthusiastic that she gets on top and gives it to you like its all that matters in life... that's the deal.

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  • If you are fat..

    and he likes you more then the skinny hot girls..

    I'd say he has a thing for fatties...

  • why don't you try asking him

  • In my experience, a girl's definition of "fat" is far different from the physical definition. That being said, no matter what you look like, your dude seems cool with it, so f*** away like the rabbits you both are.

  • He might just like you for you. So he doesn't care about the other women hitting on him. To him you are probably beautiful. So don't question it if its going good and he likes you. Don't try and find something wrong with it. Enjoy it. And if he wants you on top during sex he must like it. Don't worry about him if he wants it then itmust feel good.

    • thank you

  • HE WANTS YOU! Why question it? Don't question it and start accepting who you are.

  • Are you actually fat, or do you just think you are? Besides, even if you are fat, maybe your boyfriend is just a chubby chaser.

  • Why question it? He likes it.

  • Some guys are into girls with more meat on them. Not everyone likes skinny girls. Just enjoy yourself and don't worry about it :)